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Becky is an author, speaker, Bible teacher, mom of three loud boys, and the Community and Editorial Manager for (in)courage. She loves writing about anxiety, motherhood, and the kindness of God. Long naps, shady trails, and a good book make her really happy.

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  1. As someone praying for reconciliation, I can’t even begin to tell you how much this story meant to my aching heart this morning. Thank you! Thank you so much!

  2. Piggy backing Angela as someone praying for reconciliation with our adult son. Your story brought both laughter and tears.
    Sometimes I feel like reconciliation is for someone else but not for our family. It’s been so, so long. But God….. His timing and not mine.
    Thank you for sending along a bit of encouragement Becky.

    • Dee, the waiting, the praying, the waiting…. it’s so heartwrenching (sometimes heart-hardening) hard. I get it. So does our Lord. Keep leaning on Him, putting your hope in Him. He is worthy of our trust!

  3. Dee,
    Like you, I’m praying for reconciliation with our adult son and have for many years. The estrangement epidemic of our times is far reaching.

    I do believe, also like you, this is God’s timing. I know His divine hand is in these circumstances and found encouragement in Becky’s wisdom. Thank you,Becky!


  4. In between the lines were many stories of hurt. In her writing she did not have to give specifics to know this is true,
    Thankful for her and her family’s willingness to include her dad for thanksgiving. I hope many thanksgivings to come and peace and healing came.

    • Thank you, Bethanna. My dad has been gone now for many years… but he did join us for every holiday meal from that first Thanksgiving until his death. Only Jesus could make a way where there was none.

  5. Wow Becky! Reading this was like reading my own personal story and situation that happened to me between my divorced and quarrelsome parents. Your story and situation was almost exact to mine, especially the part about the wedding. My parents did not have any communication with each other. They never wanted to speak to each other. Never had nice words to say and a second marriage for my dad caused a lot of that. But even though I saw the issues, I remained loving and kind to both of my parents, and even though my dad’s second wife at times made things hard, I kept quiet and respectful for the sake of the relationship with my Father.
    Long story short Christmas day 2019 both my mom and my dad broke bread with us at my dining room table. My dad’s second wife passed away, and my dad moved back to the state both my mom and I both lived in and actually moved into the same apartment building that my mom lived in which was also right down the street for me. Over 40 years of alot of negative feelings and emotion and unspoken and not so gentle spoken words, we were all given back as a blessing to me my mom and my dad as they both agreed peacefully and on their own accord to have Christmas dinner at my home and much to my surprise and my husbands, they spoke as if those 40+ years never existed. Instead, they shared memories conversation about current times and all in all an absolutely beautiful and amazing meal and holiday celebration. Unbeknownst to any of us that was both of my parents last Christmas on this earth as they both passed away a few months later in 2020 and so Becky, I look back on that day as you said in your story, a miracle and a blessing. And he reminds me of Romans 8:28 “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God”
    Thank you for sharing your story it allowed me to get back on my knees and praise and thank God again for that beautiful day I call a miracle
    God Bless!

    • Wow, Susen. Thank you for sharing your story too! God, indeed, works all things together for our good! I’m so sorry for the passing of both of your parents, yet thanking God with you for the miracle you got to witness this side of heaven. The last time I saw my dad before his sudden death was Christmas 2011… another gathering with my whole family. The grief and gratitude persist…

  6. How sweet to see kindness win ! I am so thankful for good people allowing God to direct their decisions even when their has been a past of hurt. It’s so difficult for some people to say, I was wrong and I am sorry. I apologize to you and ask you to forgive me. In the place of sadness and pain, we can place kindness and a new beginning.

    I love seeing my three girls. Now that they are sweet young adults, I see them two at a time and almost never three at a time unless we are on FaceTime.

    When they were all very young and in school, they were always making plans to go somewhere and be with their individual friends. Where did the time go so swiftly? I miss those days a lot. I listen much better these days because I value hearing from my girls.

    Thank You Lord for allowing me to become a mother.

    A Mother Who Loves God

  7. Oh how your story brought tears to my eyes Becky! My husband and I had 3 girls. We separated, divorced and I was the one who remarried. Turned out to be a bad decision, as my 2nd husband was abusive. But God kept me safe. I stayed almost 5 years and then he died. I met a wonderful Christian man and he and I have been able to have Christmas and Thanksgiving dinners together with my first husband and my daughters. I sat between them at my youngest daughter’s wedding. Was it awkward at times? You bet! My girls have said though, many times, we are so thankful that you and dad can get along. God is good. Miracles can happen.

  8. Lord bless you as new holiday dinners come up & hopefully each one brings more blessings & peace.
    I enjoy your messages so much & am encouraged to see miracles in your life thru this reconciliation of your parents.

    Happy Thanksgiving to you & your family!

  9. This reminder is timely and welcomed- thank you!

    Similar situations are evident all around us and touch us.

    Our family is blessed snd challenged with estranged relationships and the baby steps we are taking to bring reconciliation are a reminder that God is so good and even in pain teaches us how to love each other as He loves us!

    I am continually amazed at what He does — eternally grateful!

  10. Absolutely Beautiful, Your story sounds like me & my ex with our children… Thanks for sharing ❤️

  11. Becky,

    God can work miracles in our lives. He can soften & change hearts. Praising God for the miracle you got that Thanksgiving & the many more that came after.

    Blessings 🙂

  12. Thank for sharing this post, Becky. I always imagined you to have a “perfect life” and was a bit jealous that my life was not so “perfect”. And I felt my lack of a “perfect” life would effect my ability to be an earnest follower of Jesus. Thank you for exposing part of your story and for making yourself so relatable to others. reading this was a Holy Moment for me.

    • Oh, sister. Perfection is such a myth! The enemy is so good at trying to disqualify us with the belief that others have it better, easier, etc. God sees the heart and He is so delighted that you are His! Thank you for being here, Geralyn, and for sharing so honestly. I appreciate you! And I’m praising God for His good timing and His ability to take our broken pieces and make something beautiful.