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Taryn Nergaard is an author and life coach with a passion for helping people find freedom. She is the creator of the Reflective Bible Journals, which help kids, teens, and adults hear God’s voice and follow his lead. Taryn lives in British Columbia, Canada with her husband and four kids.

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  1. Thank you for sharing this tough part of your life’s journey with us today. God bless you as you seek to serve Him above all things.

  2. Oh sweet lady! Hugs and more hugs! I too wore shame for many reasons as a child and it would be the reason for my poor choices as an adult… but the grace forgiveness and healing were the blessing God gave to me one day 21 years ago My 20 year old son led me to the arms of Jesus one year after his salvation.. and my other two children followed..God’s will be done no matter what evil creeps in before His child… Praising Him with you for our blessed lives hidden in Christ.. the LIGHT of the world!!! Yes the truth will set us free❣️Thank you for sharing and caring to share with those who need to hear how shame can be kicked to the curb and sadness can hug us to love and have compassion for ourselves and others.. blessed are those who have made the Lord their Hope and confidence Jeremiah 17:7 ❤️❤️❤️

  3. Taryn, what a horrible experience that must have been for you. 5 years old is way too young to have your innocence stolen. Isn’t it so wonderful to know that God sees and heals our deepest wounds? He loves us no matter what. I am so thankful that He hears and knows what sometimes can’t be put in words.

  4. I can’t thank you enough for your post this morning! I couldn’t have resonated with someone more…I felt like you were almost telling my story…and the advice you gave is awesome!
    It all has been KEY to finding the calm when you get triggered…biggest thing for me is not loosing sight of who I’m traveling on this journey with…He’s the most important piece of the puzzle…without Jesus I would be 6 ft under that’s for sure…!
    Peace’Love’Godbless to you and your family, & seriously thanks again for making me feel not alone…feel heard…appreciate you sister in Christ! Keep shining like Jesus, please write more posts;)

  5. I was abused by my brother as 5/6 yr old. And told not to tell anyone they wouldn’t believe me.
    This has been part of my live and I’m 58. I’m a Christian I’ve forgiven my brother and told him so. However what hits me are episodes of binge eating. I don’t even need to be hungry. I might have just had a bowl of porridge and liked it so made another and another. I do these self destructive things because at the time it makes me happy until I’ve eaten and realised that I’m just self harming

    • I’m so sorry that happened to you, Tracy. Thank you for being vulnerable in sharing a small part of your story with me. Carrying those secrets is a burden we were never meant to carry.

  6. Taryn,

    Sweet sister. Thank you for sharing a very private part of your past. Doing this will help women know that they are not alone. That there are safe havens & people to talk with about their issues. Shame is just another tool of the evil one. He wants us to feel down & defeated. He prowls around like a roaring lion seeking who he can devour. He uses lies like “not good enough” “can’t be forgiven” “no one will ever love you”. It’s only when we talk to someone about our past & what caused our shame that healing can begin. The devil only works in the dark. “When we bring our shame into the light, we experience God’s all-encompassing grace that destroys our self-loathing and expands our self-compassion.” Yes & AMEN!!

    Blessings 🙂

  7. Such a powerful post, thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for the pain you went through at such a young age, especially as it lingered as you became older. The exercise you mentioned is so life-changing. My counsellour encouraged me to do it too for something I went through in middle school, though it was specifically to write a letter to my younger self in that specific moment of what I needed to hear at the time and then read it to myself in the mirror. I have to admit, at first I thought it sounded weird and cheesy, but then I did it and, man, did the tears flow and that sadness I had been avoiding came! But so did the healing. Turns out my counsellour does know what she was talking about. 🙂 I am so so glad you were able to find your healing through that type of exercise too!