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Now graduated from her role as a homeschooling mom of 8, Dawn Camp devotes her time and love of stories to writing her first novel. She enjoys movie nights, cups of Earl Grey, and cheering on the Braves. She and her husband navigate an ever-emptying nest in the Atlanta suburbs.

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  1. Dawn,
    I am very blessed to have good friendships…people who God has placed in my life for a short time or perhaps a long season. My very best friend (17 years worth of friendship) is preparing to move to retire with her husband and be closer to family. While my heart rejoices with her for this opportunity, it also hurts a lot for what I will be missing. Considering she will be 8 hours away by car, we will have to fight for our friendship. I know it will be different, but you were spot on when you said friendships as so worth fighting for. Meanwhile, God has been raising up other friends who are not moving away…He is so faithful if we will sit still long enough to tune into His leading. Thank you for a wonderful and encouraging post this morning!

    • Bev, I know this must be hard, but it sounds like you have a friendship that can withstand distance. I’m thankful for your other friendships that are growing stronger, too!

  2. See, this is where being Dutch comes in handy. Often I notice how my culture is so different from the American culture, how I am different from my American friends. But in this case, it’s not a bad thing. We never hold back from asking more or deeper questions. I love that about me. I love people’s heart and it is always my desire to meet someone’s heart. I notice while living in the States that people tend to not ask, you see them wonder…

    I had never heard of this quote and love it: There’s a saying: If two people agree on everything, one of them is unnecessary.

    • Hope, I’ve always envied people who manage to ask deeper questions without doing it in an offensive way. You can get to know the person more and know how to pray for and love them better. I never thought about it being cultural.

  3. What an inspiring piece. I love my friends but distance and even life gets in the way. Need to make more of an effort.

  4. This post is so lovely and encouraging, Dawn. Thank you for writing it so beautifully. I’m in an in between season …because of our many moves, most of my closest friends live hundreds of miles from me. It gets tricky to balance time for new friendships while nurturing long-distance relationships. All worth it though. I want to be the friend that you mention in this post.

  5. I am in a season of seeming friendlessness. It seems my close friends have all moved distantly in the physical sense and/or relational. Our children have all grown and moved away, gathering together in their own homes and apartments – we no longer have that tie of co-parenting to keep us in touch with each other. Or, friends have moved out of state for job or health reasons. Others are moving into the grandparent stage as actual grandparents- and me- I am a Mama-grandma, raising my grandchild. While friends exclaim how fun grand-parenting is and plan play days and outings with their grandchildren I am running to preschool and conferences, deciding whether to home-school or not, thinking about music lessons, and wondering how to develop a friend base for a child, when all my contacts for friendship actually avoid interaction with me because I am constantly attending to a young child’s needs; it’s one interruption after another, after another while trying to visit of go somewhere. I feel isolated and alone. I’ve reached out in Bible study, Sunday school classes, and just in general. I’ve made lists of things to pursue for my own growth and to meet new people to ward off these negative feelings, and although I continue to learn and grow, I still come away unconnected with anyone.

    As I type this, I have received a heartfelt e-mail from a true friend, prayer warrior, and kindred spirit. Unfortunately she lives thousands of miles away and does not wish to speak by phone, so we e-mail back and forth. It is what feeds my friend hunger when I am starving. I will press on in my friend quest. I am searching for a grandparents group in my area (I wanted to start one at my church and was told there wasn’t a need). I will continue to trust Him for the desires of my heart and the outcome in my situation. There is great joy in each day, even in the toughest moments.

    • Juliea, I pray you find or start a grandparents’ group. This sounds like a difficult season, but I see how important you must be to your grandchild. It sounds like you are much needed! Your long-distance friend sounds like a great blessing, too. Sometimes they are the greatest support.

    • Hi Juliea,

      I am also a grandmother who the Lord called to adopt our tow boys now 3 and 4. Statistics say 10% of all children in the US are being raised by grandparents, and 23% of all adoptions are being raised by parents who are 55 years of age and older.

      I’m not sure where we all are located. There certainly are quite a few of us. I just don’t run into any of them myself.

      I do identify with what you are saying. I’m in the same place. I don’t know where you are according to your life. I became involved in MOPS. I don’t really identify with the women being young, but I do identify with being a mom again after what would have been an empty nest. I do identify with the Mentor mom. They are a lovely, lovely group of women. The children are just that, children.

      This is very difficult. One day at a time, and one issue at a time. The Lord does reveal what He would like you to do for each situation. I did home school the first time around. I know I am not called the second time around. I am very much at peace with what the Lord has said we are to do for school now. (I never thought I would say that 16 years ago)

      In many ways raising children in my 50’s is harder than the first time around. I had a built in support group, and more energy, and built in children in the neighborhood. But, I have to hold onto the promise that the Lord told us we would have everything we need to raise our two boys. So I have to make a conscious decision to believe Him.

      I shall be praying for both of us.



      • You are brave women and I’m overwhelmed by this job you’ve taken on, to step outside your comfort zone for the good of your grandchildren. Blessings to you!

  6. What a timely message for me as I struggle with feelings invoked by how a friend is treating me- or at least how I per

    • oops – didn’t mean to hit the post key!
      Anyway, I am perceiving her treatment in one way – and she may not even be aware of her treatment or my perceptions.

  7. Thank you for this. I believe that God is calling His women to form the friendship bonds needed. It is becoming more important, I know, in my life.
    Today’s world is making us less and less personable. Separating us. God is working to change that.
    I have believed the lies that my good friend is too busy or has her own life so I only wait until I can get to NC to visit & spend time with her. I realize today this is a lie. I realize it is my fear of rejection. I WILL reach out to my friend today.
    Thank you for this & thank God for reaching out to His women.

  8. “I Simply Love this”
    I finally….
    at my age figured out how much we need each other in our lives

  9. Friendships for me have always been work. I am such an introvert that when I finally look up, so to speak, I realize how lonely I am. Friendships weren’t encouraged in my family of origin and I guess it just became ingrained in me; however, I do encourage my kids to have friends and be good friends. I know how precious a good friend can be; I may only be able to count my good friends on one hand, but I appreciate them so much. This article has inspired me to tell them that and to pour into intentionally being more of a good friend. Thanks!

  10. I was recently contemplating reviving a friendship that went by the wayside. My concern was how to do that without seeming angry and distraught. Circumstances just led us away from each other. I have spoken to her many times in my mind , but it is time to use pen and paper. Your post today hellped me know that God is directing me and i must follow His lead. Thank you.

  11. Thank you for this beautiful post. I’m this friend, person and I was this spouse who is always digging deeper. I want to really understand the other person, meet them where they truly are, see their heart and have a beautiful, vulnerable connection. It is built on authenticity and trust…unfortunately some people are not willing to reveal their true self.

  12. This is a powerful message. I really miss my sister and friend. I wish we live close together, so we can have those close friendship moments. I thank God for the time we do have sharing, teaching, and listening. Remember to always cherish friendship

  13. I can appreciate your words today. I am the same type of person, introspective and keeper of friends, yet I ask the hard questions and sometimes that makes it hard to develop the relationships I’d love to have. My distant friends, in geography, are often my closest because we try and are not hindered by the seasonal/circumstance friendships. It makes me want to pull back more, but I have found the risk, even though it may hurt, has provided rich joys because I am always walking with the Lord. When He is in the friendship our connection is continuous. Thank you for writing such an encourahing reminder. I needed to remember that connection.

  14. True friends are precious. Life long commitments. Loving commitments.
    I’ve lots to do in our church. There’s never a dull moment in my life. We get together five days a week in our church in small groups. All different groups. It’s awesome. We enjoy each other’s company and bond and eat and talk and pray and study the bible and worship the LORD in Spirit and in TRUTH.
    True friends are a gift from the LORD that can never be replaced by any other.

  15. I am blessed to have a woman I call my “best” friend. We met at the beginning of 6th grade (way back in 1978) and were inseparable all the way through high school. Distance separated us after that as we both began college, jobs, and raising families, but, even now, I can text her any time and it’s like the distance and the years just melt away. There were times when we have been brutally honest with each other, but it never caused a rift. It’s mutual respect for each other that keeps our friendship alive….that and a love on antiques and historic buildings!

    Sadly, while that friendship is strong even through the years, I have another friend that is completely opposite. I struggle with that friendship. I often feel guilty because there are times when I just don’t want to be around her. She has a good heart, but she is very needy. If I’m honest with her after she asks my opinion (which she knows if she doesn’t want honesty, don’t ask), and it differs from how she feels, she get upset and thinks I’m judgmental. I pray for her, but haven’t spent much time with her in the last few months simply because it’s exhausting. Please pray for this friend. She is struggling, she needs to turn back to God and seek Him rather than other things in life.

  16. I am relatively new to (in)courage and very new to all of these blogs! I can relate wholeheartedly to this as I am finding myself seeming very isolated most of the time. I am sometimes the one to start up a conversation with a stranger, which I never would have done five years ago so obviously my shell is beginning to crack but I want more abundant, deeper relationships than the ones I have currently (I have two people that I would call close friends). I am 29 and single so meeting other people at school functions or soccer games isn’t something that affects me right now. I am also a college student once again so I am surrounded by people most of the time but I never truly to get to know them. I am trying to reach out more to the women in my small group at church so between my actions in reaching out and my prayers, hopefully I can surround myself with more people that I can form deeper relationships with.

  17. Dawn, the timing of this post is perfect. What I do well in friendships is listen and encourage others. I hear their struggles and offer advice and prayer. But I am not good with reciprocating.

    Just this weekend we had a quiet day retreat at my church where the focus was on prayer. At the end we all took turns praying and laying hands on one another. My experience was realizing I do need others in my life. I need to rely on friends in ways I have been afraid to.

    • Kim, I hear you. I’m a lot the same. It’s a gamble to be vulnerable, but the rewards of support and deeper friendship is worth it.

  18. Dawn,

    I loved this post! So very true that friendship is worth fighting for. It is a two-way street. To keep or make friends you must first be a friend and put yourself out there. Just send a card to a friend or call someone–it’s that simple.

    Most of my friends are “ready-made” from church, Bible study, etc. Still I work hard to maintain those friendships.

    Blessings 🙂

  19. Friendship they are public and private blessing like all good things come from God. The word friendship brings to mind traits like acceptance,love, honesty a d loyalty, continuing, one might add traits of integrity, trustworthy and faithfulness. We participate in the nurturing the divine blessing of friendship for friendship is embodied in both giving and receiving. Jesus wept. Responsible comes from friendship, but let us not lose sight of the blessing friendship brings. Dumas said. Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives and remember what one receives. It’s important to note that Jesus did repimand . Martha for her choice. He also understood Martha heart. All good friendship begin and end at the same place in the heart. If the heart changes,the friendship like wise changes. Each of the two sisters ministered to Jesus in two distinctive ways Each shared a unique friendship with the master. Like Mary, may we cherish and protect our time with our friend, the Master, Like Martha, may we serve Him and make Him feel welcome. From the simple seed of understanding, We reap the lovely harvest of true friendship.