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Sarah is an imperfect Jesus follower, learning to let others into her mess. She is married to Brian, and a mom of three hilarious and amazing kids. She’s also dog lover. Just ask Nala, the spoiled golden-doodle that resides at her feet.

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  1. There is SO much risk to this, and yet we will never discover the truth of it without the risk. Thank you, Sarah, for daring to share the messiness of it here. And I believe that if someone goes first and confesses their slide toward despair or their broken heart that others will dare to follow.

  2. I try so hard to take care of everyone’s needs that I feel like a vessel with a hole in it. No matter how hard I try to hold on to something for ME, I just feel totally drained of all sense of possible peace. Living with a nagging husband whose temper flares up easily and who has narcissistic tendencies does wonders to sabotage my peace. That’s why God fills that void – when I let Him. I am one who wears the mask of ‘happy happy joy joy’ when inside my heart is breaking. Knowing that God sees me and knows EVERTHING about me and knows EVERY feeling I am experiencing is what helps me navigate through this valley of tears.

    • You are a child of God. Sometimes God doesn’t ask us to wear the mask of “happy, happy, joy, joy”. Praying that that you experience God’s peace and the loving care of your community as you navigate this.

  3. Thanks for sharing, I struggle with the negative voices and shame. It’s so hard for me to open up and trust someone. I built this wall around my heart. Because I don’t want to be rejected, hurt or feel like a failure. Hearing your message and others helps me to go boldly to God and ask him to help guide my mind and heart!

  4. Sarah,

    You shared great truths here. The best way to fight the evil one is through community. Find a trusted friend & just tell them your story. Emily P. Freeman said in her book Grace for the Good Girl: “It’s time to take off the masks of perfection & be ourselves.” Why do Christians believe we must be perfect in order to be loved? That’s a lie!! God loves us unconditionally. He loved us even in our sin state. Life down here in the messy middle between two Edens is hard enough. God never intended for us to do this life alone. He said we would have trials & tribulations down here. He has sent the Holy Spirit & others to help us. It can be risky to tell someone, but you just may find a “you too” in that person. God asks us to pray & encourage one another. We can’t do that if we don’t know the problems. He doesn’t expect you to carry all the burdens on your own. He expects you to cast your cares on Him. Let’s all take off the masks & get real with each other. It will lighten the load & we will feel much better.

    Blessings 🙂

  5. Sarah,

    You shared great truths here. The best way to fight the evil one is through community. Find a trusted friend & just tell them your story. Emily P. Freeman said in her book Grace for the Good Girl: “It’s time to take off the masks of perfection & be ourselves.” Why do Christians believe we must be perfect in order to be loved? That’s a lie!! God loves us unconditionally. He loved us even in our sin state. Life down here in the messy middle between two Edens is hard enough. God never intended for us to do this life alone. He said we would have trials & tribulations down here. He has sent the Holy Spirit & others to help us. It can be risky to tell someone, but you just may find a “you too” in that person. God asks us to pray & encourage one another. We can’t do that if we don’t know the problems. He doesn’t expect you to carry all the burdens on your own. He expects you to cast your cares on Him. Let’s all take off the masks & get real with each other. It will lighten the load & we will feel much better.

  6. This made me cry. It felt like you telling my story. Practicing vunerability is still hard, but I’m getting better at it. The value I experience is how I can do it again, and again… Finding those who have the right to share in my journey is a gift only God could have orchestrated. The unexpected result of such relationships has been the turned table of being the support and encouragement at times. The fabric of life being woven.

  7. Beautiful, what would life be like if we all exposed our mess without shame? Thank you for this wonderfully written story and for your courage to share. You inspire us all!

  8. Thanks for sharing. I feel so hopeless and helpless words cannot describe. The last 3-4 years have been a struggle beyond description. Tremendous loses, incredible hurt and pain, betrayals, sadness that cannot be sooth, legal, personal, financial, health issues. Every aspect of my lufe is so dark right now, please pray that the Lord will show me the right steps to make.

  9. Sarah, thanks for sharing a piece of the real you. Like you, I’m learning authenticity might incur pain but it’s the only path to real relationship. The other day I told my husband, “Isn’t it strange to think we were never created to feel fear? (Or shame, or despair, or any of that.) Those emotions are so common it’s hard to imagine life without them. Sure makes heaven that much more appealing!