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Statia is a quiet observer of life who is always searching for those extraordinary moments hidden in our ordinary days.She lives in central Pennsylvania with her husband, Dean. Her three brave daughters have taught her to face life, death, and everything in between with grace and hope.

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  1. Yes, “soaking in God’s love, grace, and truth.”
    Statia, I can’t begin to imagine the depth of your pain and loss. Thank you for allowing readers a glimpse of your journey, a moment that sheds light on our own quiet strugles and produces hope.

    • Thank you for reading. Writing has been such a huge part of my journey toward healing. It is encouraging to know that it can also help others on their own path.

  2. Thank you for your words. I, too, suffered a deep and traumatic loss. I can hardly attend funerals and when I do I sit in the back in case I just leave. After 12 years I feel I’m blooming on the debris but the grief is still there. I’ve tried everything to get well. God is with me and has brought me to where I’m at now. I am so very thankful. But I am tired.

    • Thank you for reading. I find that grief never truly leaves so I am learning to not just survive but truly thrive in the midst of it. It is hard work and very tiring. I will pray you feel God’s presence today.

  3. Thank you for this. I need to be reminded that waiting and lingering with pain and grief are okay. Not just for me, but for others who have suffered as well. It is God’s job in his timing to lead them to bloom again, not mine.

    • Yes, it is in the lingering that I have found healing. Lingering and clinging to God gave me strength. Thank you for reading.

  4. I remind myself daily- Your time, Your Will, not mine! I am going on 8 years, seems like forever some days, yesterday others!
    Thank you for sharing your story, your grief and pain,in His time! He is making beauty with the ashes! We just need to let go and allow Him to do what He does best! He created us and holds us close!
    Love and prayers to all!

    • Thank you so much for reading my story. Praise God for the ways He guides us to those who can understand us in ways others cannot.

  5. Your beautiful words are like shade on a hot summer day, a glass of ice water for a parched throat. I think you get the direction I’m attempting to go. Nothing of any value is ever accomplished without some type of struggle or cost. A life well lived is the same – it is the tears, the laughter, the frown lines and more that creates character and makes us unique and thus valuable. We are God’s treasure. He is the parent in the stands shouting “that’s my kid!”

    • Life is indeed always a mixture of the bitter and the sweet. It is His grace that turns it all into a beautiful story. Thanks for reading mine.

  6. Oh, Statia, I am so sorry for your losses. Thank you for courageously sharing your beautiful-broken heart and story with us. I have not lived with the same loss, but I, too, know Grief and I believe you. May you continue to find healing as you continue to soak up God’s love through your roots and receive His grace and loving kindness through your face and hands turned up toward Him.

  7. I’ve nothing to say regarding the death of your beloved child, since I know that pain, that vacant chair, will always be there in joy and sorrow, and with your husband also.

    Find a tiny measure of consolation in that your words have spoken to me, your blooms have encouraged me to believe that no matter how long it takes I too may bloom if I wait upon the Lord [but act when I feel Him boot me in the bum :)].

    Thank you

  8. Thank you for sharing. It has been a year since I lost my daughter. This year same month I lost my dad. I am beginning to feel some kind of way about September . It feels like an old wound has been re opened . I am going to save this post . It gave me comfort. As I began to read it my eyes filled with tears. Thank you again.

  9. Your words were perfect for me at this time today. I am sorry beyond what words can express for your loss. My beloved husband died a few months ago and I try so hard not to be sad or to cry or to ruminate over our idyllic life together before cancer stole him away. I stay busy with my teaching and many loving friends who have cared for me in so many ways. In my head, I realize grief must occur for healing but I am aware that God has faithfully lifted me up above so much of the pain that I would have otherwise experienced without Him. Thank you for sharing.

  10. Thank you so much for this post. I’m so sorry about your daughter.
    I too have been dealing for 13 years with grief from the loss of my son. He was murdered at the age of 29. God has been good to me too. But I feel exhausted some days from trying to hide what I feel inside when it’s a particularly difficult day. I’ve been told to snap out of it by friends, pastors and neighbors. I’ve had people say I’m keeping my son’s spirit from resting. I’ve been told you can’t be in the prayer ministry and pray effectively for others because when I’m having a bad it’s saying I don’t believe my son is with Jesus.
    Why can’t we be who we are in that moment.

    • Cherlyn,

      I’m so sorry for what “well meaning” Christians say. Not sure why we feel we know how people should feel or act. Everyone grieves differently. No one can truly understand one’s loss. God does understand. He grieves with you & will help you through this grieving process. Praying for you & your family.

      Blessings 🙂

  11. Statia,

    So sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter. Can’t imagine your grief. Know that I’ll be praying for you. Thank you for opening up & sharing this heart wrenching story. Those grieving any loss should quit striving & pretending. Tell friends how you really feel. Let the tears flow. God understands & grieves with you. Life gets hard & messy. We make missteps. God has plans for us. Plans to prosper us & not for harm. We just need to bloom where He plants us. It may not be where we would choose to be, but God knows best. He can bring beauty out of ashes. God is constantly molding us into the person He wants us to be. Let’s do our part & bloom where He puts us. Pray for others & watch Him work.

    Blessings 🙂

  12. This was so beautiful. So deep. So perfectly, spot-on. I barely have words. Everything I have felt for 9 years now. The trying so hard? It’s a THING, isn’t it? It’s exhausting. I needed to read this.

    The other day, I heard the live version of “Sails”. Have you heard it? My heart needed the words so badly. I’m so glad God has been patient with me.

    Thank you for writing this.

  13. Thank You so much for this beautiful blog post! Since last October, I have lost way too many friends unexpectedly. Most of them 40 years old or younger. It has been a long season of grief and your blog post really touched me. I even linked back to it at my blog as my Write 31 days series is on grieving well. Thanks again!