Kristin Vanderlip
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A bereaved mother and veteran military spouse, Kristin Vanderlip is passionate about spreading the love of writing as a source of healing and hope. She is the author of Rest: A Journal for Lament. Kristin, her husband, and their two boys currently call California’s Bay Area home.

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  1. First, Kristin, let me thank you for the service you and your husband are offering up to our country–and to those of us who enjoy the privilege of spouses and parents living with us with us full time in safety because you are giving up that comfort.
    And your train of thought about the pain of life being our training ground for comforting others is so gospel-oriented and helpful to my thinking.
    Blessings to you!

    • Michele, Thank you for your support and your kind words. I’m so thankful that no season that comes with waiting, pain, or longing is wasted. Our Good Father uses it all to draw us close to Him and allow us to in turn bless others with an outpouring of His love and compassion. Blessings to you too, Kristin

  2. Kristin,

    God bless you, our husband & family for the service you all are providing us. We are blessed to live in a free country thanks to the heartbreak & generosity of men & women, boys & girls like yours. (((((Hugs))))).

    There are times I long to go back to my younger days & redo life. Wishing I could fix mu mistakes & undo stupidity. With holidays approaching I miss family. My parents are both dead now & my family is spread out over the world. It will be just me, hubby & his family for Thanksgiving. Grateful to have that, but missing my siblings, nieces & nephews. We can receive our Heavenly Father’s comfort when we wrap ourselves in His love. He allows trials so that with the comfort He gives us we can then comfort others. YES YES!!!

    Praying for you all right now. May your hubby come home soon!!

    Blessings 🙂

    • Beth, Thank you for your support and I appreciate your comments! This time of year can be especially hard on so many of us. But we can hold both gratitude and longing simultaneously in our hands and bring them both to Our Good Father. Praying for His comfort to wrap you in his love as you go and empower you to love and comfort those around you. Blessings back 😉 Kristin

  3. So beautiful Kristin. I know just how your little one feels, except my mom has been deployed to heaven. Praying right now that your husband comes home safely and soon!

    • Oh Donya our loved ones going to heaven sure seems like a deployment too doesn’t it? Praying for God’s comfort in your longings and as you miss her. And thank you for your prayers and support, he’s home safely now, but it will continue to be the ebb and flow of our lifestyle. Blessings to you, Kristin

  4. Kristin…..This is so beautiful and sad for your little guys heart all at the same time. Thanking your husband for what he does for us all and you for taking care of his family while he serves his country. This is beautifully written and I can’t wait to share it with my friend who is struggling with a longing….. May God bless you richly!

  5. Wow, this met me right where I am at today. Thank you for helping me see I am not alone in feeling longing. And I am so glad you are there to support your son and can share how to find comfort.

  6. Hi Kristin (great name, by the way!),
    Thank you for sharing your heart with us. My four-year-old daughter and two-year-old son miss the father that left us two years ago to pursue his own lifestyle. And if I’m honest with myself, I miss the support I imagine a loving, Christian husband could be. Thanks for sharing how you have helped your child find comfort and point Him to the God of all comfort. I am praying my children will come to know and trust God to be the Father who is always near and ready to help and comfort them as well. May God bless you and continue to use you as you continue on your journey with your family. Thank you for your transparency. The next time my daughter and I pray about her missing her daddy, I hope I can recall the language you used with your son. Being wrapped in our Heavenly Father’s love who keeps tears in a bottle is a special place to be!

  7. Kristin, May God keep you and your family in His Perfect Peace. Thank you for sharing your story and speaking aloud the feelings of our collective hearts.