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Dawn Camp shares God’s gift of essential oils in her newest releases My Essential Oil Companion and It All Began in a Garden. She is a photographer, essential oil slinger, Mom to eight and Mimi to five. Dawn enjoys movie nights with her husband and steaming cups of Earl Grey.

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  1. Dawn,
    I believe our mothers could be sisters…I, too, heard the “kill ’em with kindness” mantra. There is a lot of truth to that. When I was younger, I held my tongue, but then I would mull and stew over what had been said to me. I couldn’t let it go. As I’ve gotten older (and hopefully, wiser), I’ve been better able to turn it over to the Lord and let Him be the ultimate judge. The Lord will fight for me, I need only to be still (Exodus 14:14). I’ve also learned that over time, if given enough rope, accusers will tend to hang themselves figuratively. Time and letting God be God has a way of sifting the flour. Also, just being grateful for friends, period, helps me get a handle of what to hang onto and what to let go. Great post…looking forward to your book!!
    Blessings,
    Bev

    • We have wise mothers, yes? 🙂 You are so right, you can’t hold your tongue and then stew about it, but hand it to the Lord and let it go. (I can’t hear those words without the Frozen soundtrack starting up in my head!)

      Yes, check out the new book! It releases Tuesday but is available for pre-order. It’s showing up in stock at B&N stores.

  2. Wow!!! What a beautiful article – thank you so much for this reminder – I know that Gods ways are perfect , so I know this is the best way to let the Lord defend us – I have had a hard time letting God defend me and just trying to defend myself- and it never turns out the best when I try to do things on my own – the Lord is teaching means it is hard especially with your immediate family- I do need HIS help and strength in this area and every other area in my life – I am learning each day to trust HIM and I will be honest it isn’t always easy when I think I can do things on my own- I cannot – so I could truly use some prayer in this area! Again – thank you for such a great reminder of Gods beautiful truths

    • I had a friend remind me this weekend—yes, I struggle with this too—that if you tell someone that your relationship is okay after a rocky period, then you have to stick to that and move on. Don’t make up and then hold a grudge.

      • That is true – those are wise words – I do struggle with letting God defending me ! I know His ways are best – thank you for sharing these truths

  3. Dawn, I really appreciate this post, because I know it is true. So often, perhaps even when we have been offended, the continuation of our friendship will depend upon *us*. And that is so difficult. When we have been hurt, offended, or wrongly accused, our natural tendency is to withdraw, retaliate, or defend. None of these responses will help heal the friendship and perpetuate it. That happened to me a couple of years ago–when I was deeply hurt by a friend. My reaction was to finally give up trying to reconcile and to withdraw. But I knew this was not God’s heart. He wants us to keep peace whenever it is possible for us to do so, to forgive, and to reconcile. So I kept reaching out in kindness (not *my* natural proclivity–I truly needed humility and His help to do so), but it still wasn’t working. Finally, I wrote a letter asking for forgiveness for anything I had unknowingly done to offend her–any sin I had committed against her. That broke the ice, and it broke her heart. She said I’d not done anything. We are friends again today, and it is as if nothing happened. Your mother was right! And I think that even though my friend did not initially respond to my overtures of kindness, they paved the way for her ultimate response and our reconciliation. Having friends and working on friendships is worth it, isn’t it, Dawn? Your lovely new book proves that! I hope everyone will run to Amazon and order one! I loved it.
    Blessings to you, friend!
    Lynn

    • What a great testimony! You reaped the benefit of seeking reconciliation because you valued your friendship. Thank you for all you’ve done to promote the book!

  4. A few years ago, I had to be silent and it was SOOOOOOOOOOO hard, but in the end it really was the best course! Nothing I said would have been accepted because my friend was very angry and hurt over a perceived betrayal. We never talked about it again, but we did remain friends!

  5. Dawn, such truth in your words, just like the Scripture: ““Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle in the rear.” James 1:19

    God’s been patiently teaching me this, while also showing me how to tell the truth in love, to set the boundaries I am called to and stop both anger from growing and festering and to stop me from turning to gossip instead . He’s been showing me how to do so lovingly and in grace: which always involves shutting my mouth and taking it to God first!

    Thanks for your words of encouragement.

  6. Dawn,
    Mothers are wise!! There are times when I perceived something said as a negative against me. I realized that it was just frustration on the part of the other person. God helped me to keep my mouth shut and pray about the situation. In that way we remained friends.

    The Bible states: “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

    Blessings 🙂