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Robin is the author of For All Who Wander, her relatable memoir about wrestling with doubt that reads much like a conversation with a friend. She's as Southern as sugar-shocked tea, married to her college sweetheart, and has three children. An empty nester with a full life, she's determined to...

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  1. Robin, I’ve never looked at those words about “laughing at the days to come” with this in mind, but truly our laughter and our positive approach to aging is an act of faith, trusting our heavenly Father that all the changes and adjustments that come with each year are a gift that we GET TO experience because of His grace.

    • Michele,

      I had to smile when I read your last phrase; “Get to” attitude has been a shift in my thinking the last several years. It changes perspective, doesn’t it? Thank you for encouraging me (and all) with your wise thoughts :).

    • Hi, Michele. I enjoy reading your comments. Love what you said about how we get to experience each day because of God’s grace. Each moment we are here is truly a privilege and gift from above! Thanks for adding depth to the conversation!

  2. Robin,
    First, such truth in this line: “Age is the price you pay for life, and it is not a privilege everyone gets to have.” I’ve seen others, close to me, whose lives have been cut way too short so I do consider every day I wake up (albeit one more day I grow older) a privilege. The only thing I struggle with is aging parts that don’t work as well and require surgeries that require long recuperation time, but even those have their silver lining – more time to be in God’s Word and simple relish being in His presence and learning to be loved for doing absolutely nothing at all. This has been a priceless lesson. I chuckle when I think of a few younger women who have asked me to be their mentor. So they think I actually have some wisdom vs. just marbles rattling around in this brain? There is something nice about having a perspective on life that only time, experience, and walking with God will teach you. I have lots of laughing lines too and all sorts of other badges of honor that say I’ve done life and survived. Robin you are fifty something, fierce, and fabulous! Celebrate it!
    Blessings wise sister,
    Bev xx

    • Bev,

      Based on ALL the wise thoughts I’ve read of yours through the years, I KNOW those younger women have a jewel in you :). And YES! There IS such a sweet redemption in the things we’ve learned through time, experience, and walking with God.

      Your last two sentences make me wanna shout #OYTO! (one year, threehundredsixtyfive opportunities, my word of the year 🙂 )

      • I echo Robins words…do it be a mentor, whomever you are one to would be fully blessed. You have so much to offer and it would give you so much in return too x Cheering you on Xx

    • Hi, Bev! I love your attitude in choosing to see the silver lining! The silver lining is a gift that encourages you to set your thoughts on whatever is true, lovely, and worthy of praise. Mentoring is one way you can leave that legacy to the next generation. Those young women are blessed to have you. Thank you for also adding your wisdom to the conversations here. We are also blessed!

  3. Robin, I turned 63 last week, and though the changes reflected in my mirror can be hard to like, I find that I am coming to fear the number less and less. Age seems much more now to reflect the accumulation of a myriad of amazing experiences and an opportunity to look back and see the faithfulness of God through the (many!) decades. I’m getting so old that I can even begin to see, looking back, how some of the long black and painful periods in the past have been woven into the tapestry of my life and are becoming part of a beautiful picture – with my Heavenly Father at the centre of it. I even find that this point of view affirms my somewhat eclectic fashion sense – why should any style or colour be off limits to me just because I have more life experience than someone else?!

    • Subi!! Belated happy birthday! Oh, with every word of your comment I find myself nodding. You get it. With enough time, I think, we DO get to rearview mirror those bleak seasons, when we thought we’d never resurface or heal or recover. I find myself a beggar pray-er, these days, longing to understand life through the eyes of Christ. That is wisdom… 🙂

    • HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KATHY!! <3 It IS a choice, isn't it? I mean, you can choose to resist or fight it, but to what end? You can't win. But age does come with a price, and a costly one at that. Even that thought isn't something you can fully appreciate when you're younger; we "earn" the right to understand.

      Anyway, blessings to you in this new season; may the sweetness, grace, joy, and goodness of the Lord be your greatest gifts.

  4. I love the quote, “Age is the price you pay for life, and it is not a privilege everyone gets to have.” As I myself have passed the 50 mark and living a life full of wonderful transitions, grateful for this gentle reminder of all our blessings. Thank you so much for sharing!

  5. I totally love,this as I have struggled with being a bit over 50 and my body changing and yet God has been faithful and reminded me I can do this gracefully and set an example for my grandchildren and enjoy this season and so I love the phrase “laughing at the days to come” makes me smile at my laughing lines

    • Tammy,

      I’ve actually not minded the lines around the corners of my eyes so much. And I’d much rather “carve” laughing lines around my mouth than frowning lines!! So…I smile a lot :). Also, what a great encouragement for us to do likewise, in setting an example for your grandchildren. They won’t forget your positive and grace-center (God-centered) attitude.

  6. Love this, Robin!

    When I turned 50 I was already an empty-nester – having raised 5 adopted children. So I felt like I had graduated. I had a sleepover with several girlfriends.

    However, 60 is only 4 years away. Not sure I’m so excited about that.

    But your words, “Aging is the price you pay for life, and it’s not a privilege everyone gets,” are a great reminder.

    Thank you for your encouragement.

    • Cheri,

      You’re an absolute rockstar in my book. And I *do* understand your…reluctancy (?) about that next milestone. I cringe when I already have to check the “last” box on any form that asks age…. BUT…I DO pray that you (and I, when it’s my turn) receive that age as the grace it is, a milestone worthy of celebration and thanksgiving <3.

  7. Having watched my own mother be super critical of her aging process in nearly every photograph, I resolved several years ago to stop the cycle. I am training myself to look at pictures and focus on “the moment” and not how I think I look. For the first time, this year on our beach vacation I just let pictures be taken and did not worry about it. I’m 53 and do not want the remaining years and memories to be obscured by the “natural progression of life”. Also, I would have LOVED a mentor when I was a young wife and now and making myself available to pour in to those coming along behind. Getting older is not all bad! 🙂

    • Bravo, Karen… Your attitude is breaking a negative cycle and inspiring others. Thank you for taking time to comment today and share a few simple ways to embrace these days to come.

  8. At 62 I have decided I have earned every wrinkle as well the paunch that used to be flat and is not going to go away,( so when buying tops I now look at the length). But the upside is I am happy with who I am, I care less about what others think and I am more grounded in my faith. It is sobering to think I have lived much more than half my life, but it makes me think more carefully about how I want to spend my days. It is a blessing to have lived this long.

    • Kathy,

      I could have written your same comment :). I’ve recently stumbled across a site called, “Goodbye Crop Top;” it’s written for Women of a Certain Age ;). xo

  9. Turning 50 was hard. Your list looked so similar to mine. Thank you for the perspective.

  10. Love this outlook. Seeing aging as a privilege. I remember being young and thinking my parents were ancient. Then I became a parent and stated getting older and those bigger numbers didn’t seem as old as they had before. I have a 92 year old neighbor I enjoy talking with and walking with. I look at her and hope I am as healthy as she is if I make it to 92. Because it is a privilege to age and earn those laughing lines. And with God in the picture, we can laugh more.

  11. Robin,

    Like you I never thought much about age. After all it is just a number. Life is more than numbers it is how we choose to live each day. Turning 50 was a biggie for me also. I started feeling my age. Like you a lot was going on in my life. My aging dad was having multiple health issues, work getting more stressful, unpleasant & hubby changing jobs. It was a lot to deal with. I ended up quitting my job & getting more involved in ministry locally. My motto is how can I live each day fully for Christ? My looks don’t really matter to me. If people don’t like my looks I tell them talk to God. He made me this way & I have earned each gray hair & laughing line. Life isn’t always easy down here. I’m going to enjoy the rest of it & age gracefully!

    Blessings 🙂

  12. Robin,
    Thank-you for your insightful post this morning. The journey to fifty hasn’t always been easy but it’s been a blessing to of made it this far. I’m learning that it’s okay to just be, and I can laugh at silly mistakes I make.
    Keep laughing….
    Have a blessed day all,
    Penny

  13. This year, I turned 50, my baby graduated from college, and my middle child got married. Our family has been going through some relationship crises over the past year that just seem to go on forever. I realize, like you, that I have lived more of my life than I have left. And I’m wondering what to do with it. My husband and I were empty nesters for about a year before our house filled up again with adult children moving back in and a niece and pregnant teen needing a safe place to stay. I have never felt more out of control than now. And yet I know God is. He has never been out of control. He’s got me, my kids, these “extra” residents in my home, and His plan is perfect and affects us all. In the middle of this chaos, of the pain, I can at least hold on to Who He is! He is faithful and He is kind and He is loving. And He’s all of these situations in His sovereign hand. Hallelujah!

    • Diane,

      Your focus is perfect: God. With ALL the things that have seemed to swirl around you in this season, you are so wise to hold onto Him. It changes everything, doesn’t it? That you’ve opened your home to so many people tells me your heart is open. You get to live out Christ before all of these watching eyes :).

  14. Thank you for this perspective, Robin! I love how the words of this young woman ministered to you and helped you see aging under a different light. While I am in my forties, I can definetly feel some of the effects of aging and have earned some “laughing lines”. I have also earned some grays, which I refer to as “signs of wisdom”! LOL.

    I will remember your words and the encouragement to see age as a blessing, not a curse. 2 Corinthians 4:16 comes to mind: “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day”! May we all be encouraged by the renewal of our spirit as we age! We really gain so much…

    • Aixa,

      That verse in 2 Corinthians is a favorite…thank you so much for sharing it here! I love your heart evidenced in your words, and see wisdom beyond your years :).

  15. All you Spring Chickens are too funny! I am 81 years young! Been there-done that & every step of the way God has been with me & I praise Him, even when I was in the nightmare cancer journey. God created each of us for His purposes..don’t forget that & get those laughing lines going forward! God bless each of you!

    • Frances! Your comment put a huge smile on my face. So glad you’re here! Praising God with you for all your 81 years and His lifetime of faithfulness to us all. xx

    • Frances!! I saw your comment Friday but wasn’t able to reply just then, and it made me SO happy! You have no idea how greatly you encouraged me, and I wish you could’ve seen my giant smile :). Thank you for reading and encouraging ALL of us! xoxo

  16. Robin,

    Thank you for this I have been twisted in my way of thinking on aging and retirement instead of a blessing I thought I was cursed; leaving employment that I loved! (Being phased out). Hitting more closed doors than open ones as when Inwas 20! This gives me hope for the future and I am now looking at my age as a blessing from the one who has numbered my days and counted my gray hairs! Be Blessed! BTW I started following you because of your devotion in A Momnt to Breathe!

    • Vickie,

      Well, sweet one, you’ve blessed me more than you know. Thank you for letting me know you read one of my demos in AMTB, and if it encouraged you, praise God!! (I wrote a few, so I’m curious which one….). Beyond all that, though, I’m praying for your heart to continue to be strengthened, and to look at your age and this stage in new Light. It’s easy to be discouraged when we forget the truth God says about us.

      • Robin,

        The ABTB Devotional was titled The Difference between Asking and doing. What is amazing about this I started a paint based on the last line “ministered love through these heart sisters. I loved this and it gave this idea to paint heart sisters. I have been blessed to have women in my life who I am attached by heart strings. Thank you for inspiring me through your words. And through this on laughing lines.

        Vickie

          • Hi!

            I sent you a concept picture via PM on Facebook of what I am working on. I am n a stall mode right now but hope to finish it by the end of the year.

            Thank you for asking.

  17. There comes a time in life that we start realizing that we are no longer the youngest in the group and that all the sudden YOU are the one that is the oldest! Your daughter is now taking care of YOU… she is starting to realize that she is probably not going to have her Mom forever but you learn to make the most of life and feel so very blessed! I will 62 next week and it so hard to believe that has passed so quickly! My Mom died when she was 49! It is frustrating to not have the energy or strength to do all that I used to or go all the places I used to but I am enjoying my older age. I love being a “senior citizen” and all the things that come with it! God has been so Good to me and mine and continues to do so each hour of each day!

    • ((hugs)) Ginger, and happy early birthday! Time seems to go faster with each year, doesn’t it? So lovely to hear your outlook, that you sense the Lord’s goodness to you :).

  18. Thank you for taking the time to have a conversation about this season of life. I’m 46 and not that far from 50 now. In past generations not enough women talked about this season unless it was in hushed whispers. And that isn’t a criticism. It’s just the way their mamas taught them too. Just the way things were done. So we learned to dread it while not really knowing what to expect. And I think Hollywood and the media have added to the perception that aging isn’t beautiful. I think open conversations and support make it all easier to deal with. I’ve been an empty nester for 4 years now and I love reading about other women who are thriving despite the biological and circumstantial changes they face. I choose to thrive and find joy no matter the circumstances. I am thankful for the precious gift of life God has given me. But I’m human and sometimes I just wanna cry too! So thank you again for talking about this!

    • Christy,

      Your comment is so thoughtful and honest; I appreciate that. My heart is truly to encourage women in this stage of life–it can be defeating if our thinking gets off track. Our bodies are ministering eternity to us, and it helps me to remember that (I’m not created for this world forever…). Hollywood and our youth-oriented culture does a number on us, but again, if we’re listening to the voice of Truth…it transforms the way we think :). I have a feeling you have so much to offer, and I hope you find some younger women to encourage and begin these conversations in your neck of the woods. Thank you for taking time to share your thoughts xoxo.

  19. Robin, I love your laughing line, your wisdom, and your age. Being in relationship with more seasoned women is a gift I don’t take for granted. So glad you are you!

    • Becky, Oh, I’ve “tried” to be other versions of me…and I learned I’m much better off when I’m the me-ist me I can be 😉 :). Love you, friend. Thank you for your encouragement!

  20. I like this quote from Mark Twain.
    Age is just a matter of mind. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.

    I use to think if I stopped dying my hair and let the gray show the younger women in church would not befriend me, or receive ministry from someone I thought they would think was over the hill. I was so wrong. The opposite has happened.
    I turn 65 in August.

  21. Thank you for sharing your heart-so much of what you shared is exactly where i’m at. God used you to encourage my heart and spirit.

    • Janet, Your comment is a little gift; thank you for letting me know. Praise God for prompting the stories that come exactly when they need to (on incourage, and in scripture, devotions, songs on the radio, etc. 🙂 )

  22. A very timely piece. Today is my birthday and as the years roll by and my children start out on their own, its easy to wonder what’s next and how God will use me. Thank you.

    • Dawn,

      Happy (belated) birthday!! One thing I’ve learned is to make plans as you’re children are heading out. I was “accidentally” VERY busy with work the summer my daughter moved across the country and my youngest graduated high school. That kept me from being too sad, and I was thankful for the distraction.

  23. Thank you for your post it is right where I am at. 50 is just around the corner. Have been trying to find the balance of how God wants me to see this in His eyes, and not worry about the rest. With His unfailing love I believe He will show me and I think He has through everyone’s post here today. Thanks you !
    🙂

    • Thea, Everyone has been so encouraging, haven’t they? The honesty, authentic reactions, kindness…I’ve loved reading comments. So glad to hear you do, too :).

  24. This is wonderful Robin! I’m two months away from my 85th birthday and having all the annual checkups medical folks insist on. That wonderful line “age is the price you pay for life, and it’s not a privilege everyone gets.” Will be my touchstone from here on to home. I quoted it as closely as I could on my FB page and gave you credit for it. Thank you for your writing and sharing in this great community.

    • Molly,

      Thank you for letting me know you shared this, and thank you for reading and commenting. You DO know that inspires and blesses us, right? I’m grateful. (And VERY early happy 85th, lovie <3 )

  25. Robin,
    “Age is the price you pay for life, and it is not a privilege everyone gets to have.” This is a wonderful reminder to live each day striving to be who God wants me to be. I will be 63 soon and as I look in the rear view mirror of my life I can see how faithful God has been even when I felt so alone. His endless supply of grace is so amazing. Thank you.

    • Donna,

      God just wants us to be “us,” loving Him and our world the way we’re uniquely designed to do so. That “rear view mirror” glance is such a gift, isn’t it?

  26. I will be 57 in December, I never worry about age, I have always had to deal with people who didn’t know who old singers and movie stars were just like I don’t the ones now. Still, I manage to talk to lots of people of all ages, even though I’m not as techie or up on the slang.

    • Rebecca,

      One thing’s for sure, worrying about an age doesn’t change a thing or help :). You seem to have figured out how to keep everything in perspective. Well done!

  27. Thank-you, Robin, for writing so honestly about this struggle.

    I recently turned 52, and while age never mattered much to me before this, suddenly it became real and I realize I’ve also been walking through this transition. I’ve also only dealt with “small” physical issues (while my dear husband had heart bypass surgery last fall!), yet I feel the fear and uncertainty about the second half of my life. It doesn’t seem legitimate when I consider so many around me who have fought through more serious ailments such as cancer, and even some who have passed on, yet God knows our frail human hearts and how sometimes the more everyday changes can still bring about discomfort and confusion.

    Although I’m attempting to keep and attitude of thankfulness and a proper perspective, I appreciate your words that help me know it’s OK to admit that life is a little bit harder in some ways, yet I desire to join you in changing my thoughts and eventually my feelings about getting older.

    I will ponder on what you’ve said, and ask the Lord to help me to truly see what a blessing it is to grow older. I’m giving him my fear and uncertainties and exchanging them for his wisdom and peace.

    Blessings to all of us as we continue to mature in him as we age. 🙂

    • K Ann,

      I so appreciate your candor here; I think it helps to be honest with ourselves, and sometimes in open spaces (like here). It’s only honest to admit your *initial* reaction to this or that (in this case, aging), but it doesn’t have to be where you stay forever (that frame of mind). It blesses me to hear you say you’re making a substitution–trading fear and uncertainty for wisdom and peace. THAT is powerful! xo

  28. To laugh at the days to come may refer to a positive attitude. There is MUCH to celebrate in each decade of life! I am 69 and find joy in: relating to my adult children as friends, playing with my grandchildren and watching them grow, reveling in God’s handiwork in nature much more intentionally than I ever used to, expanded quiet times (since I’m no longer controlled by a work schedule)–to name a few. Thank you, Robin, for your affirmation that aging is a blessing–something to be savored, celebrated, and shared–so other women can embrace the process, in spite of our youth-obsessed culture.