After reading Myquillyn Smith’s philosophy about how lamp light can improve the mood of a room, especially in the winter, I put on my shoes, grabbed the car keys and my purse, and skedaddled myself off to Home Goods.
With the sky-climbing Rockies just to the west of us, it gets dark mighty early this time of year. So, upon considering Myquillyn’s home perspective, I found it absolutely imperative that I infuse a little light into a couple dark corners of our home.
And really, it’s been several months of finding it absolutely imperative to infuse a little light into the dark corners of my life.
Alas, I find no right-sized lamps at Home Goods or Target, so after driving back home, I hop online and order two discounted lamps that fit the bill for what the space — specifically our sunroom — needs. I close my laptop and look out the window. The golden hour is straining to hold onto its last few rays of light, and I’m straining to hold onto the light this Christmas time when so many things look differently than in Christmases past.
Some of what looks different are good things — favorable changes. But there are several more that have barged through my front door without permission or invitation, and they’ve brought loss and limitations as they’ve long since overstayed their welcome.
And those changes exposed some expectations I’ve been carrying.
The limitations of COVID that we experienced in the spring, summer, and fall will likely be with us this Advent and Christmas, too. We can’t travel where we thought we could. We can’t necessarily be with those we want to be with. And even if some things are possible, not all things are advisable — depending on who you ask.
For some of us, the limitations extend to the worst of losses, the kind that make our Christmas traditions and celebrations look different not just this year but every future year to come.
I think we’re all a little desperate for the light.
Centuries ago, a people, too, were desperate for the light when a baby’s birth changed everything — although not in the way they had wanted:
See, the virgin will become pregnant and give birth to a son, and they will name him Immanuel, which is translated “God is with us.”
Matthew 1:23 (CSB)
The people expected a king in a palace, and who arrived was a King in a stable.
The people expected power and might, and who showed up was meek and humble.
The people expected one who would poise Himself over them in majesty, and who appeared was Immanuel, God with us.
Without this big change from long ago, we wouldn’t have Jesus. We wouldn’t have the presence of God like never before.
Sometimes, in order to accept difficult change, it helps to flip it over and allow the expectations we’re holding be exposed. Change always exposes expectations. And if we can dare to release those expectations, it might make room for other good things — better things — God has for us.
Because even in the worst times of change and loss, God is still for us.
This Christmas season may be the most difficult one you’ve experienced to date. If that’s true, then I’m so sorry. Like the people of Israel who didn’t receive what they expected but needed, I pray the Lord shows you today, even this hour, a glimpse of His Light telling the dark corners of your heart exactly what it needs to know.
My lamps arrive. and I set them up just where I need it the most. When the sun goes down in my sunroom, the lights push back the night, and I know this in my heart: The biggest change brings the opportunity to have the biggest encounter with Jesus.
May we all let His light in.
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Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Kristen,
Oh the curse of unmet expectations. I find myself being a little selfish. God has given me the very best of Himself. He’s given me the gift of His Son who was born in a lowly manger and suffered a tortuous death so that I would be set free, yet I find myself complaining about other unmet expectations. This year has really challenged me to boil it all down to the basics. No, I may not have had the trips or experiences or interactions that I would have liked, but nothing (even COVID) can take away my gift of salvation – freedom from judgment. I need to let His light illuminate all the dark corners of my spirit this Advent season. Joining with you in letting go of the minor unmet expectations and clinging to the major light of the world.
Blessings,
Bev xx
Beth Williams says
Bev,
Your reply made me think of this song “Basics of Life” by 4 Him. You should listen to it when you have time.
Blessings Have a great advent!! 🙂
Kristen Strong says
Bev, I think this past year has led most of us to “boil it all down to the basics.” I love the thought of letting go of frustrations that may in one sense be a major part of our lives but are, in the end, minor in the overwhelming light of Jesus. Love you!
gwen says
That was lovely.
Thank you
Kristen Strong says
Thank you for being here, Gwen! xo
Peggy says
That was wonderful, Kristen! Just what I needed to hear. Thank you.
Kristen Strong says
It’s what I needed to, Peggy. Thankful to have you here! xo
Gail says
Much needed encouragement this morning. Thank you Kristen.
Kristen Strong says
You’re welcome and thank you for encouraging me right back, Gail. xo
Celia says
“ Change always exposes expectations. And if we can dare to release those expectations, it might make room for other good things — better things — God has for us.” Beautiful writing and wonderful message!! Thank you for the reminder!
Kristen Strong says
Thank you, Celia, for encouraging my heart as well with your kind words. Sending love!
Elizabeth says
Good Morning, I look forward to hearing words of encouragement to help me start my day.
Live Laugh Love…
Irene says
This is so good, Kristen! This surely is not the hardest Christmas season for my family. Our hardest so far came in 2003, when one of our daughters wss deathly ill and had given up her will to survive. That daughter now is fairly healthy, married to a wonderful man and has a sweet 4 year old daughter of her own! So every Christmas now, we celebrate coming out of that period. This season is miles easier. For us.
Kristen Strong says
Irene, praise the good Lord for your daughter’s turnaround! You encourage me that though this season is a hard one for me and others, we will one day be able to look back and celebrate coming out of that period. We will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living! xo
Sabrina Thompson says
My life, tradisions, and holidays have forever been changed this year. I am not only going through a divorce after a 19 year marriage, I lost my mother who lived with me to Covid. Everything has changed. I don’t do well with change but, I am learning to. God’s light is definitly helping me.
Courtney says
I am so sorry Sabrina! I just said a prayer for you.
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
Sabrina God loves you. You remember you are Daughter of the King of Kings that King is Jesus. Look us Don Moen on YouTube the song is God will make a way were there seems no way. Don Moen wrote the song. God will make a way for you to shine through all this. Listen to the song. It will help you. My prayers are with you. Dawn Ferguson-Little xx
Kristen Strong says
Sabrina, I’m so, so sorry for all your heartbreaking loss. That’s a lot to deal with in one short year. You are in my prayers right this second. May God show you today a tangible sign of his love and presence. Sending you so much love from my heart to yours.
Christine Hernandez says
Kristen – thank you so much for this encouragement today. It is exactly what my heart needed today.
Blessings,
Christine
Kristen Strong says
It’s what my heart needed, too, Christine. Thank you for reaching out and encouraging me right back!
Elizabeth says
Lovely, Kirsten. A reminder, also, that two thousand and twenty years ago people were struggling with fear and worry. They desperately needed some light at the of their dark, seemingly endless, tunnel.
And Light came, a totally unexpected Light which still burns strong today if only we cling to His hope.
A couplet from a paperback booklet printed at the end of WWll, when London and many British cities were still in ruins, ran:
When hope was but a candle flame, we held on tight. How much more quickly can we hold now hope shines bright.
Let us refuse to have the powers of darkness extinguish the Light’s visibility to all of us who need it.
Kristen Strong says
Elizabeth, that booklet quote made me tear up. I love that so much.
I also love the way you say, “Let us refuse to have the powers of darkness extinguish the Light’s visibility to all of us who need it.” Amen.
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
I hate the dark. But I love your reading Kirsten. But what God has shown me. About the darkness. Not to be afraid of it. To remember I am a little light in my corner of the world that I live in. In that corner of the world I can shine my light for Jesus. By the way I live for him. We all can be lights in our corners of the world for Jesus no matter were we live. So as the unsaved can see Jesus in me and you. Like the kids song. You get it on YouTube “That little light of mine am going to let it shine let it shine for all to see”. That is what God what me to do and not be afraid of the dark. Remember God will not let anything happen to me. Especially at night. We are the light of the world. We are to shine for Jesus every were we go. Plus like we are the Church. Not the big fancy building with brick and water. Nice and all as it is. The Church is the people who are saved. Who help God people. Those in need etc and to do that we need to shine with the love of Jesus Love in our hearts to a world out there that needs Jesus. Doing what Jesus would have done when on earth. Help those in need loving people and children of all walks of life like Jesus did. Red and Yellow Black And White. Showing we are different. Shinning the Godly Love were everywhere we go. Especially to the hurting the lost the lonely. We can do that during the Pandemic. By phoning someone we know and asking them is there anything I can get you in the shop if going to the shop. In not allowed in their homes. Leave it on their door for them. Or if got a dog. Walk it for them. Like I do for my elderly Dad. They can’t do it. If allowed in the house of older person. Go visit them. They be glad to see you. Put on wash for them if elderly. They might take longer doing it. If see dishes in sink just do them for them. This all shinning Jesus light. You know Jesus will bless you for doing it. You be letting the light of Jesus into their lives. Even if they don’t know it. I do things like this for my elderly Dad. He says Dawn you put on wash for me. You got me coal and logs for the fire. You did my dishes. I would have got round to doing them myself. It might have taken long. But I have got it done eventually. But thank you. I know he appreciates me doing this for him. As it would take him longer doing it. Plus tired him out doing it. I do not just because he my Dad. Because I love him and on to Jesus. My Dad not saved. I said I do it for you because I love you Daddy. Dad said no need I can do it myself. But I want to out of love. In my heart to show him Jesus in me as well. As you can’t tell my Dad he needs to get saved or he tell me keep that to yourself. So I live my life for Jesus in front of my Dad. Plus pray for his Salvation. Because I care. I did for his Mum when alive too. Years ago. To let my love of Jesus shine. Through me. Love today’s reading. Love all incourage readings. Pray for you all. Dawn Ferguson-Little xxxxx ❤️
Kristen Strong says
Such great, practical ideas for how one person can be a light to another–can reflect the light of Jesus to another. Thank you for sharing here, Dawn!
Beth Williams says
Kristen,
Sometimes I want a little dark. This may sound crazy, but when showering I light a candle & use the time & place as a prayer room. It is quiet no one there but me & God. Between society & our own selves we have many expectations of how things should happen. When they don’t turn out like we want then we can get a little upset. We begin to complain about how life is unfair. We have to realize that Christmas is more than lights, trees & gifts. It is about the ultimate gift of a baby born in a manager who died a horrible death on a cross. This post reminds me of two songs “It’s a bout the Cross” by the Ball Brothers & “Leaving Heaven” by Matthew West.
Yes Covid may make this holiday season different, but the real meaning is about God who willingly gave His only son to be born of a Virgin & die a horrible death on a cross so we could have real life one day. That alone is a most precious gift any one could give,
Blessings 🙂
Kristen Strong says
Yes, I too love warm light in a room–candle light and soft lamplight. But you’re right–to enjoy their light I need to have some dark! True, true. I just don’t generally love a completely dark room, ya know? BUT I always enjoy your wise contributions to this community, dear Beth!
Nancy Ruegg says
Thank you especially for this, Kristen: “Change always exposes expectations. And if we can dare to release those expectations, it might make room for other good things — better things — God has for us.” Several life-experiences of the past come to mind, including moves to new communities that I did not want to face. Yet each time, God had good things planned for us. As new changes are bound to occur in our future, may I remember your encouragement to release expectations and make room for the good things GOD has for us. Advent blessings to you and your family, Kristen!