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Jami, wife to Nato and mom of four unruly children, is an entrepreneur and leader who focuses on faith, community, authenticity, and courage. She’s passionate about not doing laundry and hoarding socks and loves using awkward humor and honesty to convey the truth of the gospel and navigate tough conversations.

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  1. This stuck out to me => “forgiveness is an alone game.”

    What a compelling reminder!

    Thank you for sharing, Jami. God bless you and your beautiful family. Love the photo 🙂

  2. Thank you, Jami, for your candidness in relaying your journey. Romans 5:8 has been my “life verse” and it brought tears to my eyes to read it again, through your story. When I think of ALL He’s forgiven me for, it makes it a lot easier to forgive others.

  3. I don’t usually leave comments, and this is the first time I’ve even been to the page, but your story touched me deeply. Thank you for your transparency. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re touching hearts.

    • Well thanks for saying that. It is always encouraging to know that people are blessed by an honest story…They can be hard to talk about inside the christian community.

  4. Jami,

    Thank you oh so much for your honest & openness here. It takes courage to tell your story. I know it will help numerous women. I pray Ephesians 4:32 over my husband & I daily. Wanting us to forgive each other as Christ continually forgives us. That can be hard at times, but in light of what Jesus did for us on the cross we must do it. This is so good: forgiveness is an alone game, but reconciliation is a together game. You have to do the hard work of deciding to let go of the past & try again. With God ALL things are possible. So glad you chose forgiveness. Asking God to continue to bless your marriage & family.

    Blessings 🙂

  5. I believe vulnerability is one of the most powerful gifts we can give to one another because it shows how God moves powerfully through our pain. Thank you for the gift of your writing.

  6. Thank you for your honesty and thought.

    Pray that you&family are well and loved by God all the times.

    Focus on the Creator and not the creations. Amen.

  7. Nice testament! I’m so happy for you that things worked out! Praise God!

  8. I believe that because God gave us free will we will make mistakes in our lives, some more easy to forgive than others. I am thankful for you that you were able to forgive your husband and move on with your lives. I had a friend from school who was not so fortunate in this situation. Be blessed and thank you for sharing this painful story. I also believe that God forgives us more freely than we forgive each other sometimes.

  9. Jami thank you for sharing your difficult season with us, for opening your vulnerable heart and most importantly for showing us the HOPE you found in Christ Jesus our Savior. All things are possible with God!

  10. Jami,
    Just wanted to thank you for sharing your story. Your story is a reminder of how God CAN make beauty from ashes! I pray our Lord continues to keep his hand upon you and your sweet family.

  11. “…and forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors…” Thank you for sharing and praising His holy name!

  12. A painful but invaluable lesson to learn….And so fruit-ful of Peace, almost More for
    one’s own peace , than for the one being (fully) forgiven, from the Heart.!

  13. I think forgiveness is a continuous choice that I have had to do – yes I made a first choice to forgive but sometimes Even 7 years later I just keep having to tell God “yes I forgive him/them”. God has been faithful through it all, giving grace to keep walking the painful road.

  14. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable in a very painful, hard place. My husband went home to Jesus a year ago and a lot of the grieving has been layers of forgiveness. I did not realize how much the root of rejection in me had caused me not to be what the LORD created me to be. First, I have been repenting for rejecting myself and what He created me to be. This is going into very deep corners of my heart that has been filled with much pain. God is such an amazing Father and is guiding me through this difficult transition of life without my husband, a new life in Christ and a life filled with forgiveness that is still working in me. God bless you abundantly.

  15. Forgiving someone while they are still sinning. Never heard it put this way before. But yes, I see the hard reality of this truth. Leaving with this thought.

  16. I never been in your shoes. My Husband I know loves me. I know he never do that to me. Have an affair. As he say keeps saying I love you too much. God put us together. But I know what it does to families. As my Dad did too my late Mum. To watch her in pain it not nice. Having to help my Mum. Was not easy watching her hurt. Broke my heart. Why Dad was my question. Did you do it. You and Mum were so happy 25 years Married. But my Mum picked herself up through time. Enough to speak to my Dad again. Because of her Grandkids. Because she didn’t want them to be hurt that she couldn’t go their Birthday Parties. Especially when my Dad would be there. She my Mum learnt to get to be able to speak to my Dad again. But she never forgot what he done. The rest of her Days on earth. I being the only one saved in my family. Had to do the right thing in God eyes forgive my Dad for his wrong. I found that hard at the beginning. Because I hurt to see my Mum hurt. Which was not nice. When you make your wedding vows. You say until death do us part. But my Dad no. I did through getting pray from my Salvation Army Officer. Was able to forgive my Dad. Go visit him. As today my Mum not here. I miss her loads. I am able. As my Dad is 80. Go help him he not saved. I pray for his Salvation. I do bits and pieces for him and walk his dog. I told him one time. I forgive him for the wrong he has done. What done is done. After my Mum pass away. A year or two later. He looked at me and listen to me. I then said if I not I not be here doing thing for you and helping you in Love because your my Dad and I love you no matter what. I do love my Dad. No matter what wrong he did. It under the blood of Jesus. I will not forget ever. But I go now do the things I do for my Dad. It doesn’t annoy me or hurt me. I can talk to my Dad in love on to Jesus. Know I did what Jesus would want me to do that is forgive him. Not let it eat me up. As if I not. I never be able to talk to my Dad today. The only person that would hurt is me. As my Dad will never do it again. He knows we me and my sisters love him. I do what I do for my Dad unto Jesus. I pray for his Salvation. As I want nothing from him when he leaves earth. Just to know he is saved that is the best present he could ever give me my Dad before he leaves earth. I admire you Jami for sharing your story. You remember you are a beautiful Daughter of the king. That king is Jesus. I had to be told that as well when my Dad did wrong. As I thought I was not his beautiful daughter my mum was not his beautiful wife. My Salvation Army Officer said to me it only matter what Jesus think of you. She told me that I was Daughter of the king. That king is Jesus. I love you all incourage. Bless you all praying for you all. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xx

  17. What a joy to be on the other side and watch your marriage flourish! And what sadness for the world (and my children) if those two extra kids hadn’t been born.

  18. I’ve been in your shoes. Although I prayed for marriage restoration it never happened which was okay. Because I knew how much God loved me and my girls and that we’d make it. My ex-husband who had the affair said he’d never forgive me. Can’t quite understand that. I do like your comment about having to forgive people who knew but didn’t tell you. It amazed me how many of his “colleagues” stood by them knowing he was a married man and cheered them on knowing they were destroying a marriage and family. Forgiveness is an every day process and choice.

  19. Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal. We are called to be ministers of reconciliation. With God’s help you were able to do that. I’m grateful for the way it turned out for your family.