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Kathi lives with Roger and a bunch of chickens in the Sierra Nevada Mountains of California. There they host writer retreats, and Kathi writes about how to do life with God a little closer today than yesterday. She’s a best-selling author and absolutely loves her Clutter Free Community on Facebook.

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  1. “look for ways to make your life bigger”, love this. There’s something about getting older and realizing the days seem shorter. This Mimi of 3 is going back to school and I’m stoked! This article is a great encouragement to just go for it!

  2. ‘You don’t have to downsize who you are.”AMEN! Kathi, I was grieving as I read your post for the unnecessary restrictions asked of you growing up! I am SO thankful God brought correct thinking & dreaming into your life! As vast as our Lord is we should be cheering each other on to live large in His leading. His enabling magnifies Himself even if we trip & fail in our pursuit of dreams. He doesn’t waste a molecule as we grow toward Him! Blessings! (((0)))

  3. I particularly love this post. I be brave and ask what if sometimes can change every. Praise God for his guidance!

  4. Yes, Kathi!! It isn’t easy to take those leaps. I have- some worked out and some not so successful. I question my choices often. But during it all I know I have God looking after me. I look forward to making my life bigger!

  5. I can’t remember when I got saved. But I think I was at Secondary School. But I was am the still the only one saved in my family apart from my Husband. It not easy when they are doing things you know are not right. Living in the ways of the world. You know you live in this world but are not of the world. You get questions why do believe this and don’t do this. You get were having a Birthday Party for say Dad. You know it not be one you like. It will be non Christian. You if you don’t go you be told of and told your odd. I did go when my Dad was 80 two years ago. No my cup of tea. I had to be careful to not get into their worldly chat. Ask God to help me shine for him in the mist of my unsaved family and my unsaved Dad too. Be a light for God in the middle of it. Which I was. I did want them my family and my Dad thinking I was party pooper for not going. When at school they had Scripture Union at lunch time. So you could be yourself. Go to it let the ones in school that didn’t go know you where different. You lived for Jesus that he was your everything. But living at home before You go Married. You had to be careful when at home. You didn’t as my Family would say push your Christian beliefs at them. Plus just pray in the quietness of your bedroom for them and reading your Bible then. Not say anything about Jesus to them as you get. Please keep that stuff you believe to yourself. If we want to know we will ask. It the same today. I just say as I do home help Monday to Friday for my Dad now 82. If going with his carer shopping or for coffee to see his friends. Love you keeping you in prayer. Now and again you get good you believe all that. You have to say nothing else as row go up. Love you post today Kathi. So in life you have to not get caught up in the evil of the world and with all the wrong your families do. Just keep praying for Holy Spirit to convict them to see they need Jesus as their Saviour. Keep believing in God’s perfect timing it will happen as I do. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xx in my prayers.

  6. What if you said yes to writing for (in)courage? <3 I'm so glad for THAT one! What an encouragement this is, Kathi! "What if?" is the seed (and permission) for dreaming :).


  7. I love this so much! I could highlight the whole thing, but this: “But God puts a path in front of us, and our goal has to be not to be distracted by everything that wants to divert our attention or change our course.” And this: “look for ways to make your life bigger. To trust God more. Look for opportunities to fight against shrinking to make others comfortable. You don’t have to downsize who you are.” Think I probably just need to print this one out to reread!

  8. Thank you Kathi for this…I needed this encouragement and perspective. I’m retired and my dreams … well they are pretty small if not non existent. Life has not turned out how I thought. What bigger things has God in store for me – something to ponder more on!

  9. I love, love, love this, Kathi! Bravo! I can see myself in some of what you are saying. Yes! There were voices like that in my childhood. And even now. Thank you for your encouragement and for blazing a trail for us!

  10. This was so encouraging to me! We are preparing for a big change and I don’t really do change well. But I’m trusting that the Lord will guide and bless our move, as we do feel it’s His will for us. I’m trying to focus on the positive things it will bring.

  11. I love this, Kathi. The part, “people… who knew it was easier to control others when they are kept small” describes the spirit-crushing experience of the last two years so well. I’m profoundly grateful we do not have to stay in that “small” space but can choose to step into that “spacious place” God has for us today. (Psalm 31:8)

  12. Wow, I’ve never really looked at things exactly like this. But it rings true with my spirit. Thank you.

  13. Oh, I could relate to the first part of this only too well. I’ve never been a rebel exactly, but I didn’t fit the mold either. (legalistic church members and a loving but “proper” mother! And somewhere along the line, I realized I don’t really have dreams for myself. Ten years ago, with retirement approaching, I finally got the courage to take an online art class, which has become a large part of my life. But I still struggle with the concept of actually marketing my art. Thanks for this…I need to start whispering What if into my thoughts!

    • TC,

      Go ahead & market some of your art work. What have you go to lose? The world needs to see the beauty you created with The talent God gave you.

      Blessings 🙂

  14. Kathi,

    People are always making rules for how “Christians” should look, act or be with. The fact is Jesus doesn’t condemn us for being who He made us to be. He loves us unconditionally. We need to shine God’s light & love into this sinful world. Go ahead & be yourself. Ask the “what if” questions & dream big. We have a big God wanting to shower His love on His children!

    Blessings 🙂

  15. Wow! This is exactly what I needed today. I love the last two lines that sum it all up for me…… “Look for opportunities to fight against shrinking to make others comfortable. You don’t have to downsize who you are.” I always feel so inferior and feel like I need to minimize my dreams or who I am so no one thinks I think I’m better. But God has put a dream in my heart for my ministry and it’s time to stop shrinking!!! Thank you, Kathi!!
    ***I thought I already responded the first time I read this but I don’t see it so apparently I didn’t. It meant God wanted me to read again and respond in His timing…..❤️

  16. You are always awesome! I love this, Kathy, and I’m so proud to be your friend. It sounds like we grew up in the same church!! I’m so sad to hear of that stream of condemning, graceless messages that came your way as a precious little girl in church. Ugh. Legalism is the devil’s theme song. What an encouragement that you pressed through! And what a miracle that you kept faith with Christ through all of that. Keep on being Kathy and the world will keep on being drawn more and more to the Savior. I can’t wait for your next book. Hugs and love. Bill