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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. Mary,
    I realize it’s a pretty small circle of family and friends who have supported and encouraged me through the years. I call them my “perseverance posse”. They’ve been there through the good, the bad, and the ugly when many others jumped ship. They saw the “real” me, warts and all, and loved me just the same. They supported my passions in writing and didn’t think I was crazy to want to start a school for orphans in Pakistan, of all places. They understood I was an “empath” and handled my heart tenderly. That is what the “front row” does. So thankful for those people…they know who they are, but I need to remember to thank them and return the gift of encouragement. I haven’t seen the movie yet, but suspect I’ll be crying at that part as well, Mary! Beautiful and poignant post!
    Bev xx

    • I want to thank Bev for all her support, love, friendship and sisterhood. I just had total knee replacement last week and Bev has been standing front and center cheering me on through the pain and discomfort. Words, cards, ice pack, love have been sent my way from this precious girl. I met her through this wonderful blog and so grateful for her and everyone here. God is so good in providing us what we need. He knew I needed a friend like Bev. I only hope I am
      As good a friend back to her as she is for me. I love you Bev and I am richly blessed having you in my life. Love Kathy

      • Kathy,
        So thankful for (in)courage that allowed our God-ordained paths to cross. Going through surgery is like a boxing match and God knows you need someone in your corner cheering you on because the battle is brutal. Wish I could be there in person, but sending lots of love, hugs, and prayers that you will come through this victoriously. You are a wonderful friend, and more…you are my sister…
        Bev xo

    • Bev, I love that you call them your “perseverance posse,” but I love even more how you describe your people handling your heart tenderly. That is a big deal! xoxo

  2. I didn’t realize just how much I needed this today. I’m a pastor’s wife who has experienced some sheep bite lately. I went to bed last night very discouraged and asking the Lord for proper perspective. He answered me with this article. I am now rejoicing and looking forward to church tomorrow! Thank you so much!!

    • Rebecca, I chuckled at your term, “sheep bite,” but it’s also such a great descriptor. I immediately knew what you meant. I’m grateful this post was encouraging to you!

  3. Mary,

    In Courage is that kind of place. We get to encourage each other here. Pray for those hurting/going through trials. Give advice to those needing it. I’ve met wonderful people here that I will never forget. I’ve been the recipient of many prayers & have the privilege of praying for others. My new job- in hospital allows me to pray for my co-workers & patients alike. If someone codes or isn’t doing well then I stop & ask God to help them. Also try to encourage everyone I see. No one is a stranger to me, just someone I haven’t met yet. I beam a smile on my face & say hello to all in the hallways. Trying to make their stay with family a little brighter. When you get to know me well you will see that encouragement is my God given gift. I don’t need to be in the spot light. Just cheer others on to success. Love helping others succeed. Everyone deserves a howdy or have a nice day. It just might turn their day around. I know it does for me. Last Thursday I got a kind of “atta girl” from my boss. He said “I hear nothing but good about you.” That made me feel so good that my hard work is showing off. Mind you I’ve only been in this job 6 month & the environment is totally new to me-never worked in hospital setting much less ICU Step down unit before. Felt great to have my 15 minutes of fame.

    Blessings 🙂

  4. We can want the fame for all the wrong reasons. It can be what can I do to get the Cheering just for me. There are people who are Christians who are all about Me Me. They just want the Cheering and the lime light all too themselves. I bet we all know thoes type of people. They go out of their way to get it. I am the type of person. I only like to Cheered if I need it. I know someone she loves the lime light. She do anything too get it. Jesus does not want us to be show off people. Then give people the credit when needed. As we put ourselves on petastole. Thinking when we do something for someone. They must pay us back. Jesus never worked like that everything he did was out of love and because he cared. Jesus never wanted paid back. We should be the same. We Cheer our Christian Sisters on in Love and not seek a reward. For all the lovely things they do. Giving them that encourage and letting them know we love them and appreciate them in Jesus. Another Excellent reading. Dawn Ferguson-Little

    • That’s a great point, Dawn, about how we should cheer on our sisters wholeheartedly and without expecting something in return. Yes, THIS is the kind of friend I want to be!

  5. I’ve never heard of this movie but now I want to see it. We all need people in our lives who recognize the greatness in us and we all need to be the kind of people who recognize the greatness in others. Thank you for always writing something that speaks to my heart. You have a gift. Thank you for shining it brightly for the rest of us to see Him.

  6. Amen. This speaks to my prayer of God for my mission. He’s speaking to me clearly these days, that my service to Him is going to be a humble, close to home service.