Some evenings when my husband gets home from work, I say a quick “Hi!” and then escape up to my room for a few minutes of quiet. With four children, even good days feel like long days, and usually by 6:00 p.m. I’m craving a break from hearing “Baby Shark” on Alexa, my kids asking me a thousand questions, or handing out the five-hundredth snack of the hour.
Other days, my husband walks in the door and I start listing off every single thing I did that day, sometimes coupled with why other things didn’t get done.
- We went to the park.
- I didn’t get a chance to do the dishes.
- I got those forms filled out for preschool.
- I didn’t get the laundry folded.
- The boys already had a bath because they played in the mud . . . again.
My husband regularly asks me how my day went, but he doesn’t ask for a report on my to-do list. Yet, I still feel the need to share it. I have this innate desire to spill out every little detail of how my day went.
Why do I do this?
However, lately I’ve realized I do this because I just want someone to notice.
Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or a woman working in a corner office, much of what you do goes unnoticed, doesn’t it? Even if your job requires you to be on stage and ends with literal applause, people still don’t see behind the curtain. They don’t see the hours of preparation or the tears you’ve cried or the late nights spent in meetings.
It’s not like I want a big trophy or a ceremony in my honor. But, at times, I do so desperately want to feel seen. What I do on a daily basis can feel lonely and isolating and, if I’m not careful, my desire to be seen and noticed can lead to unhealthy habits — like overworking, social media addiction, or people-pleasing.
The need to be noticed isn’t all bad. We’re not meant to live in isolation — we were created to live in community and to share our lives with others. But, the truth is, it is easy to forget that what we do at home or during our workdays or even while we’re on summer vacation does, in fact, get noticed.
Hebrews 6:10 ESV says, “For God is not unjust so as to overlook your work and the love that you have shown for his name in serving the saints, as you still do.”
The writer of Hebrews calls his readers to move from an infant faith to maturity, reminding them that God sees the work they do, and that it’s evidence of the faith they have. He reminds them to keep going and, later on, calls them to remember the hope they have in what is to come and how, through faithfulness and patience, they’ll inherit what God has promised.
In the meantime, we, too, are to faithfully live and work just like the original readers of Hebrews, loving God and loving others in ways both large and small — even when no one sees.
Friends, God sees our faithfulness. He knows the ways we serve our families through menial work, how we honor our co-workers at our day jobs, when we care for those who may not be able to express their appreciation, and our kindness shown to strangers.
God sees it all.
Fruthermore, the apostle Paul tells us that, because of the resurrection of Jesus, our “labor in the Lord is not in vain” (1 Corinthians 15:58). The ways in which we show love to others, contributing to human flourishing, and the faithful work we do for God and His kingdom will not be demolished. Instead, our labor will be a part of the new creation that has already started through Christ.
So keep going — even if no one notices, even if no one sees. Because all that you do really is seen by a God who loves you and who will one day bring your faithfulness to fruition.
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I think we all feel this way to some degree, to have our hard and earnest work seen and acknowledged! I find the season I am in I am having to hide my pain and suffering and I so desperately wish I could just let it show for a minute so someone would notice and give me a hug.
Susan,
Sending many hugs your way!!
Blessings 🙂
I think we all feel this way to some degree, to have our hard and earnest work seen and acknowledged! I find the season I am in I am having to hide my pain and suffering and I so desperately wish I could just let it show for a minute so someone would notice and give me a hug.
I am sending you a hug, Susan. I can so relate! May God’s comforting arms wrap around you today and always!! You matter!
Dear Sarah……………What a delightful subject you wrote about today. I am a soon to be 78 retired after 45 years as a supervisor/manager for a very large corporation. I worked many hours, but I was fortunate to have my VPs notice what I did and I was rewarded for that, but I think things are not that way anymore. Things have changed so much since I was in the workforce. I am now living in a Senior Resident Facility with 100 people. My now ex-husband has a violent form of dementia and he tried to kill me. I had to get him out of the house or his doctors told me the next time he will kill you and not remember 5 minutes later as the doctors had asked me if there were guns in the house and there were many as my husband was an avid hunter. I had to sell our house as we both needed money to pay our bills at these places. This is where I can really relate to your words. I help as many people as I can here, but does anyone notice it? No! They are locked in their offices with the door closed and the lights off so we think they are not here. They treat us like we have no minds and truly don’t want to know what is really going on. I have been here almost 2 years now and have 2 sets of managers come and go. The women that are in these positions now have had no experience in management jobs and what it requires. There are also a lot of people here that do not like me because of how I dress, if you can believe that. I have no hearing loss so as I am going across the floor to our table in the dining room, I hear the criticism they say about me. It upsets me, but then I remember God saying, I am what I am! This is what I have to tell myself every day. I do so appreciate your devotion and the encouraging words that I will think of. ” God sees it all” and that is all I need to know. They don’t know the heartbreaking things I am dealing with as I always try to go with a smile on my face. Thank you Sarah and I send my love and appreciation to you and your words as the (in)courage women keep me going and moving forward. I do so feel that God sent all of you as our Angels to help whatever we are going through. Wishing you a blessed weekend………………..Betsy Basile
Sarah,
Often times I wonder if my husband recognizes ALL the things I do both at work & home. Spontaneously he will come hug me & thank me. That means the world to me.
Years ago my aging dad was in assisted living. He was having trouble eating his lunch, hands trembling. I offered to feed him & he said yes. While doing so the man to the right of us said “You will get stars in your crown for this.” Wow!! I knew right there that God saw me.
Blessings 🙂
Very timely and to the point. I can absolutely relate! Thanks so much for sharing and reminding us that we are seen by God – ALWAYS!
Sarah love all you said in today devotion. I get like that were I think my work goes on noticed. Especially when doing my Dad’s home for him Monday to Friday as he has Dementia. I get no praise for my family my sister’s at times. Hardly ever out it from my Dad before he took Dementia. My Dad just saw me as his daughter round to do his house because he couldn’t do it. Then when he did give me praise I was elated. As my Dad is not the person and has never been all my life a person to give praise for you doing something nice for him. Even when at school. My Dad not saved just was a man thinks of himself as long as he was ok. All these things hurt in my life. I pray for my Dad’s salvation. As I want nothing from my Dad as he is 84 years old. When his time up on earth. The best thing my Dad could leave me is to know he is saved. I will see him glory one day. That would mean the world to me. He knows I pray for him. He just laughs of even with his Dementia and before having it. But I have told my Dad before he got diagnosed with Dementia I will never stop praying for his salvation. But I am thankful that my Dad did send me and my sister’s to Sunday School as that is were I first heard about Jesus. My Dad just sent us along with my late Mum because of was the done thing when I was growing up. Through my Dad sending me I went on through Scripture Union is School. I think to ask Jesus to be my saviour. So my Dad did do something right for me and my late Mum. As without sending me to Sunday I don’t think I be saved today. But God told me one day Dawn your works doesn’t go on noticed that you do for me for the Love of your Dad and me. Even though your Dad might not see or appreciate it. I do God told me one day. My Dad before his Dementia got the way it is today. Days he ok and days not. I told him I do his house for the Love of the Lord and him. Thank you for everything you wrote today. All in my prayers incourage and your families. Dawn Ferguson-Little Enniskillen Co.Fermanagh N.Ireland xx
“… if I’m not careful, my desire to be seen and noticed can lead to unhealthy habits — like overworking, social media addiction, or people-pleasing.” Such a good point.
I definitely see myself in these words. Thanks for sharing them.