May we be people of PEACE
With voices of HOPE
Doing the hard work of LOVE
We speak this blessing over ourselves and each other at the end of each What LIES Between Us session. I am honored to be one of the teachers, more like a guide ushering beautiful souls through the pain of our past and providing context for our present. We meet weekly to uncover hidden, ugly truths and discover the path of our nation’s racial divides so that we can start the journey toward healing. This benediction is a profession of who we are, who we hope to be, and an acknowledgement that living with this intention is active and challenging.
As learners often find themselves simultaneously overwhelmed and empowered by broader perspectives, ending the sessions with such a profession breathes inspiration, encouraging everyone to remain situated in hope and positioned to practice change.
As awareness expands, learners will ask me, “Knowing all this stuff, how are you able to teach this without crying, without breaking down? How are you able to remain compassionate and hopeful?”
With limited time, I quickly sum up my own growth and change and what I have witnessed in others. Compassion and hope are not a show of my professionalism but cultivated fruit bearing a sweet fragrance. They are the way to create a safe space for what may feel like a dangerous conversation.
But lately, I have also been bearing the fruit of fear. Recently, I caught myself judging “those people” — you know, “those people” who deem some lives more valuable than others, who debate over who rightly bears God’s image and who does not, who “love fear and fear love.” In their presence, I held my breath, put up walls, and expected the worst. When I felt myself exhale with relief and heard my thoughts — those people are not what I expected; they were actually pretty pleasant — I realized that fear had subtly sprouted its nasty roots. I was the one being driven by fear — the painful irony!
But when did this happen? How did this happen? “Walling off” people is not what I do! I know better! I do better.
I panicked, but then our benediction echoed in my heart: Doing the hard work of LOVE. The echo was like waves crashing through my body overwhelming me with revelation. Fear is fearless. Fear is toxic. Fear is relentless. Fear doesn’t care about all the work I have done or that I am a guide. I had been eclipsed by fear’s dark shadows.
In the overcast of a fear-driven climate and without noticing, I had effortlessly slipped into a valley of fear. But it was there in the depths that I found empathy and compassion for the fearful — “those people” that I had resented. I was one of them. I had been asking, “How can people be so easily fooled and manipulated by fear? Don’t they recognize the grip of fear?” Now, I understood. I thought I was exempt, but I am not.
Fear is easy; love is hard.
Fear blinds; love liberates.
Fear shuts me down; love allows me to show up.
Fear pulls me back; love propels me forward.
Fear says run away from them; love says run toward them.
Fear stifles growth; love starts new friendships.
Fear wounds; love heals.
Doing the hard work of love demands more of me — to be more brave and more relentless than fear. It goes beyond me working to contribute more than what fear can diminish. It means monitoring my movement — Am I shutting down, pulling back, running away? — and breaking through the hardened ground of my heart to dig wells in search of compassion. The hard work of love asks me to dress my wounds and hurts because there will always be wounds and hurts and that if I gaze too long at fear’s captives, I will become a prisoner as well. But Love asks me to keep going and become a person of peace and a voice of hope.
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Michele Morin says
So easily, we slip into what comes naturally. Thanks, Lucretia, for this anthem to the SUPERnatural. May we be conduits of the light and life that make the hard work possible!
Lucretia Berry says
YES!!! Conduits!! Thank you for reading!
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Lucretia,
The whole time I was reading your post, I kept thinking of the verse, 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18). It is SO easy to let fear creep in. When something or someone is unknown to us, fear gets a foothold. The enemy would like nothing more than for us to be fearful of each other because then he can isolate and destroy. But, if we CHOOSE to let God’s perfect love cast out that fear, then we can be open to someone who is different than we are. We can open our hearts to their story, their hurts, their pain, their victories. In short we need to choose to get over ourselves and get the order right: Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last. Ironically the first initials spell JOY. When I have chosen to not let fear get the best of me and open myself up to someone new – be it a different race, nationality, political view, to “those” people, I generally find my life enriched for the better. I love your ministry and the benediction you close your meetings with. May that be a prayer over all of us.
Blessings,
Bev xx
Jas Wilson says
Jesus first. Others second. Yourself last. JOY – I love this Bev! X
Lucretia Berry says
Bev, as I was writing, I kept hearing ‘perfect love casts out fear’ echoing in my heart. I have come to understand that love being perfected in me is a process, is constant, and never-ending. Thank you for reading!
Donna Cook says
Bev,
Your comments are so insightful and I always look forward to reading them. I would love to meet you sometime and chat over coffee and chocolate.
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Hi Donna,
Coffee, chocolate, and conversation – three of my favorite things – would love to!! I live in the HOT HOT South, so the chocolate might be a little melty right now lol 🙂
Bev xx
Donna Cook says
So do I! Have you ever tried to clean melted chocolate left on car windows by a 2 year old?? I did NOT give her the chocolate:-).
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
LOL….my daughter’s best design work was with a jar of Vaseline all over her bedroom wall…. 🙂
B
Theresa h says
❤️❤️❤️
Kathy says
Thank you, Lucretia, for this wonderful word. Today, I am not just thankful that love starts new friendships but also that love rekindles old friendships!
Lucretia Berry says
“…love rekindles old friendships!’ Oh yes!!!! That is so important when fear has kept healing at bay.
Thank you for reading!
Jas Wilson says
I was so intrigued to go to your website and read about your work, amazing. You are forging a light to diminish stereotypes and open peoples eyes that we are all the same, we may look different, speak differently but we are all connected in our humanness. Racism occurs world over in my home country of Australia and where I live in New Zealand. Education and change is needed more in the world we currently live in. You are guiding people with your works grounded in Christ, being the hands and feet. God is love and we are to be more and more like Him in our actions of compassion and love for one another. I hope to be involved in that change bringing about peace when I finish my Masters, I’m not sure how God will use me but I’m excited with anticipation to see where God leads me. Fear touches all of us but with God in our corner and to turn to, amazing things are possible! I love your benediction ‘May we be the people of peace, the voice of hope and may God give us the strength to do the hard act of Love’ I pray the Lord will continue to bless your work.
Jas
Lucretia Berry says
Jas, thank you for reading! Thank you for your words of encouragement. And thank you for perusing Brownicity.com. I am excited to know that you are looking forward to being involved in change and being a person of peace doing the hard work of love! Many hands make light work.
Joy says
I love this. Every. Single. Word.
Lucretia Berry says
Thank you for reading!
Susan Ashcraft says
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Lucretia! You spoke to my soul this morning. Thank you so very much for sharing YOUR soul with us and reminding us how powerful fear is but how much more powerful is the love of the Lord. Love the blessing and will incorporate it into my women’s gatherings. Also love the JOY acronym. What a blessing you are, Lucretia; please keep sharing your heart.
Lucretia Berry says
You are so welcome! Thank you for reading!
Donna Cook says
Thank you Lucretia for the reminder that it’s so easy to fall in the trap of fear if we don’t guard against Satan’s lies. Isn’t it really great to know that God will give us all we need to overcome fear and let His love shine through.
Lucretia Berry says
Yes! Even in the smog of fear, God’s LOVE can grow compassion and hope! Thank you for reading.
Brenda says
It is a lifetime process, isn’t it, Lucretia? Cyclical waves in constant motion: fear, love, hope, fear, love, hope… I love your poetic wording of “…situated in hope.” Situated has a grounded feel to it, an intentional stance. — Lovely words this morning, thank you. 🙂
Lucretia Berry says
Yes! I love that YOUR words: “Cyclical waves in constant motion: fear, love, hope, fear, love, hope” When we see it that way, FEAR is not so powerful and intimidating! Thank you for reading!
Becky Keife says
THIS: Compassion and hope are the way to create a safe space for what may feel like a dangerous conversation. Yes! You do this so well, my friend. Thank you for helping us walk in the hard, beautiful work of love.
Lucretia Berry says
Thank you! You’re welcome! And I am so grateful to be a part of the live-giving, doing-the-hard-work-of-love-ing (in)courage community!!
Beth Williams says
Lucretia,
This country has once again become racially divided. Maybe we just hear of it more often. Seems like people have a preconceived notion of race & ethnicity. A lot think blacks are only good for menial work-slavery. Heaven for bid a black be of prominence. We are also scared of middle eastern people. Thinking they must all be Muslims out to kill us. Not so. I worked at a university & saw quite a few Muslims. They were friendly & just trying to get an education to better themselves. We should not judge people based on ethnicity or skin color. We need to look deeper than that. Into the heart of the person. They may be just like us only born in a different country. We as a nation need to stop this diversity & start loving as Jesus did. Talk to everyone. Get to know them first. It will be hard to break the prejudice barriers. Do it we must. We need to drown out fear & let love shine through us. We need to practice phillia & agape love. The love of friendship based on shared goodwill. This love is associated with companionship & mutual trust. To be truly like God we need to practice agape love. This is a universal love for all people not based on anything. It is being like God & loving people unconditionally. May we be people of PEACE with voices of HOPE doing the hard work of LOVE.
Blessings 🙂
Lucretia Berry says
Beth, Yes! Allowing God’s unconditional love to have its way grows our capacity to engage in healing our wounds — personal, social and national. LOVE is hard work, but in Christ, nothing is impossible! Thank you for reading and sharing.
Sue says
I found this blog interesting, insightful, and full of hope.
They had a story On 60 minutes several weeks ago. They had a group of people that had the opposite political views. These people wanted to overcome the bitterness and hate. If I remember correctly, they have met for 9 years. It was a pretty moving story… They ended up really liking each other and became good friends. I mean they went to each others weddings, and graduations. They did various activities together.
In other words they went past those barriers to figure out what they liked and respected about” those others group” They even got to understand the others opinions, even if theirs stayed the same.
It was an amazing story. Of course with having faith, we have other levels of emotional and spiritual healing, because the Spirit of Christ in us goes real change. Not just making better choices, and pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps. What we possess of our Lord, can make us actually new, not improved.
Lucretia Berry says
Sue, I love your words: “What we possess of our Lord, can make us actually new, not improved.” Yes, all can me made NEW — people, communities, systems — ALL! Thank you!
Lazondral Nelson says
What a powerful and encouraging message! Thank you so much for being vulnerable!
Lucretia Berry says
Lazondral, thank you and you’re welcome! Vulnerability is significant to healing.
Penny says
Beautifully spoken Lucretia, thank-you for sharing.
The service I attended last night was a mix of religion, and culture, but the one common ground, was the Love for a lady who was generous and kind. And one of those who spoke, eloquently reminded us that it was because of our Heavenly Father above.
Have a blessed day all,
Penny
Lucretia Berry says
Thank you. The love we have for our Father compels us to love His children.
Cynthia says
Lucretia I am blown away by your ability to be vulnerable and share what’s hard about love in this post. It spoke to me on the deepest of levels. I’m so grateful you followed the prompt on your heart to write it then share it with us here. And this – “…breaking through the hardened ground of my heart to dig wells in search of compassion…” – this breaks my (hardened) heart in the most beautiful way.
Lucretia Berry says
Cynthia, it warms my hear to know that you connect with my vulnerability. I wrote this hoping that someone who could in some way relate would be encouraged. Thank you for reading and sharing how it touched you.
Rebecca Jones says
I having been reading about love casting out fear just last night, it does creep up on you when you are busy or sometimes not expecting it. It’s a lesson we have to learn and relearn. I ‘m not sure loving is hard just loving certain people who have unlovely ways and never reciprocate. I enjoyed your post, and I just read one by Patricia Raybon, she writes about race too if you want to check her out , or perhaps you know her.
Lucretia Berry says
“It’s a lesson we have to learn and relearn.” I agree! We have to keep checking in with our hearts and searching our souls for places where fear may be trying to take root. And yes, I agree that loving the lovable is easy. Love becomes hard work when we must walk in it when we absolutely don’t feel like it. Ironically, the hard work of love is so good for us! Thanks Rebecca!
Penny says
I love your ability to communicate hope and love- in a genuine and vulnerable way. Thanks for sharing God’s grace to all of us with a gentle reminder that even if it is the best – it isn’t always the easiest route- showing Love takes hard work.
Lucretia Berry says
Thank you Penny!!!