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Becky loves serving as (in)courage’s Community Manager. She is a speaker and author of No Better Mom for the Job. Becky is a huge fan of Voxer, Sunday naps, and championing women. She lives near Los Angeles and loves hiking shady trails with her husband and three spirited sons.

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  1. So true. Think I need to practice more kindness in this house today. Thanks for the reminder, Becky.

  2. Thank you, Becky, for your beautiful reminder that the kindness we share with those who get the “realest real version of ourselves” matters. As someone whose health creates limitations, it is the gentle reminder my heart needed – there is no such thing as small kindness. (Oh, for a “slow-mo rewind button” that could retract those unwanted moments when unkindness has flowed).

    Congratulations on your upcoming book launch. The Simple Difference sounds like just the message our world needs today. God bless you!

  3. I couldn’t help but be reminded of a time shortly before my husband passed away that I told him, “you know I pretty much run this house!” Ouch how many times have I wanted to do that slo mo thing you were talking about. I still wish I could take it back and he’s been gone 9 1/2 years now. Thanks for the ever so needed reminder.

    • Our words are so powerful … for both good and harm. Thanks for sharing that memory with us. I’m so sorry you lost your husband. It also encourages me to be grateful for and make the most of each precious day.

  4. Thank you for being transparent. Sometimes it’s a challenge to feel like we as women are always expected to carry the kindness gift, go above and beyond, etc. If we think about all the examples that the Father has given us regarding HIS love for us, we will continue to strive to be more like Him. I’m reminded of an old song I heard growing up. To be like Jesus, to be like him, so meek and lowly, so humble and holy, oh I want to be like him.Lord, we need your help!!!!! Please help us!!!!

  5. Becky thank you for being so honest. That you and your Husband sometimes don’t agree. You wanted him to clean up the stove. That you both were to blame that was dirty. I know at times like this you can have words with your Husband. Because you are annoyed that he probably wanted to his own thing before lunch. Leave you to clean the stove. Well in times like this we have to remember to watch we do not say word that hurt. I been in the suitation were I been annoyed with my Husband over something that not worth getting annoyed over. Especially when he has and all he is doing is trying to help me. Because he loves me. Like when he reaches over me. Like for example if I making lunch near the kettle. My Husband has in the passed stretched over me to put on the kettle to make tea then stretch over me to get the tea bags. I have had to try and stop me being annoyed at my Husband doing this. I know he is only trying to help me. So I can have more time to rest. In the past I seen me gritting my teeth and saying back to him in not a cross voice. But annoyed one. Buzzy of stop stretching over me. Why can’t you wait until I have finished making lunch. Then you can put on the kettle to make tea. Not stretch over me. Go away. Then I get from my Husband I only trying to help you. I say no your not. Go away. I call you when lunch ready. So I do. God has shown me. The way I handle that suitation was wrong. But my Husband should have waited not stretched over me to put on the kettle then get tea bags to make tea for lunch. God showed me that too. Then I have got to say sorry to my Husband for being annoyed with him. That he was only trying to help me. I then have to say nicely in a nice voice and not grit my teeth. Say next time please can you wait until I am finished. Then it is not me being unkind to my Husband. Who was only trying to be kind and help me. Because my Husband has said. I want you not to be doing everything yourself. I can help you. God has shown me in times like this. To remember I have such a good Husband. Who wants to help me. So as I not doing everything on my own. When there is many a Husband who wouldn’t even think of helping his wife. God has said to me. Dawn try and show a little more kindness not girt your Husband for wanting to help you. I say to myself then God is right to tell me that to do that. Show kindness. Thank you Becky for what you shared. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xx

  6. “Home is our learning lab for living our one life well.” What an insightful statement! Too many couples get married thinking home will be the place where they’ll live happily ever after without even trying. But home isn’t just a place for living well; it’s a place for loving well. Wonderful post, Becky!

  7. Becky,

    My biggest problem is tired/worn out from work. That’s when I “lash out” & let my poor hubby “have it”. I am quick to ask forgiveness & try to show more kindness to him. Most days I pray & ask God to cleanse my heart & remove all sins, unforgiveness & hurt. Now my prayers will be how can I show kindness to others today. Do they need a smile, simple thank you, or hug?
    This world could use a huge dose of kindness. That starts, like most things, at home. Practice being kind to those you love & it will spill over into the world.

    Blessings 🙂

  8. Thanks for the reminder! It starts at home and spreads from there. I pray that the fruits of the spirit abide, dwell, and continue to have increase in my home and therefore spread out into the community. Amen!