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Becky loves serving as (in)courage’s Community Manager. She is a speaker and author of No Better Mom for the Job. Becky is a huge fan of Voxer, Sunday naps, and championing women. She lives near Los Angeles and loves hiking shady trails with her husband and three spirited sons.

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  1. Let us not forget that grief comes in so many forms on a daily basis such as a death of loss of a child, miscarriage, separation, divorce, job loss, friendships, breakups. With the most loving holiday around the corner many have no one to share the traditional Valentine day with. Thank you for sharing a personal loss with us. Your Father was truly a gem.

    • You’re so right, Webbgurl. Grief takes many shapes, rooted in many sources. We need to learn how to be people whom others can lean on in those hard parts of the journey. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and being here today. <3

  2. Thank you for this statement of truth. It gives me hope for that day when my Dad passes. My Mom’s memorial was filled with people from the church. My Dad’s may be like this one as his manhood has been riddled with disappointment and failure.

    Looking to be the person whose presence acknowledges another’s grief as Christ instructed us is a tremendous gift in the pain.

    • Penny, when that day comes, I pray you, too, will have the gift of seeing God’s redeeming grace. Yes, what lives we can impact for Christ just by showing up for someone. xoxo

  3. This is beautiful on so many levels! I am sorry about the difficulties in your dad’s life and his death, but I am thankful for the beautiful picture of friendship and community you painted!!!

    • Thank you, Karen. God is so gracious not to make beauty out of our ashes. It’s a joy to give testimony to his goodness even in the midst of brokenness.

  4. Becky, I’m so sorry for your incredible loss, but thankful to the Lord for carrying you through His beautiful Body. What love is reflected in your words and experience here.

    For me the greatest gifts given to me through the illness and passing of my Mum were also gifts of presence. My Mum’s friend who came to sit with my Mum, almost every day, commuting almost two hours, when Mum could no longer communicate, not only gifted my Mum with God’s love, but me too…she’d always pull me aside to check up on me and speak words of love and encouragement (she also lost her first husband to cancer). My friends lifted me up in similar ways, many 1000 of miles away, but near in the words and hugs they sent from afar.

    May God continue to strengthen, comfort and carry you forward. Thank you for encouraging through your words here.

    • Oh, Anna, thank you for sharing your experience as well. My heart tugs with the tension we face on this side of heaven–such loss and grief, yet such beauty in how God provides comfort and assurance through others. So thankful that you, too, experienced the gift of presence and can now be that for someone else when the times comes.

  5. Wow! In tears right now. What a beautiful picture of God’s love coming through the support system that He so carefully surrounds us with. Thank you for sharing this touching story!

    • Thank you, Christine. And you’re so right–God’s care was undeniable and his grace palpable in that most difficult season of grief. I’m thankful to get to share the story.

  6. Becky,
    So sorry for the loss of your dad! God works in mysterious ways! My neighbor lost her son two years ago. I know it is painful for her and I have no words. Every now and then when I see her I will go over and let her cry on my shoulder. She can talk about him if she wants. Healing takes time and everyone heals differently! I praise God for the gift of friends showing up and being there!!
    Blessings 🙂

    • Thank you, Beth. What a gift you are to your grieving neighbor. To just be a shoulder to cry on, whether she needs to or wants to explain the feelings behind the tears or not–that is a beautiful and selfless act of love. I so appreciate you sharing that here today. <3

  7. What a beautiful testament of gathering and grace. I am so delighted to see your post here on (in)courage! Blessed for YOU!