About the Author

At (in)courage, we empower women to be like Jesus. Our writers share what’s going on in their life and how God’s right in the middle of it. They bring their joys & struggles so that you can feel less alone and be empowered by the hope Jesus gives.

(in)side DaySpring: things we love
& you will too!
Find more at DaySpring.com
(in)side DaySpring:
things we love
& you will too!
Find more at
Recent Posts

Reader Interactions


  1. The most toxic people in my life are my own children. First my daughter, then my son suddenly stopped communicating with me. I called, wrote and reached out in numerous ways, to no avail. The last encounter with my daughter was one of her spewing hateful words to me and her storming out. To this day, I do not know what has made her hate me so. My grief has never ceased, though I know my God loves me.

  2. Thank you Bonnie for this excellent reading that you wrote. I had a person in my life that I helped in my life because I wanted to help because I love them. I wanted to help them on to the Lord and because I Love them Bonnie. I still help them. But they can go to far to try and push the boundaries and want me to alot more for them and say oh you have the rest of the day free you can you do this for me too. They not think of asking other family to help them as well. I have to say say no I do enough for you. I go Monday to Friday to help do their house for them. I love doing it for them on to the Lord and Love for them. But they think I do this extra we job of Ironing as well. When I tidy their house. I have to think no. God told me I do enough. They have other family to do it for them. You are kind to do it in Love of me for them. God has told me not to get into row with them over it. As very so often they do this. See will they get you to change say yes you do it. They are not saved. They think because you are saved you should be that we bit more caring and doing it for them along with the rest of it. But you are doing it all in Love for the Lord and Love of them all you do. I do enjoy it. I do enough tidying their home. They are elderly can’t do it themselves. What you wrote helped me alot Bonnie. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xx keeping you all incourage in prayer

  3. Bonnie – I read your first book, finding spiritual whitespace, and related to your relationship with your mom. thank you for working so hard to inform others of all that you have learned through your healing journey.

    Be well,


  4. The SOONER we realize and understand the importance of your opening paragraph, the better off we’ll be in a healing journey from toxic people. Your opening paragraph is a game changer because it starts the process of freeing us from the toxicity we’ve endured.

    That’s my two cents! I mean it with full sincerity though.

  5. Bonnie,

    Thank you for writing such a personal post. We need to understand just how much God loves us regardless of how others treat us.
    “Because of Jesus, I don’t have to stay stuck in the painful and destructive patterns of my past.” He understands us better than we can think or fathom. He was fully man & fully God. Jesus meets us where we are and invites us to a new life in Him. Thanks again for the tips.

    Blessings 🙂

  6. Thank you Bonnie. God bless you for sharing… Thank you for the healthy ways “to make different choices that break old, hurtful patterns” We can pray for “hurtful people in our lives so that they, too, can face the truth of their brokenness” with God by their side. I once read “we have to stop blaming our scars and bleeding blood on the people that didn’t cut us.” I sometimes forget the brokenness and hurtful memories in people I love takes time to heal and I don’t have all the answers, but someone They reach out to possibly can!
    Have a blessed Saturday \0/

  7. Thank you for this Bonnie! I think we have a very similar story. This is a healing hug for others who are just waking up to their unhealthy relationships. I think, especially with a parent, we don’t see it for many years…