Amber C Haines
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Amber C Haines, author of Wild in the Hollow, has 4 sons, a guitar-playing husband, theRunaMuck, and rare friends. She loves the funky, the narrative, and the dirty South. She finds community among the broken and wants to know your story. Amber is curator with her husband Seth Haines of Mother...

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  1. Amber,
    My best “yes” was to live simply within our means (on one person’s salary) so that I could stay at home and raise my children. I know this is not an option for many, but I said no to newer cars, bigger house, more stuff in order to have days when my children and I would pull up our lawn chairs (theirs pint-sized) to the end of our driveway in order to gaze at the clouds, talk and watch the world go by. These are memories I can’t buy back. Thanks for an inspiring post!

    • yes.. sounds like our family totally.. more time with the kids, one parent working and I just said no to the friends thought I was nuts, but why do we need more and more to be happy ? I don’t think there was all this stuff in the garden of Eden where we were suppose to be happy in the beginning….its all clutter and doesn’t bring real happiness but frustration in the end. heres to living more simple and enjoying the real life.

  2. Just watched the Notable documentary…my world has been wrecked. Absolutely wrecked.
    As the Auntie to my autistic nephew-of whom I helped raise til he was 8-, I can appreciate the very real struggle of “disability”. Unfortunately, I can honestly say that I haven’t EVER thought about raising a special needs child in a foreign country. My heart is broken over the short sightedness & pettiness of my human nature. To say I have had a paradigm shift, an epiphany, is an understatement. I don’t know what all will come from this, but I know I will do my best to raise awareness for these kids & their families. I can do something. And I will. Even if it’s just for one. I will.
    Thank you so much for what YOU are doing Lysa Terkheurst.

  3. Thanks for sharing your little bit of peace with us and the reminder that when we say the best yes, the nos that come with seem less of a big deal!

  4. Rachel, you have put to words and incredible reality. As a mom of a 6 yr old beautiful boy with autism, I admire your strength and determination. May He continue to bless you in your journey.

  5. I love this quote… “my Best Yes has taken at least a thousand nos.” So, so true. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post today, Amber. Blessings… Lysa

  6. I am not sure what my best yes is right now, although God is stirring something in my heart and I am paying attention. I know some nos I need to follow through on, and I wish they were easier. I can have peace in my heart about saying no – until I have to say it the person who is wanting me to say yes!

    I don’t think your life sounds small at all, it sounds full of many wonderful blessings!

    • Been there, still here! That’s where you’ll learn to say no with grace, with tenderness, and maybe with an explanation if needed. Blessings to you. Babs

  7. We’d no tv for the first several years of our marriage, inn the ’70’s, so my late husband and I, and our two children experienced much togetherness. The world we’d lived in was/is ‘ending’, so we didn’t have a phone in any bedroom, saying yes to night-time peace, Nor answer the phone during meals. Now, when my family visits me, they switch off their cell phones – if we (can be 8 of us) are eating together, saying yes, to ‘just us’. Funnily enough, when I discovered the no word, my husband was greatly taken aback. It took a little longer to find the yes concept then word, hidden behind the no-s. I thoroughly enjoy how you’ve written this ‘blog’ or ‘post’ – not sure of the right word – lol. Thank you.

  8. Amber,

    I am right there with you on this. My best yes would be to find a less-stressful job and start enjoying life again. Wouldn’t mind having a garden, just taking life slowly day by day and soaking in all the goodness God gives us!

    I have never been one who wanted a lot of stuff. Now later in life I find myself giving away things I have & don’t need to help others.

    My best Yes is time with Jesus my hubby family and friends!

    Blessings 🙂 :’)