“A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.”
I Believe in Guilt-Free Friendship
I want to be the kind of friend who gives the gift of guilt-free friendship. In a world where we women are so good at guilting ourselves over our weight, our workout routines (or lack thereof), the state of our houses, our kids, or our spiritual lives. I want to create safe spaces for my friends to know that my friendship is one thing they can count on to come without a side of guilt.
Guilt-free friendship says that anytime you get back to me is a good time. Guilt-free friendship says that I will always assume the best about your motives. Guilt-free friendship says that I won’t keep score when it comes to emails answered or phone calls returned.
Guilt-free friendship focuses on the friendship and ditches the guilt. Guilt-free friendship loves any chance and any slice of time to catch up, it isn’t about criticizing how much or how frequently that happens. Instead, guilt-free friendship is generous and forgiving and creates easy space for reconnecting because it doesn’t have any conditions for how or when or how often that happens.
Guilt-free friendship is the gift that women secure in their own sense of acceptance can give each other. It’s an impossible gift when we’re taking our worth and measuring our validation by the frequency with which we hear from each other.
Instead, anchoring our identity in the God who is obsessed with spending time with us makes us freely available to give grace to our friends who literally, humanly aren’t able to make themselves that kind of available. When we are convinced that our lives bring delight to a God who views us with such an all-consuming passion that He would choose to woo us, love us, die for us, sing over us, and celebrate us, then we are women who can give each other the gift of guilt-free friendship.
It will remake you and liberate you and your friendships to believe that there’s a God more passionate about you than the ending of any Jane Austen novel. So let Him. Just let Him.
And then let your friends know they’re always welcome, whenever they can, without an added side of guilt. And my hope is that it will be the sweetest kind of relief, to both of you.
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