Cindy Jolly
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Cindy is new to the blogging world. After becoming a caregiver, she felt God’s nudge to launch a blog of refreshment for weary caregivers. A perfect day for Cindy includes an adventurous recipe, a slow jog if the weather is perfect, and giggles and belly laughs with grandchildren.

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  1. Cindy,
    I can definitely relate to having to move against my will or desire…and this was not moving to places people would flock to….they were basically near manufacturing plants in the boonies for tax advantages.
    Like you, I learned that I could sit in my own stew, be angry, resentful, depressed, all of the above, or I could call on God to give me the strength to go to new places, reach out a hand to new people, and introduce myself. After several major moves, I realized the world wasn’t going to come to my door, but God did, in fact, have friends out there for me and so it was sort of like a “treasure hunt” for me to go out there and find them. Sure, I felt some rejection (it’s part of the process), but how sweet the reward when you find just one person you can call friend. Lovely, inspiring post.
    Bev xx

    ps. Amen to speaking less and listening more with God and everyone!

  2. Encouraged this morning, Cindy, by this thoughtful meditation to spend more time airing my grievances to the God who “listens and listens and listens.”
    Blessings to you!

  3. I have been there! Thank you for sharing. I too isolated myself and grew bitter in my heart always looking back. But my healing came as I got out of the house, went to church and got involved in a women’s Bible study. Thankfully, God was patient with me too as He nudged me to do new things and trust in His providence and provision.

    • Love this! As he nudged me to do new things and trust in his providence and provision. This has been my experience too. I used to complain about how I disliked this new path and then added: but I trust you. He was faithful to turn my sighs into joy, despite my grumbling. What a patient Father!

  4. Thank you Cindy for your thought-providing post – I will definitely “walk into today with fresh eyes, a fresh heart [and an openness] to meet [Heavenly Father] in fresh ways” – ways that propel me to move through and beyond the “pity party” – no time like the present – “tick tock – tick tock – tick tock” – blessings all xo

  5. Thank you, what a beautiful reminder. I am graduating high school and I know my life will completely change and I am not ready for it. I actually without yet graduating wish I could go back to my freshman year, so I can remain at home, in my safe spot. It is very overwhelming to think about it, but I know God doesn’t want me to stay in the same place forever, and actually go out and be the first to graduate from a university. It feels that in 6 months I will have to know where I want to go, what I want to study, and I have never felt more undecided than right now to get that together. Also like I said, I really do not want to leave home, but God has new things to come!

  6. Wow! What a wonderful post, Cindy! I needed to hear it. I can easily dig my feet in, put my hands on my hips and tell God what He needs to do, but I’m so thankful He speaks to my heart, telling me He sees the big picture. 🙂 What an amazing, compassionate, awesome God we serve! YAY!

    Have a great weekend! Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow! <


  7. This is a beautiful, thought provoking post. After retirement, I too enjoyed pit parties, dwelling on the identity and work I had lost and how changes that were supposed to be made never occurred. I didn’t want to listen to what God was telling me but He kept nudging me to listen and when I finally did, He told me what I needed to know to move on.

  8. After being born and raised in sunny Southern California and raising our 3 children in what I felt was our dream home in our dream neighborhood, my husband lost his job and we were forced to make a cross country move for a new job opportunity. It has been such a difficult move for me, and I feel like I’ve dug in my heels because I don’t want to accept it and try to find a new community in this (cold) place I didn’t want to move in the first place. It’s been such a trying time and I so relate to how you were feeling. This really spoke to me. God is growing me in new ways that I didn’t feel I was ready for. I will stop my whining and listen to Him and open my heart to more.

  9. Hi Girls,
    i just wanted to share how much this blog means to me. Each day as I read the message and then all the comments, I feel like I have connected to dear friends. I live by myself and over the past few years have had to learn to deal with a disability that has basically limited me to getting out and doing like I used to. I have become isolated because of this health issue. I make it to work each day which in itself is a hostile environment and come home. Many friends have moved on because I haven’t been able to do a lot of things we used to do like shop, eat out, movies, etc. it was through this blog that I met Bev and what an amazing woman of God she is. We have emailed and shared many of life’s issues with each other in prayer.

    I read each comment and pray everyone. I just wanted to take a moment to say “thank you” for sharing and for enriching my life. May God bless ache one of you. Blessings, Kathleen

    • I echo Debra in saying “thank you for taking the time to read the comments and pray for the commenters”!!! It’s worth way more than you imagine!!! You are so loved by Him (and us 🙂 )!!

    • Hello, Kathleen. I’m so glad you found this blog (me too! I just found it recently). God sure knows what we need, doesn’t He? There are so many amazing, godly women here…I’m encouraged every day. May God bless you and give you an extra big hug today. 😉

    • Kathleen,

      Thank you for your prayers. Bev is a wonderful woman of God. We have become friends also. I praise God for this blog & for helping you find good friends. Prayers for your wok environment. May God change the hearts of your co-workers.


  10. I needed this reminder today. I’m in my mid twenties, and I’ve moved 15 times in the past decade! As much as change is a constant, so is the pain along with it – and I’ve found it has accumulated. This time, I have nowhere to hide, and I’ve had to face the Lord I so feared…. and I too discovered that His grace covers all the ugliness, the desperation, the tearful sleepless nights, and He speaks out of a gentle, holy authority and offers comfort along a path of corrections. Blessings to you <3

  11. Cindy,

    Change is never easy to accept. We get accustomed to our surroundings & circumstances. Life feels like a well worn slipper & we don’t want to take it off. Change is inevitable & hard. We can choose to accept it & move on or wallow in self pity. When change/trials happen to me I run to God. I pray & ask for discernment on what to do next. The only constant in the past 4+ years is change. Each day bringing with a sense of uneasiness. Never knowing what to expect. My aging dad moved into an assisted living & had multiple medical & dementia issues. Now my in-laws are sick-FIL has stage III bladder cancer & MIL is dizzy & has a cold. This now is my new normal.

    I loved the idea of talking less & listening more in prayer. Have you tried breath prayers? You simply breath & say a word or a sentence. It helps calm you down.

    Blessings 🙂

    • I, too, have a new normal since I became a caregiver so I understand some of what you are going through. I love the well worn slipper visual – it’s spot on. I love your suggestion of breath prayers, too. Can’t wait to incorporate this practice.

  12. Cindy, I love this! I’m going to forward it to my daughter who is struggling with a move she doesn’t like. And one of her main issues is she moved away from her church that she loves. Therefore, she rarely goes to church now at all. I’m praying this and all the wonderful testimonies from the other ladies will help her to get back to her first love. Thanks so much sweet friend!

  13. Thank you! I have learned to love my quiet place where I practice listening to the one who made us all and wants my holiness not my happiness! His Word and my circumstances speak the loudest. I remember when we first got married not one neighbor came over to speak. It was only after someone asked me to do mothers March of Dimes and go ask them for money (yikes) that they started to notice me. That was really out of my comfort zone. I learned that God doesn’t care whether I’m comfortable or not. He just wants my obedience. He always rewards obedience.

  14. Cindy,
    Thanks for always making me stop and just think about life! Great news about being published!

  15. Hi, I read it and filled my heart in special with the words.. this move is new wine, fresh wine.
    My family is turning to new life soon ( my opinion was not considered), this is why is so hard..but God always takes all for good.

  16. Hey, Cindy,
    I remember well that how reluctant you had been at the idea of leaving the town where your two daughters attended school for twelve years. You certainly did adjust, though, to your new surroundings and very soon became a bright light in everything you got into. No wonder everyone loves you so much. I’m thankful that you are my daughter.