Our family cuddled on the couch watching a movie as late afternoon rain pelted down. It seemed fitting that there was a literal storm outside as the world stormed around us — the response to COVID-19 was just getting serious here in the U.S. I only half-heard my kids as they laughed at the screen and asked for a snack. I kept thinking about our neighbor.
We’ve waved hello back and forth while pulling in and out of driveways dozens of times, but all I really know is that this elderly wife and husband live alone and never had children. I’d guess they are in their eighties. They’ve lived on our street longer than I’ve been alive but their accent tells of rich German roots. I wish I could remember her name.
I got up off the couch. “Whatcha doing?” my husband asked. He was home too. His work trip had been canceled like most everything would be in the coming days.
“I keep thinking about those neighbors.” I pointed diagonally out our front window. “I feel like I should go see if they need anything.”
My husband agreed and offered his help too. I pulled on my red rain shoes right over my fluffy socks. I didn’t take off my sweatpants or brush my hair. I just went. I popped up my umbrella, ran across the street, and rang the doorbell. After some time, my neighbor opened the door. “Yes?” she said tentatively. She didn’t have on makeup either.
“Hi, I’m Becky. I live across the street. Over there with the three boys. And I was just wondering if you’re okay? Everything is pretty crazy right now with the coronavirus, and I wanted to see if you needed anything.”
“Oh, we’re fine, Becky. But thank you for coming over and asking,” she said, a shy smile spreading across her face.
I offered to run to the grocery or pharmacy anytime she needs. I told her my husband is really handy and is more than happy to fix anything around their house. I asked her name. “Crystal,” she said. “Like the glass.” I handed Crystal a handwritten card with our cell phone numbers and told her again to please call or text anytime. Then I popped up my umbrella and walked back home.
Later that night, I called my sister while I was making dinner. You should know I’m not a big fan of talking on the phone, and life is always busy for both of us so we rarely talk. But as a kidney transplant survivor she’s immunosuppressed. I just felt like I should call. Miraculously she picked up. “You were on my mind. How are you?” I asked while slicing croissants. My call was timely. It was good to talk.
The next morning, a friend was on my mind so I texted her. I’ve seen the memes flying around Facebook, heard about the racial slurs and suspicious looks darting toward anyone of Asian descent. I wanted to check in on one of my Asian-American friends – my gut said she could use the reminder that she is wanted, loved, seen. I was right.
Friends, there is nothing extraordinary in any of these things I did. But I’m sharing them as a reminder to myself and to you that there is power in walking across the street, making a phone call, and sending a text. There is power in reaching out and letting others know they are seen. This is true every day – and perhaps no more so than today.
Long before COVID-19 was ever a thing, (in)courage and DaySpring decided to make #LoveOverAll our 2020 theme. I wrote about it here, but the gist is this: Over everything else, we must put on the love of Christ which bonds us together; over everything else, we get to love one another because God first loved us (Colossians 3:12-14; 1 John 4:19).
In January, I challenged us to consider what #LoveOverAll really means. Now’s the time to live it. Here are some simple ideas for loving well.
19 Ways to #LoveOverAll in Light of COVID-19:
1. Share a square — or a whole roll — with someone who didn’t make it to Costco quick enough.
2. Check on an elderly neighbor and offer to pick up groceries or prescriptions.
3. Pray for those on the front lines of meeting medical needs: doctors, nurses, ambulance drivers, police officers, and firefighters.
4. Pray for leaders making crucial decisions: pastors, business owners, education professionals, and government officials.
5. Donate money or supplies to your local soup kitchen or food bank.
6. Write a card and mail it. (Snail mail always brightens a day.)
7. Drop off games or puzzles you’re not using to another family.
8. Play games and do puzzles with your family.
9. Make a batch of freezer meals and give them away.
10. Pick up the phone and call whoever is on your heart today.
11. Order take out from your local Chinese restaurant or other small business.
12. Smile when others are angry, rushed, or panicked.
13. Let someone cut in front of you in line.
14. Find out if friends or family with a suppressed immune system need anything.
15. Leave a thank you note on the porch for postal and delivery workers.
16. Ask how someone is doing and really listen.
17. Offer childcare for a single mom or working parents.
18. Say thank you to check-out clerks and drive-thru workers.
19. Listen to the Holy Spirit and love others however He leads you to.
I don’t know if Crystal will ever take me up on my offer to run errands or help with chores, but at least on a stormy day when uncertainty swarms around us, Crystal knows that she is not forgotten. She is loved. And so are you.
How can you embrace the opportunity to put on #LoveOverAll in light of COVID-19?
Share your ideas below. We are in this together.
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Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Becky,
I’ve been trying to think of ways to reach out while still maintaining “social distance.” Like you, my heart turned to reaching out to others when this COVID-19 really started to loom over us. I’m not big on spending hours on the phone, but it was amazing – the response I got from calling my friend who is a nurse, another whose mom is dying in hospice care, another who is recovering from surgery, my mom, my neighbor… I plan to write some notes to friends and family who are miles away. This is how we be the hands and feet of Jesus when the world is panicking. A smile, a kind word, and a helping hand go a long way in times like these. Thanks for sounding the rally cry, Becky!
Blessings,
Bev xx
Becky Keife says
I’m with you, Bev! I think now’s the time to put aside our preferences for connecting and press into the ways we can let others know they aren’t alone. So glad that phone calls were so meaningful! You’ve encouraged me today too. xx
Melody G says
– Make cards, write poems or silly jokes, draw pictures to send to relatives, nursing home patients, health care workers, first responders, or anyone who could use some encouragement.
-Host a virtual get together, game night, prayer service.
-Post 3 blessings you noticed today on social media. Help others see the light during this dark time.
-Share your talent. Make a video of the song your child was scheduled to sing in their school program before school was cancelled.
-Write a note of encouragement to a high school or college senior who is missing out on making some very special memories.
-Make yard signs to remind everyone to “Stay home. Stay safe. Stay strong. We CAN make it through this together!”
Becky Keife says
Melody, this list is FANTASTIC! Thank you.
Dori Knope says
I’m new to replying to these posts, but was inspired by the message today! I have worked with the families of infants and toddlers for years and have quite a supply of toys, very simple craft activities (like playdoh and markers) and books. I am able to do phone or virtual visits with the families on my case load for work, but in addition I plan to package up a book, a small approriate toy or activity and (of course for me) bubbles and drop them to my families. Also, I have a stock of unused craft supplies, and plan to drop them to some moms of my church to use with their kiddos over three. I hope the Lord will use these care packages to cheer up the moms with children!!
Becky Keife says
Dori, I’m so glad you posted a comment today! I’m so encouraged by your thoughtfulness in using the resources you have to bless the relationships in your life. As a mom of three who remembers the little years well, I know this will be such a gift to those families!
Michele Morin says
I’m all about phone calls and snail mail even without a pandemic to motivate me.
And… Yesterday I mailed my Sunday school kids’ weekly papers (ages 4-5) to them with a note on the envelope: “Save for Sunday!”
I’m going to video their lesson (nothing fancy because I’m tech challenged) and send it to their mum’s via FB message so they can have a bit of Bible in their Sunday morning and then work on their lesson materials with their family’s help.
Becky Keife says
Oh, Michele, this is so wonderful!
Kathy Cheek - The Hope Collection says
I had been working on a short book of 31 hope-filled devotions I was going to do as an eBook later this year, but with all that is going on I felt God nudge me to do this now and pray He uses it to be an uplifting source of hope.
The Hope Collection: Portraying the Hope We Have in God
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085XNR9N2/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=The+Hope+Collection+Kathy+Cheek&qid=1584323884&s=books&sr=1-1
Becky Keife says
Yes, we all need to be pointed back to Hope, every day and especially in these days! God bless you for your faithfulness to encourage others.
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
Let as God people all over the word do what Jesus would want us to do at this time. Over this Cornonavaris. That is Stand on the Promises of God word the Bible and Prayer. Plus apply Psalm 91 over our lives everyday putting our names into that psalm. Plus God showed me a great thing. It spoke volumes to me at this time. You remember in the Bible Jesus fed 5000 people with five loaves and two fish. Not alone the amount of Children that would have been there that day. Jesus told them to sit on the grass. The people that day where not worried if the person beside them had washed their hands. Or if they had anything. Nor where they worried about Germs that day. They came to hear the Master of the world speak. Who was Jesus. They knew Jesus wouldn’t let anything happen to them. So we as God people are too the same. Keep looking on to Jesus his Word the Bible and Prayer at this time and stand on the promises of God Word the Bible. Plus this song comes to mind at this time. You get on Youtube a golden oldie. For I am standing on the promises of God the promises that cannot and will not fail. How true a song that is. Plus the words of it are. So lets as Gods people keep our eyes on the Saviour of the World. Keep looking on his word the Bible and the Promises in it. Excellent reading today. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xxx
Becky Keife says
Dawn, I love the reminder that God is the God of miracles and He can multiply to meet our needs.
Jan says
Well said, Becky!
Thank you for this message. I especially appreciate the importance of “reaching out and letting others know that they are seen”.
You gave us so many wonderful ideas.
God bless you and yours.
Becky Keife says
Thank you for being here, Jan.
Connie says
It’s the first day of spring tomorrow! I am baking cookies to deliver to the neighbors to celebrate!!! Spring is coming (although…it is supposed to snow tomorrow-but it will be pretty!) and COVID-19 can’t stop it!!! Yipee!!
Becky Keife says
Woohoo! Homemade cookies will surely brighten someone’s day, snow or not. Bless you as you bake!
Noreen says
It’a been said times like these can bring out the worst in people, especially when fear and panic consume our world around us. Let”s be the opposite of that inward turning and instead turn outward and see the needs before us. True we need to exercise caution, but also exercise love to those around us to hold high the light of Christ that may be a beacon to others to do the same. It”s not of our own accord, but through Holy Spirit who gives us the strength to do it, all the while being a beacon of hope in Jesus name!
P. S. I’m going to place a thank you note on my mailbox for my postal carrier….thanks Becky!
Becky Keife says
Beautifully said, Noreen. Thank you! I’m going to write that note to my postal carrier today too.
Robin Dance says
Simple gestures are so powerful! Sometimes it’s the little things we can do for one another that have the greatest impact :). I love your heart in your actions and words today…and I know your list will inspire all of us to “go and do likewise.” (For me? I’ve made homemade sourdough to deliver…I’m praying about who “needs” a loaf right now!!) xoxo
Becky Keife says
Oooh, a loaf of love! What a wonderful gift. Thank you for your encouraging words and lived example!
Theresa Boedeker says
There are so many little ways to be God’s hands and feet. We have hope and we need rd to share it. This virus is no surprise to God. Loving how people are being motivated by love, and not fear.
Becky Keife says
Love > Fear
Always.
And God is not surprised. Such a timely reminder, Theresa. Thank you.
Renae says
I’m a nurse in a long term care facility. Our place has been on lock down for some time now, no visitors. Some of these residents are bound to their rooms and are getting lonely and depressed.
If you have children that are at home and you need to find something for them to do, have them make some colorful, home made cards and drop them off at the front desk for these residents. It will bring a smile to their faces.
🙂
Becky Keife says
Renae, what a wonderful suggestion! I will have my three boys do just that! God bless you as you love and serve these most vulnerable and precious members of our communities.
Jennifer Price says
As I read through your list of 19 Ways to Love Over All, I see hope and opportunity—thank you! God will always take a situation that looks bleak and make something beautiful out of it. There are so many hidden blessings in a time such as this. I see this time as one where we get to spend more time with our families. Our middle and high schoolers get a break from their never-ending homework load. Some people get a break from a long commute to work and can work from home. Some moms or dads get a break from getting up at 5am to take their kid to zero period at school (me!). We have another reason to reach out to our neighbors who we don’t know as well. This is a time for God to receive the glory when the world sees us behaving and reacting with peace, wisdom, love and others-orientedness (is that a word?).
I pray for those who have lost income as a result of this pandemic—that God will provide abundantly. I pray for emergency, police, and healthcare workers, those who are elderly or have compromised immune systems—that they would be covered by the blood of Jesus. I pray for the children living in homes that are not physically or emotionally healthy and who probably looked to school as a safe escape or a place to be with friends—that Jesus would cover them with his love and mercy. I pray for kids who need the nutrition from breakfast and lunch that schools provide—that they would find the food resources in their communities and schools and that God would provide transportation if their parents work all day. I pray for those who are homeless—that they would have a safe place to eat, sleep, and earn an income. I pray for our state, local, and school leaders—that they would make wise decisions and feel the support of their communities. I pray for business owners—that God would provide alternative ways to sell their products and services during this time. I pray for peace to replace anxiety, hope to replace worry, and love to cover all—yes, Love Over All!
Becky Keife says
Amen! Beautiful prayers. Thank you, Jennifer!
Kelly G says
Thank you for the practical, do-able examples. ♥
Becky Keife says
You’re so welcome, Kelly. I need the reminder too!
Elizabeth says
These are all great tips not just for helping others but helping to feel less isolated. My favorite is #17. I’m a single mother and it is very challenging navigating working while my 2 year old daughter is home because her preschool is closed. Right now, I’m not comfortable having anyone else in my home or sending my daughter anywhere, but I could sure use some help. I’m so tired! My prayer is that things will start to turn around soon for al of us.
Becky Keife says
My heart goes out to you, Elizabeth. My sister is a single mom and I pray for her and other single moms often. Praying today that you feel the comfort of God’s nearness in the midst of your tiredness. Even if you don’t get a physical break, may you find rest for your soul as Jesus promises.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:28-29
Krissy says
thank you for the reminder to show our good nature in these times of stress too.
I have a child with immune defiency so trying to get out before this gets really bad is hard. we aren’t in lock down yet here in my country but day by day numbers grow. people have shown so much goodness to my family here that I have had tears of joy. I’m overwhelmed with all the well wishes and acts of love.
just small things that show love.
I’m praying for all the elderly and single parents in this too
your on my heart and mind. we are doing virtual youth groups weekly so my teens can stay connected with the pastor and 24 other kids at once.
Becky Keife says
Krissy, your heart and prayers for others in the midst of your own trials encourages me! Thank you. xx
Beth Williams says
Becky,
This world is so busy & rushed most of the time. We don’t usually take the time to “truly care” for & love others. Your list is a good one. For me I already do most of those items. Once a month my church participates in a Feed the Multitude for less fortunate. If there are any casseroles, veges or fruit left over I grab some & take to my MIL & my elderly neighbor. Smiling & saying thank you to tired workers come naturally to me. My family texted me to see how we are doing in all this as we are both medical-hubby CT & I am a hospital clerical. Thus far no positive cases in our area. We take the necessary precautions. Last Sunday our church showed a podcast on COVID 19 aimed at church leaders. It talked about having video church services, doing communion differently & other ideas. Now more than ever we need to look out for one another. Offer any help you can to elderly or sick people. Our hospital is only allowing 1 visitor per patient at a time & you must be screened (temp) before getting in. Let’s all do our part & show this world the love of God.
Blessings 🙂
Becky Keife says
Beth, bless you for all the ways you show love in your everyday life and now during this crisis! We all need to do our part. Yes. xx
Sharon Dowdy says
Thank you Becky for a great devotional! The quarantine has been a blessing in a way. It has taken our gaze off the fast pace forward and opened our eyes to those around us. ❤️
Pamela Burke says
Thank you for your ideas on what we can do to help others at this trying time. I have had the extra time to spend with the people that live with me in a room and board. My roommate told me that I am the only friend that she has here. I share the setup that I have to play Netflix series that we (my roommate and I) enjoy. Also, I take the time to watch the TV in our living room with the other women that share the house with me, the managers and their grandchildren. I feel that I ended up here in order to spread the love of Jesus around. They have also been supportive of allowing me to mourn the loss of my brother-in-law recently and the loss of my father last year on the 7th anniversary of my sobriety. I am also in recovery from mental health issues. I have not been in a psych ward since April 20, 2012. Praise you Jesus!
CJ says
Hi Becky,
Today is the first time I took the time to read more of the articles in the DaySpring. I work within healthcare but I am also a photographer who gives all of my photos away usually to cancer patients or family. However during this chaos I prayed in how I can give back and Jesus laid on my heart to give photo cards to staff at the hospital where I work. So far I’ve given away 55 cards but it was laid upon my heart to give 120 away.. I write a saying on each.. it warms my heart to hand them out but it brings a smile to the stranger who receives it…
As uncertainty remains the constant peace for me is our Heavenly Father said, ” come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28.
God Bless each who reads. CJ
Becky Keife says
CJ, thank you so much for your service as a healthcare worker, especially in these challenging days. I’m so inspired by the way you’re using your gifts and resources to bring light and beauty into this world. So grateful you joined us at (in)courage and shared your #loveoverall story. xx