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Melissa Zaldivar is a social in the world of academics and an academic in the world of socials. She's an author and podcast host with a BA in Communications and an MA in Theology. She loves a good sandwich, obscure history, and wandering around New England antique shops.

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  1. “He really meant it when He said, ‘I’m in'”. What beautifully written, rich post to begin my day with! Thank you for sharing!

  2. Melissa, this is lovely. You helped me look at my relationship with the Lord, in a new way. Your therapist sounds like a very wise person!

  3. This right here…”If I was married and was disappointed in and angry with my husband because he wasn’t meeting my expectations.” The funny thing about relationship expectations is the other person usually doesn’t know what they are.
    They are written and signed for on a job, but in a marriage, friendship, parent/child relationship they are usually not known until someone breaks. It’s not easy to be like Jesus and hang in there in love. Thank you for reminding me to let God be my guide and example–to keep welcoming them in, even when it’s uncomfortable.

  4. You are so right, Melissa: there ARE days we must walk in faith that God is close and He’s for our good. Reflecting on how He’s carried us in the past, how He’s revealed his character of loving kindness, wisdom, and more, helps to fortify that faith. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of your therapist too!

  5. I love the analogy of a marriage relationship with Christ! Thank you so much for sharing!!

  6. What a great question and insight for you to ask your therapist. It spoke to my heart as my life stages(i.e.intentionally living as a widow) change my perspectives and needs in my relationship with Jesus and yet He remains. Thank you for sharing your struggles and your life and faith journeys.

  7. Melissa,

    Relationships are tricky. There are no written rules for behavior. One thing that we must remember is that everyone down here is a flawed human being that messes up constantly. Thankfully we serve a living, loving, forgiving God. His love is active, committed & eternal. It is a love worth fighting for. That is how I feel about my husband. Both of us get tired, frustrated, upset & we “lose it”. Life is hard now-we both work in hospitals. In the end though I wouldn’t trade him & his love for anything. I tell him often “I’m in this for the long haul.”

    Blessings 🙂