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Holley Gerth is a Wall Street Journal bestselling author, counselor, and life coach. Her newest release is The Powerful Purpose of Introverts: Why the World Needs You to Be You. She's also wife to Mark, Mom to Lovelle, and Nana to Eula and Clem.

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  1. What a great and timely devo for me today!!! As I continue in a relationship with a man that I love who is struggling with addictions, I want to be a partner who is expecting FOR him and cheering him on and encouraging him as he seeks to get the help he needs. I am already so proud of him for seeking help and entering rehab and am praying for his healing, freedom and deliverance.

  2. Meant to add, to encourage him not only as he seeks help, but also becomes the man God has called him to be 🙂

  3. This was great encouragement and lesson on how to be more positive with others. I gotta push back gently a little bit though. God has standards but thanks to Jesus sacrifice we aren’t doomed to all eternity for not fulfilling them. Rather out of thankfulness we want to put on the new self and live according to his word out of love for Him and knowing his way is peaceful and good.

  4. I love this perspective! As I read I thought of two of my grandchildren who have seemingly wandered away from their faith. It breaks my heart, but I know God still loves them and hasn’t given up on them, and neither will I.

  5. This really hits home! I tell people I’m a recovering Pharisee. Lol As I learn to enjoy grace myself the next question is always how do I give that same grace to others? Thank you, Holley, for your thoughts on this topic – it’s helpful to think about expectations in terms of “for” vs “from.”

    • I love the idea of receiving grace ourselves first and then extending it to others, Pearl. I’m with you–still learning to do this too!

  6. Thank You, Holley!!!
    So So Powerful!!!!
    And once again, perfectly timed!!
    Ever so Grateful for you …& the way He always speaks through you!!!

  7. Thank you so much Holley! I can be judgmental and hard on expectation “from” people.. especially my husband!
    Expecting “for” and using these words and coming from this frame of mind will help my words, will help my listening and will help my attitude come from a encouraging and compassionate place.

    “I’m so excited to see what God has in store for you.
    I like how you’re different than me.
    How can I love and support you right now?”

    I’m writing these words down on a sticky and putting them everywhere…lol…!!

    • I hear you, Janet, I think it’s often hardest to practice this with those closest to us, like our spouses. I love that you are writing these down. 🙂

  8. Thanks so much for that Holley. I’m currently struggling with a change of dynamic with a friend and have been asking Father for His help. Thanks again for the timely message which I will re-read, pray, re-read and pray until it sinks in.

  9. Holley,

    Great inspiring devo today (6/16). Much needed also. This hits home “Expecting for instead of from means we offer encouragement instead of criticism, cheers instead of nagging, belief instead of disappointment.” I really need to pray about my nagging & expecting so much from hubby. Rather I should cheer him on. Telling him ALL the wonderful things he does & is for me. Thanks for the advice. Gonna try it tongiht.

    Blessings 🙂