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Lucretia is a wife, mom of three, and a TEDx and Q Ideas speaker (Charlotte, NC, 2017). As a former college professor, she designed the popular ‘beginners’ course and study guide, What LIES Between Us: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing. She is the creator and director of the Brownicity.com...

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  1. Love today’s reading it is excellent. It reminds me of someone I know who is not saved. I am I felt God go say to them one day. Stop compering your kids to your Sisters in-laws. Just because you are brainy and some of your kids are not. All your sister in-laws seems to be. Stop comparing your to you and your Sister in-laws. They do just as well as they can in life. They are beautiful and they have they one unique personalities. They can do their own things that they are good at I told this person. But this person said I am brainy. Why are they not all my kids like my Sister in-laws. I said stop it. They are who God made them to be. That all that matters. I said you have something to worry about if they where very ill and Hospital. You not be worrying about them having brains. You wish they where we’ll. That made her think. Be thankful her kids are all well and be more thankful. Even if they didn’t have brains. Not to compare them to her Sister in-law. Who kids all had brains hers didn’t. Now she loves them her kids for who they are. The unique personalities God give them. She so proud to be their lovely Mum. I say Amen to that. That says to me appreciate what God has given you. She thank me for saying that to her that day. Love today reading. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little in my prayers incourage ❣️

    • Dawn!
      In learning to appreciate who we are, we grow our capacity to appreciate others (without comparing ourselves to them). God is expressed differently in and through each of us. We get to appreciate every aspect of God’s creation.

      Thank you for reading and reflecting.

  2. Oh Lucretia, thank you so much for this! I am constantly comparing myself to others, and berating myself when I fall short. I will take your post to heart and plan on setting the reminder (‘We are so grateful to have you here’) around my house and work area. Blessings to you and your family!

    • Cheyla!
      I am grateful that my story resonates with you. In learning to appreciate who we are, we grow our capacity to appreciate others (without comparing ourselves to them). God is expressed differently in and through each of us. When we appreciate ourselves without comparing ourselves to others, we acknowledge the vast diversity of God’s creative expression.

      Thank you for reading and reflecting.

  3. I have 2 sisters and even well into adulthood we were always compared to each other. People, even other family, labeled us as the pretty one, the creative one, and the smart one. Thankfully we’ve been able to discuss this and have come to appreciate ourselves and each other. When we come our attributes we are a force!

    • Maura!
      I am so glad to hear that you and your sisters have not let imposed comparisons and oversimplified labels drive a wedge between you all! I love how God is intentionally expressed through each of us differently so that collectively we are beautifully powerful!

      Thank you for reading and reflecting.

  4. So often I’ve heard to appreciate others. Certainly that’s true. But I don’t think I’ve ever read anything that says to appreciate ourselves too!!! Thank you for this new perspective. It’s true, isn’t it? How do we love our neighbor as ourselves if we aren’t first loving ourselves? The command assumes we are loving ourselves!

    • Hi Pearl!
      I LOVE your name!
      Your reflection hit the nail on the head!! Putting myself at the top of my gratitude list is a new revelation for me as well. Let’s normalized this for ourselves and so that we can better love our neighbor!


  5. I loved your story and commentary–so true and so human. You are guiding your daughters for real success in this life–and ever after.

  6. Thank you, Lucretia, for the beautiful reminder to see my own accomplishments as gifts from God rather than comparing myself to others. Yes, it is far more productive to celebrate others than to envy them. I come from a large family, so it is easy to be covered in a blanket of comparison.

  7. Lucretia,

    Loved this: “When we focus on appreciating our own capabilities, we are reminded that our journey is not a competition against others. Instead, it is a personal quest to fulfill the purpose God has placed within our hearts.” Never thought about appreciating & celebrating my capabilities . Must remind myself that life is a journey not a competition. Don’t compare yourself to what you see on tv or in society. Each person is on their own journey with God. I am going to explore who God made me to be & the work He has given me alone to do. Then I will go do it & not worry about others.

    Blessings 🙂

    • Hi Beth.
      Thank you for reading.
      Appreciating ourselves is not engrained in work/labor-oriented culture, where we are internalize valuing what we produce instead of who we are. It takes work to subvert cultural norms and learn to appreciate and be grateful for YOU!!!

      Let’s keep moving toward simply appreciating who we are and what God has placed in our hearts.


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