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Tasha is a Korean American melancholy dreamer, wife to Matt, mom to three wild and wonderful humans. She writes about everyday life and cultural and ethnic identity, and writing has always been the way God has led her towards the hope of shalom. Her first book, Tell Me The Dream...

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  1. I get the hair thing. Now at 69, I am all grey and have short, thinning hair. I wish I had not fought my mop all those years. But it was more than fighting the hair. I wish I had more of an appreciation growing up of being ok with who I was and what I looked like. Now when I look in the mirror, I see my precious grandmother and mother smiling back at me. And I am so very OK with that.

    • It’s almost always more when we put up a fight, isn’t it? I love how you said you see your precious grandmother and mother now – how beautiful.

    • Love you too, Rachel. I am so grateful that we can share in this in a deep way. It gives me courage – even now.

  2. We live in a dance of yesterday and today, grief and gratitude – I love it. I feel you on the hair thing on all the things, getting older. Regret wishing to have appreciated what I rebelled against. My ethnic Indian roots being Australian born. I look back and I was so beautiful but never saw it always too fat, not this, not that…not like the mainstream.

    I’m 43 and I’ve started getting tinnitus I hope it goes away, I pray it so. What I’d give to just be like I was before…but I take rest in God and that’s all I can do, all any of us can do.

    Beautifully written.

    • Jas, thank you for sharing that. I understand. May you and I take what we see now and in hindsight, and embrace the beauty that is – no matter how it’s changed or will continue to. I just said a prayer for the tinnitus. Glad you are part of this community.

    • Debbie, I’m so grateful for the gift of “learning together” God’s given us all.

  3. Tasha, you are so beautiful! I am not Asian, but I struggle with my thick, blonde/grey/white hair at times, too. I have come to terms with my natural crazy hair color. In different lights, it’s more one thing than another. Sometimes I just shrug and tell myself “It’s just hair!”. But for you, it’s a big part of who you are! And that’s okay.

    • Irene, thank you! I love how you described your hair being more than one thing than another in different lights – what a reflection of all of our unique layers. Grateful for you.

  4. Tasha, I don’t know if I’m the Elsa you are referring to, but several years ago I let go of “blending” and now have all white hair. One student referred to it as “cream.” Some women pay for this color, but the Lord has given it to me, a reflection of his grace and love.

    • How funny, Elsa! I was referring to the Disney animated Elsa. 🙂 I love the “cream” shade and I love hearing your own embrace of your hair!!

  5. Tasha I don’t have grey hair. But about 4 years ago my hair began to fall out. I was not a bit worried about it. But it did affect my health. I already had other health issues. But it annoyed my Sister’s and Dad more. To see me going bald. They said Dawn look at you. Your hair falling out of your head. Get you to the Doctor to see why. My Husband did care it was falling out. He and I both agree we were both thankful to God I didn’t have cancer. I was not told I had only so long to live. It was only my hair that was falling out and I was tired and no energy with it falling asleep for no reason without knowing I was. My Dad was the worst he said by getting cross get yourself to the Doctor to see what wrong with you. I went all I had was thyroid problem. I am on tablets for it for the rest of my life. Since being on the tablets my hair has come back. But no where like it used to be before it began to fall out. It not a thick as it used to be. But I don’t look bald anymore. I have alot of hair but very thing now. I don’t care. As I look at it this way. I well and I not seriously ill and in Hospital with only so long to live or fighting am illness to live. I am thankful to God for that as had a few health problems in my life. But nothing serious or life threating. So I go from Grief to Gratitude in the Lord for bringing me through all I been through and I still able to smile and thank him for that at 52 years old. Love today’s reading. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xx

  6. I think our hair is something women are often dissatisfied with. It’s too straight or too curly. It’s too thin or too thick. I don’t like it’s color. It grows too fast or too slow. Fortunately we can do somethings to change it, like perms, haircut styles, &/or coloring.

    Sometimes like you, our hair defeats our efforts. I naturally have Brown hair. When I got it cut in my early 20s, the Beautician said something shocking to me. I had a strong undertone of read in my hair. If I ever wanted to color it, it’d need to be stripped 1st, or it wouldn’t turn out like I expected. I didn’t see it; I just saw brown, no red.

    It turned out she was right , I found out the hard way. Several years later, I used some Sun-In on my hair, & it turned Bright Orange!

    I decided after that, that I’d leave the color of it. I thank God, that I’ve had hair contentment, for many decades since then.

  7. Tasha,

    Life is full of regret. I’m doing the dance of grief & gratitude. Grieving over the loss of what was & is now but grateful for God’s provisions. Wishing I had stayed at certain jobs knowing what I know now. Learning to be content with the life God has provided. Also learning to appreciate the me He made me to be. Seeing myself as a beautiful child of God.

    Blessings 🙂

  8. Tasha, your words always touch my heart. I can always relate to what you say. “Being Asian and being you isn’t just one thing” Thank you. Sending hugs and love to you.

  9. This is so very beautiful and powerful. It resonates deeply. All gratitude to thanks to Rachel Marie Kang for linking to this post (and I am now ordering your book, Tasha!). “We live in a dance of yesterday and today, of grief and gratitude. We do not have to pick one.” Amen!!

  10. I immediately wrote down what Beth Williams wrote to Tasha. learning to be content with the. Ife Gkd has provided.
    grieving over the loss of what was and is.
    learning to appreciate the me He made me to be.
    seeing myself as a beautiful child of God.

    Believe, these 4 sentences bring me healing. I just
    moved to a seniors living facility, and the 4
    sentences will help me make the adjustments to
    living with 122 other folks ranging in ages from 80 to
    101. Thank you for incourage.me