And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him.
A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.
~ Ecclesiastes 4:12
For all but the first four months of high school, I had a boyfriend.
It was a tumultuous thing, this teenage romance, full of all the drama and conflict of an 80s John Hughes film. Break-ups. Make-ups. Cheatin’ hearts. Both of us.
I remember practice-writing my married name a thousand times – my first and his last – and I even set our wedding date for September 17, 1985 (I liked that date for no particular reason at all). As fate and young love would have it, we went our separate ways by college and eventually lost touch altogether.
Years later, when I heard “our song” begin to play at our ten-year class reunion – The Commodores’ Three Times a Lady – I asked my husband of then eight years if he minded if I asked my old beau to dance. He was fine with it, but my friend declined–his wife didn’t approve.
It was the last time I saw him.
* * * * * ** *
The way I see it there are two ways to live with regret:
1) To be bound by it, anchored to your past, where your history informs your present and you’re too paralyzed to move forward (negative and unproductive).
2) When you recognize if you were given the chance to go back in time and make different decisions, understanding then what you know now, you likely would. It doesn’t mean you’re continuously beating yourself up over it; you simply have the benefit of knowing the consequences of your past decisions and realizing there was a better choice you could have made.
Unless you happen to end up marrying your high school sweetheart, maintaining a close friendship with him after marriage probably isn’t the best idea. Conversely, your relationships with your girlfriends are something you can hold onto always and forever.
This, among several reasons, is why we encouraged our children to pursue friendship with members of the opposite sex when they reached high school. While we didn’t forbid dating, we discouraged it by encouraging group outtings and spending time with their friends.
Our oldest made this easy; early on she made the decision not to date/have a boyfriend in high school.
My daughter was so different from the girl I was in high school and I admired her for so many reasons:
reserved and resolved, she was a young woman with strong convictions. Her faith was growing, evidences noticeable in part by her concern for others. She was determined and compassionate and spoke truth into the lives around her. And her inner beauty magnified her outer.
For those reasons and so many more, I thought all the boys in her school were dirt dumb and bat blind not to be chasing after her regardless of her decision not to have a boyfriend (it’s not like she broadcast it).
Her two best friends made the same decision regarding dating anyone seriously in high school. Rather than dealing with the kind of relational drama common to many (and to myself during that same season), they invested in their friendship.
Those three cords were strong and beautiful.
Observing their friendship I realized something special I had missed out on by the choices I had made.
* * * * * * * * * *
One day this summer the three girls were home from college spending the night at our house. It was during a conversation with them that I realized they were questioning some of their choices back in high school — did their decision not to date anyone even matter? Had it all been for nothing, assuring a naïveté about the opposite sex that didn’t really serve them?
And so with the strongest conviction I could muster, I told them no! It was not for nothing!
Making a counter-culture decision and sticking with it is one of most mature, challenging and protective choices you can make for yourself.
Not getting seriously involved with a guy…
spared them the teenage drama and heartache typically associated with on-again/off-again relationships.
protected them from temptations that are so difficult to resist, sometimes you give in to what you never thought you would.
fortified their friendships with one another and strengthened their friendships in general.
I wanted them to understand how rare that decision is and that it set them apart in a beautiful way. That what they may lack in experience with the opposite sex is really no set back at all and that the right guy will not only understand but will value that choice.
I told them if I could go back to high school knowing then what I know now, I would never have dated a guy all four years; I would have invested my time and energy and affections into friendships that could last a lifetime.
* * * * * * * * *
My in-laws were babies when they fell in love at 14 and 15. High school sweethearts who married in college, over 50 years later their affections still sizzle. I adore that kind of love story. I also have friends who have remained in touch with the fella they dated in high school.
In other words, I recognize not everyone’s choices and circumstances align neatly with what I’m suggesting, and that’s just fine! I would never presume a “one size fits all” approach to personal conviction.
My prayer, my purpose, is simply to encourage.
This is a love letter to the girls who’ve never dated; to those who have never been asked out and to those who were asked and declined. To the wallflowers or late bloomers or girls who made intentional choices.
Whatever your case, this is a gift.
Choice and circumstance has protected your heart and maybe even your body, and allowed you time to invest in other relationships and interests. It’s given you time to grow up and mature in your faith.
It’s not something ever to regret.
Q. I bet opinions are all over the place with this one; care to share yours? Or your wisdom, encouragement or experience? I’d love to hear.
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Bev Duncan @ Walking Well With God says
Robin,
As a mother of a 25 year old woman…I agree with you and my daughter would too. Looking back she sees that 16 (or really the teen years in general) is way too young to handle all the drama, emotional turmoil and sexual temptation that comes with being in a “serious” relationship. Though, as a child of God, she has moved past them, she regrets mistakes that she has made and if she had a free “do over” she probably would have chosen differently. But God, in His amazing way is using those threads to weave her story and part of her story is now working with a group of girls at church who are 14 years old. She will stay with them until they graduate. I know for a fact that her testimony is making a difference in their lives. God can truly use all things together for good for those that love Him! Meanwhile…go for the girlfriends!!
Blessings Robin,
Bev
Robin Dance says
Bev ~ YES! For the Romans 8:28 of our past!! God CAN use all of it for our good, His glory and the Gospel’s sake….but sometimes it takes a while to see that or believe it. A common thread for me these days is the redemptive nature of God; He’s redeemed His people and He can redeem the pain or hardship of our past. How lovely that your daughter has a changed mind and heart and is using what she knows to bless others. 🙂
Bomi says
Very useful advice for young women ~ Thanks for sharing:)!
sonyamacdesigns says
As young women gather around a square table at my house on Thursday afternoons … to chat after high school … while they KICK and TWEET. I must say I agree with you Robin. These young women are already broken by choices of their Mothers. They need time to reveal & heal. My daughter and I started this work four years ago and group therapy on {Thursday nights} … two years ago. NOW, the three get to go.
Robin Dance says
How wonderful that your home is a refuge for these girls; THAT is no small thing. Blessings, friend.
Amber says
I have deep regrets over some of the decisions I made in High School. I think that some of those mistakes contributed to the naming (not good enough, never be good enough, unworthy, so stop trying) of myself which colored much of my adult life. I would love to go back and put my energy into building stronger friendships with my girlfriends. As a mother of 3 daughters, 2 of which are in Junior High, I pray that they will make better choices than I made!
Robin Dance says
The beautiful thing, Amber, is you can lead from your position of insight. Might I encourage you not to over-react or assume the worst or even be too strict, but to allow your experience to point them in a better direction. There is a ridiculous amount of pressure to date! From elementary school well-meaning people ask, “Do you have a boyfriend??” which sounds silly, but it happens! So it feels like something is “wrong” with you if you don’t! One of the guiding principals for my husband and me has been to challenge our children with the consequences of their choices; to consider the big picture and not just the moment. I think because we’ve talked about it for so long, this is their go-to response; even though they’re young, they seem to think in terms of consequences for their decisions (not to suggest they always make the best choices, but at least most of the time :).).
kris scorza-sobieski says
my 12 year old daughter (who is “liked” by many boys), and i talk about how one of the rewards of holding off on dating is getting to enjoy great friendships with girls AND boys. and they are all potentially lifelong!
dating—this “trying on” of people usually results in going your separate ways when it doesn’t “fit”. and usually requires leaving friendship on the fitting room floor as well. 🙁 ‘
she is truly learning to enjoy the many friendships she has while putting ‘a boyfriend’ in god’s hands. p.s. boyfriendbears.org –kris
Robin Dance says
Kris ~ I wonder what percentage of the time “We can still be friends” works out; gosh, I remember that line from back in the day. For some reason your comment made me remember how much of a difference an involved DAD can make in his daughter’s life–to tell her she’s beautiful and special and one day a guy would be lucky to find her…if she feels lovely and valued by her first male relationship, it can have such positive affect in her life. That wasn’t the point of my post, of course, but I think it’s true :).
(thanks for sharing)
kris scorza-sobieski says
i agree! she has love notes from her dad pinned up on her board. she softens and glows when she receives them and i know that in part he is setting her up to know her worth. xo –kris
Rachelle Rea says
Thank you for this encouragement. 🙂
Heather says
Like Robin’s daughter, I suppose you could say I made a decision not to date in high school. It wasn’t a firm “this isn’t happening” statement but I never saw the point in being with someone who didn’t really matter to me (although had my high school crush actually asked me out, I probably would have said yes). In university, I was too busy to worry about the guys. Somehow, dating never became a priority. I am now 35 and still single (happily!) but occasionally I do wonder why my path has been so different from the traditional ‘get married and have babies’ path. I don’t regret the single journey, and I’m thankful for not having embarrassing and/or life-changing mistakes with men in my past. But the boyfriend questions still come, and certainly the “world” finds this 35 year old virgin to be a strange thing.
Thanks Robin for the encouragement. It is indeed a gift to not have had the broken hearts that some of my friends had, and to not have to live with the mistakes of losing virginity to the wrong person, or getting pregnant earlier than expected, or marrying too young because of youthful “mistakes”. I’ve seen it happen too many and I am thankful that God has chosen a different path for me!
Tammie says
I was in and out of steady relationships even though I wasn’t “dating” all through high school. Like you, I didn’t want my daughter to waste her youth and emotions on all that drama.
I found two different ideas helpful. Elizabeth Elliot shared that her mother taught her not to chase boys, and when boys chased her to keep them at arms length. Doug Wilson talks about teaching our girls to be “warm, friendly, and distant.” I’ve encouraged boys I’ve mentored to be the same, actually–to be intentional about building friendships and having a certain self-dignity in responding to the attentions of someone who may be infatuated with them.
In my daughter’s case, she had quite a few friends who were boys. A few had crushes on her, and she talked frankly with them about what they could expect from her. . .friendship. And she also met her husband at that time, and clearly by the time she was 15 he was interested in her, and when she was 16 and he was 21 they officially became a couple.
On the other hand, her friendships with girls were full. of. drama. She was popular and everyone wanted her to be their *best* friend. She tried to keep friendships centered on Christ. As time has gone on, about half those friends went their own way, and about half of them have become treasured close friends who have been that “three-fold cord not easily broken” as they have gone on through the trials and joys of life together.
Kate says
Oh, give those young ladies high fives.
Yes.
If I could have those years back……I would do just about everything differently. But….moving forward now and doing all I can to help my kids make sound and wise choices. Help us, Lord.
Good word.
Blessings,
Kate 🙂
Patty Muich says
I had a boyfriend for two years in high school. My daughter ‘stayed single’ 🙂 I think that she was the happier of the two of us and a lot wiser. When I asked God for a daughter he blessed me with her. She has went above and beyond what I had ever dreamed of.
Both of us still have girlfriends from high school but she stays in touch with hers more often.
I agree with what you are saying. I think friendship in high school is best.
Love,
Patty
Diane says
My daughter is 15 and hasn’t a serious boyfriend for 4 years, a few short term boyfriends but not even that for almost 2 years. Some days she so desperately wants the companionship, someone to cuddle and watch movies with and then other days she realizes what she is looking for really isn’t out there for her yet. She is confidence in herself. She is very modest and she is very adamant that she will not “give herself” to any boy until she has been with them a very long time (in her mind that is about a year) and if they can’t wait for that, then she doesn’t want to do that with them anyway. She really is a beautiful girl inside and out. She could get a lot of guys, she goes to a very large high school but I am so blessed to see her not compromise her strong convictions of saving herself for someone that is “worthy”… I”m also thankful that she is so open with me about everything, especially the “relationship” stuff. Good story, I will share this with her, she will really enjoy it. Thank you for the opportunity to comment.
~ Diane
Kristen says
I was that girl…two dates while in high school, never a serious boyfriend…I met the love of my life through a mutual friend January 31 of this year, and we married just two weeks ago…September 14! Hundreds of friends gathered with us to celebrate God’s faithfulness!! God answered decades of prayer and waiting and tears and rejoicing..last year, I had almost given up all hope that God would bring me His man for me! And then God gave me an “And suddenly” moment! At 38 years of age, I can tell you with great conviction IT IS WORTH THE WAIT!
Shelly Wildman says
Yes, yes, and YES!! As a mom to three girls who have not yet dated that much, I know that pain and loneliness that can sometimes bring. But I also know that God is sparing them from the pain and anguish of being in a relationship that is not good for them, and for that I am thankful. It’s hard to convey this to a teenager whose friends are all going to the Homecoming dance next weekend and she isn’t, but one day she will look back and realize that most of those people won’t end up together and the dance isn’t as much fun as it seems.
And here’s one more thing God may be sparing these girls from. Even though I didn’t date much in high school, I really, really wanted to, so I asked a boy to the Turn About dance one year. I had had a huge crush on this boy all through high school–he was a senior; I was a junior–and I finally got the courage to ask him to the dance. He said yes!!! And then, about a week or two before the dance, he sent me a note basically telling me that he had gotten a better offer and wouldn’t be going to the dance with me. Yep. I was crushed. I cried for days and felt like the biggest loser ever to walk the halls of my high school. I have looked back and realized that God was sparing me, and today I am so glad I didn’t date much before I met my husband.
Myra Wells says
I had a steady boyfriend in high school, but I still retained friendships with my girlfriends. While I don’t regret dating in high school, I do regret getting as serious as I did. I think I was drawn to him because love and attention in my house were very thin. It felt amazing to have someone there for me during all the drama with my family. But that’s the wrong reason for dating and we crashed and burned once we graduated from high school. My high school friends tell me, even forty years later, I had such a phenomenal high school experience because I was dating! They missed not dating, believe it or not, and that seemed to define their opinion of high school. Years later, though, after college and into my career, I made the decision to stop dating for a while – to regroup, work on myself, strengthen my relationship with God. But God can’t be tamed and during my sabbatical from dating, I met a wonderful man. We didn’t date for two years; just were friends. By building a great friendship before we dated, we now have a lovely marriage of 24 years. As Robin so profoundly stated, I do feel building strong community with your girlfriends at any stage in life should be, must be a priority.
Sarah Schulz says
I would have loved to hear this as a teen or 20-something, while I was busy making the same counter-cultural choice. It’s still kind of aw-shucks encouraging to hear now that I’m 33 and married (to the first man I actually dated, though not the first I fell in love with).
But making a counter-cultural choice can bring its own baggage. The church (at least the part I grew up in) put so much emphasis on avoiding heartache and avoiding sexual sin that although I did my best to be a thoughtful celibate woman in Christ, I didn’t found community that would allow me to be honest about what that was like until after I was already married. I craved honesty about sexual desire and about emotional desire, about how to love others without cutting my soul into shreds in my efforts to serve and please them, about how to love and accept my body because Christ does.
I don’t regret making my choices. But I do regret the amount of years I spent in fear, unsure of who I was or could be, unsure of what part of myself might make me dangerous or sinful. I would tell my counter-cultural sisters to try to choose what leads to love and connection rather than fear or disconnection, to be honest with (rather than judgmental of) each others’ particular struggles and longings, and not be afraid to prepare to embrace what they’ve set aside when the time comes for them welcome it. 🙂
In other words, Christ can help us make wonderful counter-to-the-world’s-culture choices, but I’ve discovered that there’s a place for the world to help us make counter-to-fearful-church choices as well. Both are good, and each person may need more of one than the other.
Bonnie says
Much to the chagrin of my friends who did not understand, I raised my daughter to be abstinate until marriage and she did not date, but courted, and did not find her husband until she was 29. I remember her asking me a few months before she met him, should she lower her standards? I told her absolutely not, God would never want her to do that. I questioned my answer to her in my heart as I wondered if there were any men left out there in society who would be worthy of her love. Would she get to be 40 and still be looking? Would she hate me for telling her to wait for God to bring the love of her life? I took that chance, and relied on a prayer I heard from Josh McDowell that was pasted in my Bible that asked God to please bless my “meager efforts” and make them His. Needless to say, God still answers prayer. She met the love of her life, although she went through a very depressing time and was even looking at houses to purchase on her own if she was being called to be single, and they met and married within 5 months. She had never kissed another man or dated anyone else until she met her husband. I can say without any reservation at all, and I am a very overly watchful mom, that she met the man that God had for her all along. It was definitely worth the wait. They both put God first and have purity in their marriage. Long story short, Hurray for the God who cherishes the faithful prayers of us mommies out there and still takes excellent care of His own.
Gerrie says
Oh what a change has come about since I was in school! I had friends who were girls and friends who were boys. I dated boys, but never went steady. I has crushes, but the boys never knew. After I graduated and had a job, I dated one young man who turned out to be quite a liar and tried to take advantage of me. He came close to first base, but was called out. He was handsome and charming, but his morals were lacking. We stalked me when we broke up.
Fast forward to some of my grandchildren: one sexually active at twelve, first baby at sixteen, has lived with the divorced father of her second child for about 2 years, and sees nothing wrong with it. Her 16 year-old brother impregnated a 15 yo girl. They have a daughter, and he is in prison for multiple felonies. He and his next girlfriend were drug users and thieves. Another granddaughter in a different family had a child out of wedlock, and married the father afterward. A grandson old enough to know better is living with a married woman who has several children, not his. One grandson put marriage and children in the proper order. Another is in the Air Force, is rising in rank steadily, and as far as I know from several states away, and is morally fine.
Jean wiseman says
Sweet friend… It has become by challenge (joy) to pick out your writing when I get encourage. I must say, I have gotten so good at it. I LOVE your heart, Robin. You make me laugh and sometimes cry, every good southern girls desire when reading. Mostly, you encourage me, and for that, I am so very grateful. These are wise words, girl. Xo
Becky says
What an awesome lesson! I definitely know that I would like to go back and change some things about high school, but not necessarily go through everything that puberty brings on. 🙂
Since I grew up with all sisters, I never understood anything about boys and how they think. There was one boyfriend in high school (with whom I experienced the on/off again pain) and a one-time date with a Mormon. I was a good Baptist girl. The Lord protected me by making sure that I was out of the house every time the Mormon guy called back. My Mom told me years later that she never told me about his calls. Praise the Lord! While I loved the Lord with all my high school girl heart, had devotions, etc., the reason I dated the Mormon was that I felt so desperate to have a boyfriend. If I had a boyfriend, I would have been “cool.” Oh, that I had spent that time and desire focusing more on the Lord. The idea of not dating in high school and, instead, focusing on friends is a much better idea.
After being saved at the age of 7, the Lord has kept me close to Himself, in spite of some choices that I have made. High school, even college, girls reading this comment, make it your priority pleasing the Lord, rather than focusing on getting a boyfriend or husband. He has a plan for you (Jeremiah 9:11) and if and when He has a partner for you, don’t settle for less than He has in mind for you by jumping into a relationship into which God has not clearly led you.
God bless you, my new friends!
Elaine says
Oh, man, if I had had the emotional maturity of your girl & her friends! I was the quintessential ugly duckling in high school. I had two very good friends, one of whom had lots of dates/boyfriends; the other one was like me.
I met my (now) husband just before my senior H.S. year, and we dated for over 2 years, then broke up. (And God’s plan always works out – we’ve had 4 wonderful kids in 27 years of marriage) By not focusing on “boys” in H. S., I was able to focus on school – hello!
I’m sure that you tell your daughter all the time how wise she is – I think she gets it from you!
Linda says
I didn’t date anyone in high school- no one ever asked me! I personalized this and thought I wasn’t pretty enough to attract a boy. However I wasn’t all that interested either. I became a Christian at 15 and that made a big impact on my teen years. I made some bad choices in my marriage that I regret today, but I try to do as the apostle Paul says, and move forward. I applaud your daughter and her friends for sticking to their convictions. I am raising two sons, 11 and 9. I pray daily that God will bless them with wives who committed themselves to purity before marriage and I pray the same for my boys. Great article!
Amy says
I love this so much. I never dated anyone in high school or college. I didn’t want to have the drama and heartache so many I knew had. I didn’t want to repeat the vicious cycle of divorce and dysfunction in my family.
I prayed for God to save me for one man, no matter how long it took and no matter how often I fought him on it.
And he did. When I was 28 years old, I met my fiance. He was my first kiss and will be my first everything.
God came through. He not only answered my prayer about saving me for the right man; during my prolonged season of singleness, He developed ME into the right person not only for John but for myself and for Him.
It was tough at times to wait, but it was so, so, so worth it.
Alyce says
Robin,
Thank you for this. I do wish I could go back and tell my silly teenage self a few wise words…oh but I cannot do that! I can however guide and direct my daughters to follow the Lord’s leading and direction. This parenting thing — this parenting two beautiful daughters thing–. IT.IS.HARD. but it is also a joy, privilege, and blessing. I bookmarked this post so that I have it close by in the near future when my oldest gets wandering eyes.
Virginia Patton says
Thank you for reassurance that choices made so long ago were appropriate! My high school years were hard as I struggled without close friendships of either age. As I went to college, I began to learn how to make friends and I still treasure some of those friendships in spite of the years that have gone by. At 77 some of those memories are still vivid.
Marlynn J. Wauran says
The Lord gave me the verse Ecclesiastes 4:12 sometime in 2010. This same verse came up again twice this month (via a sermon on the radio and through this article). Coincidence? No. God is blatantly telling/reminding me something. Robin, I love the words of wisdom in this article and I love reading the comments. I realized it is true, as I’ve read in the comments, God always “spares” us from relationships that are not His will & from a person (significant other) not ordained for us. Even at times, our choice and want (for a significant other) are nipped in the bud and causes great disappoint, some moments of depression, and desperation– God is sparing! It reminds me of Isaiah 55:8-9: “’For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,’” says the Lord. ‘For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts.’ Truly, it is better to wait on the Lord.” I enjoy the friendships with the people God has encountered for me to have– with both women and men. I’m still praying for the person God has ordained for me: The true man of God and the one places Matthew 6:33 in his heart.
Jess says
I absolutely love this letter. Such a refreshing and encouraging thing to read.
I’m 24 and have never dated. Believe me when I say that some days I absolutely love this and other days I completely despise it. But, for all the reasons you listed, I’m glad that I didn’t. I have no idea how to date, so if that does ever become are part of my life, it’s going to be real funny to watch. ha
I now have some high school girls in my life that are so important to me. And they are experiencing dating and all that comes with it. Even though I have no experience when it comes to dating, I’ve had some good (and not so good) friendships with guys that help guide me along. I can only use that when it comes to giving advice. And the only thing I want to give them is useful and Godly advice that will help guide them along through high school.
And whenever I teach them, they teach me something that continues to help me. Even in my mid-20s.
Great post! Thank you for it!
Beth Williams says
Jess,
I didn’t really start dating till around 36 or so and then only occasionally. I prayed for a Godly mate and 3 years later God sent me the most wonderful loving hubby a gal could want.
We hit it off, because we started out and still are best friends. Don’t worry about dating. Let God handle that and when time is right God will send someone your way.
In the mean time–as a single person you have ample time to do local missions and help others.
karyn says
I had a boyfriend, friend ever since I can remember when I was a child. Then I had one at eleven years old. I think he was fourteen. He left for Canada very soon after. When we happened to meet in my thirties it was nice. In Secondary School, I had boyfriend friends. It was nice. The boys were …. always wanting me to be their girlfriend.
We were in big groups though. Mixed groups. So many of us.
School was like Summer Camp.
Once when I was fifteen this one guy really liked me. But my friend Carol really liked him. And he just came for me like ……. but I just did not go out with him cos my friend Carol had this big crush on him. So, finally he relented and went out with Carol. So, my friendship with Carol, remained.
I do not know a no boyfriend feeling. I married young and had two kids young. My kids looked like my brothers really cos I looked very young for my age. 🙂
Three Times A Lady. I suppose I was married then. It was a nice song. Love love songs.
Killing Me Softly With His Song – was our 1973 song 🙂
karyn says
That was my first husband.
Because You Loved Me – my second husband, our song.
iowasally says
I was so blessed to have 3 close friends all through school. We dated boys only a little, like homecoming and prom. Our friendship has endured, though many miles separate us. Our friendship was strong and lasting because of our faith in Christ, and we have been there for each other through the years, 43 since high school, encouraging each other through trying times, and sharing in each other’s joys. I have been blessed with great friends in other locations as I’ve moved, and the most enduring ones are those where Jesus is in our midst. I am blessed!
Beth Williams says
Great great post Robin. You nailed it!! There is too much emphases on dating and being in a relationship these days. The teen years are for forming good long- lasting friendships.
The Junior, High school and college years could be spent forming super bonded friends and making an impact on the lives of others.
I was super shy in high school and through out my 20s and 30s. Didn’t date at all till I was 36 or so and then just occasionally. I used the time in between to do local missions.
patty says
this is so timely for me…
i met you years ago at the incourage party at blissdom. {oh. and i stalk you on instagram :)} i’ve started a project w women in my community to empower girls, and it includes a blog. i’ve just pinned this article to our boards, which we refer to for references for our readers. excellent post. in fact. i’m going to have my daughter read it.
xo
Tanya says
As an adult who is one of the “never has …” girls, thank you for the affirmation. This is just what I needed.
Maylee says
Ah…If we could go back and know then what we know now would had spared me a few difficult moments. However I believe that God gives us these hard times so that we may learn to become the person we were meant to be.
I totally understand this..Wished I too would had invested in true friendship instead. Thanks so much for this…..