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Lisa Leonard is mom to two boys, David, 13 and Matthias, 12 and wife to Steve. In between school and work they spend their time playing outdoors on the central coast of California, eating chocolate chip pancakes, tapping tunes on the piano (David) and choreographing elaborate light saber duels (Matthias)....

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  1. Lisa,
    Right now I am grieving the “loss” of a wonderful friend who moved many miles away. When we met almost 20 years ago, we immediately “clicked”. I knew I had not only found a friend, but a sister in Christ. She has seen me through so many things in my life, always withholding judgment. Sure, we can talk on the phone, text, and email but it’s just not the same as being able to pop over to her house when our lives take a severe turn south or when we have a joy to celebrate. This is all new right now so I’m not quite sure what this is going to look like as time plays out. I just know that I feel like a significant part of me has been torn away. Once again, I am called to trust in God, His goodness, and His plan…
    Blessings,
    Bev

  2. I have been blessed beyond imagination with many ‘sisters’ in life, though none by family birth. As I read this my mind immediately went to a sister on whose grave I will go and place flowers today. She and I met in 1999 when she got out of jail on drug charges. But God…He set her free and placed us in each others lives. She was a ‘younger sister’ who called me ‘girlfried’ and ‘spiritual mentor’, but God taught me SO much through her. On May 3, a man drove a truck into their home and my sister was killed as she watched TV with her husband. Some days it still doesn’t seem real. But God…flashes memories, reminds me of all my other ‘sisters’ whom He has placed in my life to speak into my heart and spirit. Life is so brief! Please cherish deeply those sisters Papa has given you. While they are alive, let them know how much you love and cherish them, because we never know when that opportunity to do so will be gone. Thank you, Lisa, for the encouragement!

    • Dusty,
      Prayers for you as you grieve the loss of this precious friendship! God brought you two together for a reason and season! May He bring healing, peace and contentment to you mind, body and soul!
      Blessings 🙂

  3. Such a beautiful truth, Lisa… ❤️

    I was Blessed to be born into a family of 6 sisters -no brothers. Each of us a completely unique masterpiece, yet we piece together like a breathtaking mosaic!! (Bless my sweet Daddy’s heart- He has a special place in heaven for surviving 6 daughters!)

    I’ve also been Blessed with a “Soul Sister”… Though our paths didn’t cross until we reached our grown-up years, our life journeys have been parallel from childhood to our current breaths… God knew we would need each other, and orchestrated this friendship years before we ever even met! We even LOOK like sisters, which is just sweet icing on the Sisterhood Cake!! She’s the kind of friend who can complete your sentences, make you laugh to the point of tears, remind you you’re beautiful when you feel like a hot mess, and pray you through those overwhelming life hurdles that seem to stop you in your tracks… Never an ounce of judgement. EVER. She’s travelled the same paths that I’ve traveled and just “gets it”. Gets ME….

    Not a day goes by that I don’t thank Jesus for ALL of my sisters… They are a priceless GIFT and I treasure them beyond all measure!!

    • Love all these words! So much truth and beauty. And there are friends who are like true sisters–it’s an amazing thing! Hugs to you. xx

  4. I too have have been blessed with a twin sister and 3 other precious sisters…as I get older they have become even more important. Lisa your blog today has “stirred ” my heart to be more intentional about my friend/sister relationships, Thankyou !

  5. Thank you for this. I have four daughters who are still too young to realize how beautiful their sisterhood friendship is and will continue to become. They are young enough to find one another amusing and infuriating in turn. As a loving observer I get the rare privilege of watching them all meld together into a friendship that is in reality a priceless treasure. I have also learned how to be a better friend from watching my daughters.

    • We fought so much growing up, and as we got older we realized what an amazing gift our sisterhood truly is. I am so thankful! xx

  6. Well, I have to say I am different. I have 3 sisters…I feel while growing up I was closer to one for awhile and then something would change and I would be closer to another and so on…never really feeling that CLOSE to any.

    Years later I was the only one to move 4 hours away from home. We all got married, had children, and we get together on holidays and different occasions but yet still don’t have that connection like you mention and others in the comments speak of.

    Kind of funny too that I had that ONE good friend who I met in kindergarten and we con’t best buddies until middle school, however at that point we changed and moved on. Since then I always find it difficult to get close to any “girlfriends”. Yep, sometimes I wish I had someone (other than hubby) to talk to with my inner thoughts and to listen and not judge, but it just doesn’t seem to be in me.

    I guess at 46….that “friend” and I maybe just haven’t met yet. ??? 😉 ha!

    • Sometimes friendships are hard to find. I’ve had times in my life where i longed for close girlfriends. I’m praying you find someone who understands and listens to your heart. Hugs to you! xx

    • Witi,
      I completely understand your situation. I have 3 older sisters and none of us are what I would call close! Guess our family moved a lot and each took her place in a different state – now we live 5 hours apart. Also age spread is hard (13, 9 & 7) years apart in age. That made it difficult to get to know them and be friends/close with them. Now I’m older and we talk a little more, but not much. Also don’t have a lot of friends. We live out in the country and it is hard to get to know people my age. Usually they are married with children. While I’m married I don’t have children & interests are much different.
      I will pray for God to bring you a covenant friend you can do life with!
      Blessings 🙂

  7. Lisa,
    God has truly blessed you with 4 good friends/sisters. There is a special bond between your sisters. I have 3 older sisters and we are not really close. Age (13, 9, 7) years apart, and distance (all live 5 hrs. away) are a big reason. Don’t have a lot or even a few close friends. Oh I know people from church, but they are older and usually busy. Most people I know are older or married with children. Not good at making small talk, live out in the country and have different interests than people in my area.
    I know God can bring me friends if and when the timing is right for me!
    Blessings 🙂

  8. It’s hard when friendships don’t work. It’s like a break-up–painful and confusing. I’m sending you a big hug and praying that God will bring a new, healthy friendship to fill your heart. xx

  9. I don’t have sisters, but grew up with brothers. Love them dearly, but not the same. 😉 However, I have been blessed through my life to have sister-friends, several of whom I’ve been close to for 20 – 30 years.

    Imagine my joy watching my four daughters grow up and the varying stages of sisterhood! As young adults, ages 30 – 20, they are sisters and they are friends.

  10. Love this post. I love my sisters, but we live in different states. When your family lives far away, you make your friends your family. So thankful for the women who choose to do life with me. They bless my life so much! 🙂