“Becoming” is such an expansive word, isn’t it? We use it about an outfit. As in, “That dress is very becoming on you.” OK, maybe we don’t use that phrase but our mothers did. It means – “it suits you,” “it enhances you,” “it reveals your beauty.” In other words, “that dress tells the truth about who you are.” That’s a lot to ask of an outfit but still.
My husband turned his life over to Christ because he saw the person that he was “becoming,” and he didn’t like that person. He wasn’t loving. He wasn’t kind or generous or unselfish. Realizing that, he simply asked Jesus to come in and clean up the mess that he was. And Jesus did!
“Becoming.” Every day we are becoming. Every day we are moving closer toward the person that we want to be. Or not. Every thought we accept, every word we speak, every decision we make is moving us. Toward or away.
It matters. OK, that truth kind of depresses me right now because I am aware that the thoughts I have been engaging this morning and the choices I have been making as a result of them have not been bringing me Life. I have not been agreeing with Truth in my inmost being. So, I’m going to change the direction of my life in this very moment. I’m choosing now to align myself with God. See, not only does every thought and choice matter, but also I matter. YOU matter.
To move toward the woman we so long to become, the woman that God had in mind when he created us, includes believing that what God says about you (and me) in his Word is true – every single moment of our lives. Whether we feel like it or not.
So what is true? For us? We are loved. We are seen by the One who sees everything and in that space of being deeply known, we are also deeply accepted, chosen and enjoyed. Yes, enjoyed! Think on that. Those thoughts and the choices we will make based on them will be very becoming on us. They will reveal the truth of who we really are – the very beloved ones of God.
Stasi Eldredge is a wife, mom, women’s ministry director, author and speaker who loves sharing the goodness of God with women. After becoming a Christian in college, Stasi joined Youth for Christ, heading up a ministry to pregnant teenagers and teen mothers. She’s been active in ministry ever since, including theatre ministry, crisis pregnancy center ministry, women’s ministry, and children’s ministry.
Stasi loves the joy and freedom that comes from knowing the passionate, stunning love of Jesus Christ and lives to see others come to know him more deeply. She is co-author, with her husband John, of the bestselling book, Captivating, and the author of Becoming Myself: Embracing God’s Dream of You. Connect with Stasi at RansomedHeart.com.
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Becoming Myself is a hope-filled book for anyone who wonders if her life will ever change—if she will ever change. In Stasi Eldredge’s most intimate book yet, she shares her own struggles with self-worth, weight, and her past as she shows readers how God is faithfully unveiling who we truly are.
Kerith Stull says
Wow. This is so thought provoking. I never considered what a powerful word “becoming” is.
In Education, this book would serve not only me but the many who I counsel; if possible to place me in the winning group, your book would be recommended, loaned, shared with college students along with others who ask me for advice. Thanks for considering me. Gratefully, Francine
Jenny Barker says
So happy to find you in this place, Stasi… a blog I enjoy reading and following. I love and appreciate your words. They ring very true with my own heart as I, like you, continue on the journey of becoming all God created me to be. Many blessings…
O I want to be more like JESUS.
Helen Gash says
Woah. I need this today. In fact I’ve needed it for a long time. Not even going to wait to see if I win Stasi’s book, buying it now.
Beth Williams says
Wow! What an eye-opening post to read this morning. Recently I have noticed a change in my attitude, actions and words and not for the better. I need to take some time and “become” the good Christian woman I used to be…more loving, caring and less agitated about life.
I want to be more like Christ and try to become the Proverbs 31 woman who thinks of others before herself and showers them with love.
Thanks for a great post!