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Anjuli grew up as a missionary kid secretly wondering, “Why does everyone else understand what a relationship with Jesus is, but me?” It wasn’t until she ran into her fears instead of from them, that Anjuli found her voice and the love of God meeting her there. She is a...

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  1. Anjuli,
    As one who longs for Norman Rockwell type relationships, this line really spoke to me: ” For most of life, the hearts of those we love are like the tide, constantly pulled in and apart from each other. Faith is trusting that God is the commander of the seas bringing even gravity under His authority.” As the mom of two adult children, I can speak to the truth of this statement. I am not a grandmother, yet, but look forward to that day. Thank you for this loving reminder to go forward, gently, with grace. Though my gut response may be to jump in with advice and direction, your words remind me of just what my job and greatest help will be. I’m going to save this post and pull it back up on the day I become a grandmother….truly wise words to live by. Thank you!
    Blessings,
    Bev xx

    • Wow. I want Norman Rockwell relationships too. It’s so hard to release relationships and let God have His way with them. Blessings ❤️

  2. I think I came sort of awkwardly into the grandmothering role. My son married young and so I still have teens living at home as I lean into the love of (and responsibility for) another generation. Stretching my heart beyond known boundaries, God is growing me as this mum of four boys discovers the delight of daughters-in-law, and He has given the gift of grandchildren as a firewall against the slippage into selfishness and small living that can accompany this season of life.
    It’s a blessing, Anjuli, to read about this journey form your perspective. I’m going to look for your words on Instagram!

  3. Anjuli,

    I think we all want “Father Knows Best” or “Andy Griffith” kind of life. Easy simple & problems solved by end of episode. Life isn’t always like that. I have never had children. I did have to mother my aging parents. It was hard. God gave & taught me grace & patience to handle their changing moods. Mothering is a tiring, but rewarding job. You eventually get to see the fruits of your labor. For me I had some good times with my dad for a few months before he died. Everyone needs mentors to help them on their journey. New mothers are no exception. Just give advice gently, offer to help in any way they need it. Most of all just love the new moms & their children.

    Blessings 🙂

  4. So beautifully written and so very true! My children are 11, 8 & 7 and I know exactly what your are talking about new motherhood flew by in retrospect but was slow at the time, boy the ups and downs emotionally with sleep deprivation and balancing toddlers with newborns was a feat! God has blessed me with a wonderful mother in law whom is all I have (on a regular basis) as I live in my husbands home country. My parents are in another country and do visit. I often wonder what our relationship would be like if I lived in the country of my birth and our relationship wasn’t so intense as when they visit for 4-6 weeks at a time we all live under the same roof. It’s not to say things are awful and my mother certainly helped me when I needed her and the kids were young, but one thing I do know is that no matter what a mothers love and bond to their children my mothers to me and as a grandma to her grandkids can never be broken.

    • You are welcome. Relationships with mothers are a treasure. Sometimes it’s a tricky relationship to navigate through the different seasons. But m, God is so faithful to grows us as daughters.

  5. Oh Anjuli!

    This was so beautiful! It’s like I could picture my own story and my mom being there for me, knowing exactly what I needed (even when I didn’t! Ha). Those first days after having baby… those first weeks and months and years… it’s so hard and good and exhausting, but my Momma was there constantly, holding me up when I didn’t think I could do it anymore. Being a mom makes me appreciate her on a whole new level now. Thank you for encouraging us as we ebb and flow through these new seasons and new dynamics in relationships. He is “always kneading hearts together for His glory.”

    Thank you!!
    Becky

  6. Anjuli,
    This was so heartwarming, thank-you so much for taking the time to so beautifully piece together these words.
    Have a blessed day all,
    Penny

  7. Grammy is such a wondrous role – my daughter-in-law is amazing, even though she doubts herself 🙂 Now my daughter is due in a few months and fear of letting her down in some way in our new role is haunting. Thanks for words that bring life – dispel fear…

  8. I loved your comparison of relationships to the tide and God as the commander of the seas. Thanks for this beautiful picture and graceful words of encouragement.

  9. Thankyou! I thank God for your obedience to His voice. This is a right now on time word for me. I had grown weary. I kept clashing with my daughter when I thought I was only trying to help. I became a Nana two beautiful years ago to twin girls. On top of this I get the privilege of having them and my daughter live with me. It’s been a beautiful challenge. Thankyou for your honesty. Thankyou for this.

    • “Clashing”. You said it well. My daughter and I seem to do more of that than anything. Seems I just cant get it right.
      I had looked forward to such a beautiful time grandparenting. Yes, this role is different than parenting.
      I believe each generation we cultivate wisdom. We share that, graciously, with the generation that follows.
      I loved it when mom simply touched her daughter’s weary head and said it would be ok. Those little gifts of love as we bring forth our first are priceless.
      My mom would come over around 9pm-right on time, when my first child had colic. She would drive him around town to quite him-nothing else worked! What a blessing, since I had to be up around 5a for my 7a shift.

      Miss ya, Momma!

  10. I miss my mom, she’s in heaven now, but she was such a support for me as a new mother myself once. I rely on God’s grace in being a grandma now, and love for all its worth during these precious moments to share.

  11. Beautiful!! I am a first time “Mimi”. We celebrated our grandson’s 1st birthday today with a dinosaur themed party. Our son and daughter-in-love are wonderful, caring, compassionate, loving parents. My husband and I make sure we tell them that we are very proud of them. Being a first time parent is hard. There is so much to learn. We pray for our son and daughter-in-love and our precious grandson. God has blessed us with a wonderful family.

  12. I can relate to the push and pull, laughter and snaps as I navigate parenting adult children. Two back in the nest temporarily. We all need breaks-perhaps long vacations from each other at times! I try to recall how I felt at that age and give grace and grace again while still presenting how one should be treated, no matter what. Preserving dignity while loving as is is always good practice. Great post beautifully said. I bet your mom is proud as punch❤️ (; .

  13. Beautiful as a first time grandma to be to a princess Nov 2018 this hit home I couldn’t hold back the tears thank you I’ll be sure to keep this in mind as a new chapter in our lives begin
    Blessing Miriam Trujillo

  14. Thank you for this sweet piece. It gives me hope, as I am a Christian grandma to a young woman who was dedicated to the Lord at birth and raised in a Christian home, who keeps me emotionally far away and barely involved with my two grandchildren. My heart aches all the time, yet your words give me hope that the Lord wants restoration, and He is at work in ways I dont see.

  15. Anjuli – I feel like your words are God given to my heart and perfectly timed as only he can do! My daughter recently shared with me that she is expecting. She is not yet twenty, delaying college and moved out within the same week of sharing this with me. She has been a homebody much of her childhood and fought me every step as I attempted to push her into new/responsible/growing moments. And in that one moment, all her courage become present and at the same time I felt our relationship crumbled (or so I thought in the moment). I was angry, confused, hurt, every emotion possible. I couldn’t why. It has been a few months now, and we are due to have a beautiful new addition to our family before Christmas. I can see now, God had to allow the valley to showcase the faith; to allow my daughter to grow on her own; to show me the foundation I spent years building was there and she was already standing on it. It is still a hard situation for me in moments, but we are growing together in new and breathtaking ways. I am thankful for your honest words that my heart is digesting with intention and love. We don’t always get to know the why, but with willingness we can see the collateral beauty of an imperfect situation.