I’ve spent the last many weeks juggling Christmas parties and shopping lists, trying to remember which kid needs a $5 ornament and which one has to bring a traditional holiday dish for his class feast. In the midst of the holiday happiness and chaos, I’ve also been trying hard to listen — straining for the answer to the question my spirit is aching over:
God, what are You saying? Help me to hear. I don’t want to miss it.
I have a case of spiritual angst over hearing God’s voice. Not because I doubt His ability to speak to my heart, but because sometimes I question whether I’ll be able to hear Him above all the noise.
Life is just so loud.
I’m not talking about the constant clamor coming from my three growing boys. (Though the volume they produce is staggering.) I’m talking about the noise of constant information and solicitation. The amplification of confrontation. The perpetual bombardment of breaking news and viral videos. Divisive posts and explosive comment threads. So much fine print and endless must-see lists. My eyes are blurry and my ears are ringing — and it’s not from twinkling lights or jingle bells.
None of it is particularly out of the ordinary. It’s become the white noise to our regular lives. But just because it’s normal doesn’t mean it’s spiritually palatable.
I can’t stand radio commercials or TV commercials. They trigger immediate irritation. Just ask my husband. My senses also feel assaulted by huge billboards flanking the freeway and flashing neon signs groping for my attention. Pop-up ads and email spam, flyers tucked under my windshield wipers and stuffed in my front door handle. It’s all too much for me to handle.
I wonder if I’m the only one who feels this way. Does everyone else know how to tune it all out? Or do they somehow embrace the nonstop petitioning for our attention, our purchase, our opinion? Do others just happily ride the current of hot trends and best deals without any soul nausea from feeling jostled inside?
Anyone else exhausted by it all?
It’s not that I have anything against the blowout sale at Macy’s or the new Chinese restaurant with the coupons for free wontons. I’m sure I’d enjoy reading all the magazines and subscribing to all the podcasts and you bet I’d look better, feel better if I said yes to every workout plan and supplement and oil promoted on Facebook. Business and commerce and blog posts aren’t bad. But if I had one wish this Christmas, it might be for those noise-canceling headphones that I envy every time I’m on an airplane.
Yet the noise entering my ears isn’t as much the issue as the noise clamoring in my soul.
Noise demands to be heard. It’s territorial. It crowds out whatever else is trying to take up space. I think this is why I’m aching for quiet this Christmas. I want to tune out, push back anything that isn’t Jesus. I want to make room for Him not only on the day we celebrate His birth but every day.
Pretty much everything I share online could be tagged #preachingtomyownheart because there’s nothing I can tell someone else that I don’t need to hear. So here’s what I’m preaching to myself these days that I hope is helpful to you too.
Practical ways to quiet the noise:
1. Mute commercials.
Use that TV remote, turn off the radio, and click the volume down on your phone whenever advertisements start blaring. Just because there’s a commercial on doesn’t mean you have to listen. It sounds basic, and it is. But the absence of extra noise and information will be a gift you didn’t know you needed.
2. Set up a separate email account.
Nowadays every store and website wants your email address. No big deal, but don’t use your personal or work email for online and retail sign-ups. With a dedicated account, all the sales and marketing pitches will be in one place for you to find them if you’re looking for something. Your regular inbox will be less cluttered and so will your mind.
3. Give up multitasking.
Okay, I know this one isn’t always possible, but resist the urge to double up on every task. You don’t have to listen to a podcast or watch TV or catch up on Instagram stories every time you’re driving to work, sitting in the school pick up line, or doing dishes. Let there be margin for quiet.
4. Go outside every day.
Even if it’s just for five minutes and you have to bundle up, spend a little time with fresh air in your lungs and sun (or snow glare) on your skin. Leave your phone inside. Just listen. Look around you. Short bursts of intentional stillness will expand your capacity to handle the noisy world around you.
The answer to my aching question might sound different depending on the day, but God’s reply is essentially always the same: Make space for Me.
We won’t miss God’s voice when we make space for quiet.
Whatever kind of noise is causing commotion in your life this time of year, take time to remember the One who knows what your soul really needs.
The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.
Psalm 23:1-3 (NIV)
I love that God impressed these words upon the heart of Christ’s earthly ancestor, King David, and then a thousand years later, announced the arrival of His Son to a group of shepherds under the stillness of a starry sky. The gift of God’s guidance, His with-ness, is timeless.
God, thank You for giving us Jesus. Because of Him we lack nothing. Lead us this Christmas into moments of quiet. Refresh our hearts with Your presence. Amen.
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We are sisters in grumpiness over both the visual AND the auditory noise of 21st century living. Even watching the news, I sometimes miss the point because I’m watching all the words running along the bottom of the screen. Like you, I need to get outside every day, and another tip that’s working for me is quiet in the car. My sons are older than yours, so I sometimes get to go places alone, and I don’t give in to the temptation to listen to my beloved NPR during that sacred time. Sometimes I pray using words, but sometimes I’m listening to the quiet.
Thank you for this encouragement at the end of a noisy year. We really need to steward our brain space in this world that C.S. Lewis has called “the kingdom of noise.”
Wow Michele, love ” we really need to steward our brain space in this world!” I have been aching for some alone time with God, I finally got some and feel so refreshed! I pray all my sisters in this online community would get to do the same!
Amen, Kristen. This busy time when we are focused on Jesus often leaves little opportunity for alone and focused time. Good for you that you’ve made it a priority!
Michele, I just love the way you put this! So blessed to know this resonated with you. Thanks for the encouragement.
Kristen, I’m so glad you got some alone time and feel refreshed! Praying for more times like that for you (and for me) in 2019. Blessings.
So true what you wrote. Thank you so much for true message. The best Christmas we can give anyone is the way we live our lives by being Jesus to unsaved world who think it all about buying presents. When it about the real present Jesus that came into the world as baby. Xxx
Amen!
You’re not the only one! I just asked my husband to mute the tv for a few minutes last night because I was craving some quiet from everything….all week, I’ve been running around listening to people, dodging phone calls, and handling rowdy dogs while trying to sort through the never-ending mental to-do list generated from my own nesting. And my wonderful little bean is demanding more and more attention from me now that I’m nearing the end of my pregnancy ….it’s all just been too much! So glad to know it isn’t just me.
Valencia, I hope you can carve out some quiet in the days and weeks ahead before you welcome your little one. Much love and congrats!
I love this Becky! I’m a senior now and I’m learning how to make room for silence in the hustle & bustle of daily life too..Jesus Christ is the only way my quiet comes..I won’t start a day without Him \0/ making room for baby Jesus is just that! Making room! soon January will call us to rest and reset and start anew.. we wait in anticipation for His second coming.. come Lord Jesus.. come rest in our hearts, yes margin for quiet… His quiet… blessings and prayers to y’all..
Oh, such refreshing words you leave here, Sadie. Yes, making room requires us to make room. Love that you’ve resolved to do so at the start of every day. Beautiful.
Becky,
This world is so noisy lately. I just don’t do much social media. or watch news much. I also record TV shows so I can fast forward commercials. All this clamoring for my attention makes me a little edgy. Bonnie Gray wrote about: Spiritual White Space. She states we need to create margin in our lives. Lysa Terkeurst in “Your Best Yes” has us look at our schedules & start making margin for what’s important. States “don’t say yes to everything that comes along.” Our country has become so divisive & loud. This is so true during the holidays. We need to be intentional about making time to be still & know. You’ve given us some good ideas. One more might be to cut back on social media & make time for quiet. It could be no radio on in car, simple five minutes in AM before everyone else is up or in PM when all are in bed. We need to shut out this worldly crap & hear truly hear God.
Blessings 🙂 Have a blessed & quiet Merry Christmas!
Beth, yes, great ideas you add! And love these wonderful resources you’ve mentioned as well. Thank you.
I love this post. I can so relate and I needed to hear it! Thank you.
Julie, I’m so glad it was timely for you. Me too. #preachingtomyownheart 🙂
Thank you for writing the struggle that has been in my heart for quietness and still moments for the past 8 months. I often find myself driving around without any music after dropping our boys at school. It is almost too much—even beautiful Christian music. I truly thought it was just me. Thank you for giving us this perspective and for putting your words out there to touch people like me, who are experiencing the same feelings. May you have a wonderful Christmas with quiet moments sprinkled in.❤️
It’s not just you! You are normal! We all face the same struggles of noise…vs. peace. ❤️
Christine and Jen, such a blessing to know we’re not alone, yes? I’m with you in claiming more moments of peace. xx
Becky,
This morning I opened an email titled: “Something Special,” with a video attached of a herd of Caribou running freely through the Arctic snow. It was not only special but so peaceful. I understand about blocking out the unneeded noise to better hear God’s voice telling us what is. Sharing your words along with Psalm 23:1-3, will be another bright spot in my day, thank-you.
Merry Christmas and blessings to all,
Penny
Ooh, that does sound peaceful! Thanks so much for being here, Penny. xx
Wow Becky,
As I read this , just now I thought …” it’s NOT just me “ , often this world is too noisy! I often turn off everything, go out on my deck and just enjoy nature and the quiet. I do have to admit, I often set my timer but …I get a lot of quiet in as I’m home disabled from several illnesses, but I still get overwhelmed with most of the same things you mention above.
Merry Christmas to you and your family, may your year ahead offer more “ quiet “ time …
Jen, I love that you’re intentional about getting outside and enjoying God’s creation and quiet. Much love to you as well. May 2019 be a year full of peace and the joy of God’s presence. xx
I can’t love this enough! I can totally relate. Thank you for the reminder to turn it off and just listen to Him!! I love the practical ideas you included!
Yah! Thank you, Courtney. Comments like this mean so much. xx
Thank you for communicating so eloquently my heart’s longing….for quiet, not only from the noice without, but sometimes the noice from within. I say a BIG AMEN!!!
Many blessings at this most sacred, beautiful time!
Donna
Thank you, Donna! Knowing this resonates with you is a blessing to my heart.