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Jen encourages women to embrace both the beauty and bedlam of their everyday lives at BeautyandBedlam.com. A popular speaker, worship leader, and author of Just Open the Door: How One Invitation Can Change a Generation, Jen lives in North Carolina with her husband, five children, and a sofa for anyone...

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  1. Oh Jen, such true words stepping on my toes! I think of the girl that doesn’t return my texts or calls & I wearied of trying. I gossiped about her signing up for our group study but then never engaged or came. My pride is hurt that I hear she’s engaged in another group. Why not mine? But I pursued her as Christ pursues us laying the foundation for her to respond in His perfect timing. Responding to Him, not Ruth. I should rejoice not feel rejected. It makes room for the next girl that needs pursuing to be drawn to Jesus. In God’s economy I need to pick up the phone for incoming & outgoing calls. His best is always awaiting! Blessings (((0)))

    • HA! Yes, I mentioned to my daughters that I may step on some toes, but mine were jumped on first, I guarantee. So glad to hear you’ve shifted your perspective with the bible study girl and are pointing others to Jesus as you model that.

  2. I am guilty of not wanting to step outside my comfort zone. I’m an easy going person until things are not easy for me.

    I don’t like to fail at things. I don’t like being chosen last on the committee. I don’t like being told that the position is already filled. I don’t like saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I don’t like the feeling of disappointment. And I really, really don’t like disappointing others. I let someone down, they must feel awful. I didn’t intend to hurt their feelings. I am so sorry.

    I really enjoy making people smile. I like to smile. Babies make me smile and I really like how they make me feel, they need my attention and I don’t mind helping them to grow.

    God made me with a certain bent. I’m sorry about some things I believed that were not true about people. For example, they are too busy to stop and talk with me now. They don’t want me to interrupt them now. Maybe they don’t know a lot of people who look like me. I hope I don’t make them uncomfortable because I am different from them. I like different kinds of music, pets and things. I don’t have family finances from my grandparents. I’m not a playful type person ordinarily. I don’t like to take risks. Do I still qualify to be a true Christ Follower? Yes, I do. God is so kind and loving that He will help shape and mold my character into the likeness of my Lord and Savior, Jesus.

    You are valuable and important to God.


    • Brenda –
      Thank you for sharing your perspective. We’ve all been guilty of getting out of our comfort zone. Some just don’t admit it but I love how open you are here and I know the Lord is using you in mighty ways..

  3. Awesome. This message is so simple ,but needed. I will save this on my phone because I want to be reminded of what the heart of Jesus is and looks like. This story sums it up. I think about the story of Jesus sitting and having dinner with the notorious people,tax collectors,and the religious people judging him. Thank you for opening up and sharing this awesome and much needed story.

  4. Sometimes People want to be friends with us and sometimes they don’t. I the person who people don’t really want to be my friend. Even if they are not married I am. I tried to make friends with a friend of mines friend. So as we all could be friends. This friend that is friend with my friend didn’t want to know. Both of them are not married. The only three friends I have are not married. They are so good to me. Even though I don’t see them that often. They email and text me to see how I am keep in touch with me that way. Because of where they live and their busy life styles I don’t get to see them that often. But they care alot about me. Keep me in pray. But the one friend that I have that I wanted to be friends with her friend that didn’t want to be friends with me. I was sad she is single. I thought why when the others are single too. They are friends with me. They don’t mind I am married. They love me for who I am. They love being friends with me. I took a long time to accept that this person didn’t want to be my friend. So I had to accept it and move on. My friend that is friends with her. Was sad that her friend didn’t want to get to know me. I said because we are all saved. Don’t let it stop you being friends with her. Because you and her her on so well she thanked me for saying that. We can will still be friends. Meet up every so often when you are not seeing your friend that does not want to be friends with me. That he choice and her Loss. If I saw that person I always say hello to her even if she didn’t say it back. I do it because to show her I nothing against her not wanting to be my friend. I have forgiven her which is the right thing to do in Jesus eyes. No one else has ever want to be my friend. I don’t know why. But I have the best friends in my Husband and the the 3 friends I hardly ever see. Plus the most important best friend of all that is Jesus my saviour. I would change anything in my life. As I am the only one in my family along with my Husband saved. Not even my elderly Dad is saved so. I pray for their salvation. Love today’s reading. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little Enniskillen Co.Fermanagh N.Ireland xx in my prayers

    • Thank you for sharing, Dawn. What a gift of friendship we have in Jesus. I’m so grateful He picks us every time even when others don’t. IT also sounds like you have a wonderful best friend in your husband. What a gift.

  5. Jen,

    It is easy to “pretend” we are too busy to return a call or talk with someone new at church or in neighborhood. Truth is we just don’t want to extend the effort it would take. If we are truly to live like Jesus & model Him down here we must be willing to step out of our comfort zone. For instance I volunteer at Loaves & Fishes Food Bank on Fridays. We never know what kind of people will come through for food boxes & meals. All the volunteers represent varying backgrounds. Yet we come together to spread God’s light & love in this sin darkened world. We’ve even had a few commitments to Christ. The big bonus for me is getting to be around & talk with others.

    Blessings 🙂

  6. This is so beautiful and straightforward. I can definitely relate, it used to be hard for me to engage with groups inside or outside of the church because I was so shy and too comfortable with the familiar. But recently God has called me out of that familiarity and now I am doing stuff I dreamed of but never thought I could because it was out of my comfort zone. I’m not sure how to explain it but I guess because I have grown in my relationship with Jesus I want to be more like him and the Holy Spirit is changing my desires, He is changing my heart, He is softening it and giving me a heart for people. Now I want to be serving and sharing about Jesus with others and I know that He is with me.

  7. Thank you, Jen. May God use your words to encourage, embolden, and gift others into both giving and receiving friendship.

    I was the “weird” kid in school and in church. I was socially awkward, poorly dressed, and from a broken, highly dysfunctional family. Academic study was easy for me, but interpersonal interaction was not. I was without friends. I was bullied from elementary school through high school. And I was ignored at church.

    I was lonely. But I never quit trying to give and receive friendship.

    I married poorly, but was given two fantastic sons.

    In my early-thirties I found my place in this world. I began teaching at a college. Soon thereafter I became an EMT and then an RN serving in ground and air ambulances. A few years later I became a Director of Nurses. And somewhere along the way, the solace, the beauty and the hilarity of friendship became mine.

    My story, therefore, is like that of all people: filled with joy and sorrow. I have been blessed equally with demanding, character-building circumstances and the comfortably mundane, I have known toil and rest, confusion and discovery, loneliness and acceptance. I have stood amazed at the glories of this world. I have sat in the ashes of dearly held dreams. And I have, by the grace of God and the kindness of friends, stood again.

    I am now elderly. My days are quiet. The busyness of the early years has given way to a settled satisfaction in the humbleness of daily living. And it is in this peaceful place that I practice the craft of writing and the gift of hospitality, and continue a war of wits with marauding deer intent upon making a salad bar out of my porch plants here in the rugged Hill Country of Central Texas.

    Thank you, Jen, for allowing opportunity for this life review. Please continue to encourage yourself and others to see the value in deliberate friendship.

    • I’m sitting in my hotel room after sharing to a group of women and just opened to your comment on this post.

      Thank you for sharing your gift of words with us as you share a bit of your life review. I feel honored to get a glimpse into your different seasons and now celebrate the ways the lord uses your gifts as you journeyed through so much. Much love to you ❤️

      • (((((Jen)))))

        Thank you.

        And much love to you as well. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” Romans 15:13.