I remember how the fans whirred as the afternoon heat picked up that day. January is dry season in Cambodia, and every day I was there, the temperatures rose from a comfortable, cool, seventies, to a dry nineties by the afternoon. I resisted the urge to fan myself that day, and settled into the feel of heat rising under my skin.
I was sitting on a plastic chair, in a room above a restaurant called Green Mango Café, in Battambang City, watching a group of young Cambodian women graduate from culinary school. For the 15 months prior, these women from rural villages throughout the Battambang province had been part of the Center for Global Impact’s Culinary Training Center. Not only were these women trained as chefs and businesswomen in the café and restaurant below, they also took general education and spiritual formation classes. I also witnessed evidence of the galvanizing gift of community and confidence that showed with their lifted chins and wide smiles — parts of the program that aren’t as easy to list on paper but just as powerful as any classroom training.
These young women are daughters and sisters — like you and me, like our daughters or sisters — and each of them is worthy of anything you and I or our own daughters or sisters or mothers are worthy of. However these young women in particular come from an area where girls and women are vulnerable to human trafficking in ways many of us haven’t experienced.
Center for Global Impact’s mission is to bring the gospel of Jesus to those in the grip of poverty and bondage by practically providing pathways out of poverty. This is done through education, life skills, spiritual formation, and vocational training. Of course, I supported this work before I traveled to Cambodia, but after bearing witness to the very real lives this work has impacted over the last 15+ years, I now find my heart irrevocably tied to the women I met and this land of limes and tuk-tuks, and a deep warmth and hospitality I’ve rarely experienced in other places.
On the day before the graduation, I joined the American and Cambodian CGI staff team in visiting some of the students’ homes. From remote dirt-floor village homes surrounded by palm trees to a rented room nestled down a narrow alleyway behind urban businesses, I was overcome with how the women I encountered had such similar hopes and dreams as mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends as myself and the women I know and love in my regular life. And I was struck with the reality of how extreme poverty and the brutality of history can keep anyone barred from these same hopes and dreams.
I am not Cambodian, but I am the daughter of a Korean immigrant mother, who lived in the aftermath of colonization and war, and grew up in extreme poverty. I wrote about her story in my memoir, Tell Me the Dream Again. My mom grew up without food and then food became how she colored my own upbringing with love. It’s not lost on me that God would use what was so painful and the place of so much lack in her younger life to later feed and nourish my entire life.
I saw my mother’s face in the faces of the young women who graduated that day in Battambang. I imagined her having had the same opportunities these women did – training, community, education, spiritual formation, love, dignity, and care.
A little over ten years before I was born, our nation secretly carpet-bombed Cambodia. What was said to be an effort to contain Communism, and kept secret until the year 2000, is what led to anywhere from twenty-four thousand to a million Cambodian deaths, according to records. Entire villages, families, and neighborhoods were wiped out. Aside from the death of civilians in a neutral country, the attack also created fear, extreme vulnerability, and distrust. Many historians believe this is exactly what led Cambodians into the arms of the Khmer Rouge and eventually what led to the Cambodian genocide.
While we can’t go back and change the past, we can remember, learn from it, and work towards repair and a better tomorrow. There is so much going on in the world today, and much of it leads me to want to despair and cry out to Jesus, “How do I find you here?”
But what if there’s no better moment and place than the one we are in, to reach out and remember how connected we were created to be: to one another and Jesus? What if Jesus is right here, next door, and thousands of miles away? Your neighbor’s flourishing next door and in another culture means your flourishing. And your flourishing, wherever you are, is tied to hers. What if our communal flourishing is the flourishing of Christ?
I held back a waterfall of ugly tears as I saw my young mom in each woman standing tall with a chef hat, a bouquet of flowers, chef tools, and a deep sense of pride and accomplishment that day. Their flourishing meant my own. Their hope for the future gave me hope as I imagined my kids’ futures thousands of miles away from that graduation.
Perhaps God’s good work through us exists outside of time. If so, whatever I can do to support these women is for each of these women and the communities they are connected to, and it’s also for my young mom of yesterday, for me and my family today, and for everyone I’m connected to — which is also you, dear reader.
Whose flourishing and need can you offer your hands and hope to right now?
A beautiful story and reminder that no matter how divided some in our society would have us believe we are, there is truly much more love and hope that unites us.
Thank you, Maura
Tasha,
Thank you for sharing your story… You write beautifully
Sending you springtime joy,
Lisa Wilt.
Lisa, thank you. Sending that right back to you.
Tasha loved today devotion you wrote. Yes we are all created for florshing in God’s way that is best for us. As no one knows us better than God. As you said we can’t go back to the past but we can learn from that how true that is. Look to repair it. I done that with my family. As I had to forgive them for things that did as family that were wrong. With it I told the person even though it hurt at the time what they did to another family member. They because they are not saved ever said sorry for hurting someone I love no longer here when alive by what they done. I now do there home help by tidying there home for them. I told them as one time they said something to me. I said even though they are not saved. If I not forgiven you I wouldn’t be doing your house the days I do it for you. I do it for the Love of the Lord and you. I will keep on praying for you I told them. All I want from this person before they leave earth one day. That is to see them won and saved for God’s kingdom. I will never stop praying for them they know that because I have told them. I go in the Love of the Lord and them to do their home Monday to Friday as they are not able anymore. So I learn to do what Jesus would do that is love them no matter what and heal everything for a better tomorrow. I done that all the time doing there home for them in the Love of the Lord. But now I forgiven them yes I will never forget what they did. But it easier to do their home for them. Show them the love of Jesus. I will never stop praying for them to come to Jesus like me. God knows my heart is genuine for them to come to know Jesus. No better present could they leave me expecting to know they are going to Glory one day to be with Jesus. I have to keep trusting God that my prayer for them to get saved will be answered one day. As I read a few years ago in another Daily reading. We’re a mother prayed for her son to get saved over 20years. One day he saw the Daily reading on the Kitchen table and her son got saved. So that story gives me hope never to stop praying for my family member to come to know the Lord. Even if I have to wait years for it happened and trust God it will happen. I will keep doing that and never stop praying for them. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little Enniskillen Co.Fermanagh N.Ireland xx
Dawn, thank you for sharing that with us.
I think the biggest thing is just showing up for one another and being there to support one another. It can mean a great deal and could lead to a ripple effect. We can show up in little and big ways even through our every day life and routines.
Yes, that matters. May we have eyes to see one another and respond.
Tasha, I have goosebumps. This is a powerful reflection, and I’m bookmarking it to reflect on deeper this Lent. I love how Robin Wall-Kimmerer says that all flourishing is mutual, and you tie this so intimately to the Body of Christ. When I think that we were each called by God to this time and place, and no other, I find the strength to rise again. Thank you.
Yes, yes, yes—I love how Robin Wall-Kimmerer says that too, and Lilly Watson’s words, “If you have come here to help me you are wasting your time, but if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.” And of course, how our creator God speaks the same thing through Jeremiah when he tells his exiled community to pray for and seek the peace and prosperity their enemies—that their peace and prospering is bound together. Whew. A word I keep needing.
Thank you for this stunning answer to “who is my neighbor?” I needed that reminder.
Amen-me too, KC.