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  1. I was going to say the same thing your friend did. I don’t struggle with weight but I have felt “less than” lots of times, due to other things.
    No one should look down on anyone, because if we admit it, we ALL have something we struggle with. Yours might be weight, your friend’s is anxiety, someone else may struggle with anger, cursing, drinking, etc, And sin is sin in the eyes of God. Why must people make gluttony worse?

  2. Wise words. It would be nice if people, especially Christians, would remember everyone has some thing they struggle with.

  3. This hit home with me as a single woman, never married and no children. All my married friends look at my life as perfect, since I don’t have to deal with a challenging husband, or the responsibilities of children and/or grandchildren. They don’t see my loneliness and sadness of never being a mother constantly in my face at every turn. They don’t understand sleeping alone, living alone, and the insecurities, fear and anxieties of an empty house.
    My best friend (who is married) and I realized it all deals with being content in your circumstances. Even though our lives are polar opposites we are constantly challenged with the same thing: contentment within our life’s circumstances. She wants my life and I wanted hers because we didn’t fully understand the depth of the challenges we face daily, we only saw the tip of the iceberg. Paul tells us in Philippians 4:11-13 how it is Christ who helps us through these life struggles. The struggles for me also include the profiling judgements others heap on me as their reason I am single or why I should be happy without a husband and children! Wedding and Baby Showers are the toughest because I never experienced my own wedding or understand the detailed happenings within childbirth. Those are the worst isolated group conversations ever. But that’s a discussion for another time.

    • Judy,

      Thank you for sharing your testimony here. Know that God & we here at In Courage love you no matter your current situation. Yes life is all about perspective.

      Blessings 🙂

    • So beautiful ate your words and your heart. Thank you for being so vulnerable. I can completely relate to what you’ve shared. Thank you.

  4. Very insightful, Kathi! Your story got me to wondering which of my many flaws is my “gift”? Is it my overweight-ness or my introverted-ness or is it my perfectionism? I will ponder on this a bit.

  5. This touched my heart. I have struggles/flaws that are not visible. Every day they are present. But God. He is using them as I share understanding with those who have similar struggles.
    Your writing encourages me to own who I am.

  6. I just texted a friend who had a similarly niche struggle as I did, “let’s connect. Our weakness is a shortcut to connection.”

    Thank you for your words!!!

  7. Thank you for sharing your struggles with the (in)courage readers! a person’s weight is very visible and for some odd reason people seem to think it is perfectly acceptable to make negative comments regarding another’s weight. I am sorry that has been a struggle for you and so many others.

    growing up I was told way too many times that i was too: thin tall, shy, fair skinned, sensitive, picky (including picky eater….hence being too thin)…..the list goes on and on. even when my mom was well into her dementia years she still remembered to comment on how pale my legs were!

    i spent 50+ plus years being a very harsh critic of myself because of the voices planted in my little girl brain.

    I understand your struggles and thank you for wanting to support others through theirs.

    • Skin color and nationality are another one of those things that causes people to be treated differently. I have milk chocolately skin and my hubby just loves it. Jesus created each and every one of us. He created each one of us uniquely. He don’t make no junk. And at the end of the day…..we are ALL……..sinners saved by grace.

  8. Kathi,

    Thank you for sharing your testimony here. Everyone has some thing they struggle with. Some are more visible than others. I have a church friend who can’t speak at all. We connect through sign language. Just because people seem normal on the outside doesn’t mean there isn’t some battle they are waging inside. Like Becky said: “Assumptions are barriers to connection, but stories are bridges to understanding.” Showing up with our stories and a healing dose of love and grace was the invitation we both needed to enter into each other’s circles. Let’s all show up with love & grace for everyone!

    Blessings 🙂