After a couple days of attending the women’s conference at our church, my hubby asked how it was going. For sure, there had been awesome moments of praise and worship and an outpouring of great messages, but somehow I felt disconnected from what everyone else seemed to be experiencing around me. You would think it’d be a time of great refreshing and recharging, but somehow I felt empty.
It made no sense, but the best I could come up with is that the conference had a different vibe. When he pressed further, I sputtered out something about it being too trendy. I could tell he was confused by this odd description, and certainly I was too.
That is, until I came across this post on the blog, Black and Married with Kids.
It all began to make sense.
There hadn’t been anything wrong with the conference. The problem was the tiny voice permeating throughout my head telling me I was less than all the other women at the conference.
It told me I didn’t measure up to the ladies walking through the parking lot with their perfect hair and makeup. Or the ones sliding in the pews looking fresh off the pages of In Style magazine. And even the ones standing on the platform with their commanding knowledge of God’s Word and superhero-like faith.
I couldn’t connect to what was happening during the services because I was so distracted by appearances–how fabulous everyone else seemed–that I’d forgotten who I was.
When we feel the lie named “less than” creeping its way inside our head, these are the moments when we need to stand up straight, puff up our chest and shoot back with diva-like attitude–Don’t you know who I am?
- I am created in God’s own image; in His image he created me. (Genesis 1:27)
- I am fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalms 139:14)
- I am filled with all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:19)
- I am the temple of God and His spirit dwells in me. (I Corinthians 3:16)
- I am from God and greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. (I John 4:4)
- I am God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that I would walk in them. (Ephesians 2:10)
- I am complete in Christ. (Colossians 2:10)
- I am a child of God. (John 1:12)
- I am a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God’s own possession. (I Peter 2:9)
- I am saved and called with a holy calling by God. (2 Timothy 1:9)
- I am one of God’s chosen. (Ephesians 1:4)
This is who I am. This is who you are.
Far too often, we give the devil free reign over our thinking. We naively fall for the lies. It’s likely that the only reason that sly fool is messing with you in the first place is because he’s seen your future and knows what he’s up against.
Since the women’s conference, I’ve had a chance to rewatch many of the conference sessions, and can I tell you what an amazing word I almost missed – lessons on retraining our thoughts, the power of rest and flourishing in our purpose. Good words that have rallied me to pursue my dreams even harder.
Rather than letting feelings of insignificance beat us down, we must use God’s Word to boldly declare to the enemy (and perhaps even ourselves) who we really are. I assure you, it’s a far cry from less than.
By Kacey Bess, Next Level MamaLeave a Comment
Katie Shannon says
Love that — Diva like attitude, don’t you know who I am?!
I need to save this for those yucky days
Definitely! The devil needs to hear a bit of attitude so he knows who he’s messing with. 🙂
Bev Duncan @ Walking Well With God says
I have a small circle of friends and we call ourselves “God’s Divine Divas”…it’s our way of remembering to Whom we belong and encouraging one another. Recently I found some clings to put on your cell phone or laptop that said “Diva” in pink and purple bling lol. I have mine on my laptop and it reminds me that I am “fearfully and wonderfully made” whenever I am feeling “less than”. Take that Satan…Loved your divalicious post 🙂
God’s Divine Divas…I love it!! And that you all certainly are.
Diva-licious…love it! Satan loves to tell us we are less than God’s chosen princess, thank you for reminding me…Don’t you know who I am and who my Daddy is!!
Crystal @ Serving Joyfully says
So true, Kacey!
Needed this today. Every day, actually. Thank you.
I’m with you. Me too! I have to constantly remind myself.
Thank you for the great reminder and “fighting words”! 🙂
this was so very valuable…no matter how many times it’s been said, the timeliness of a repeat is like words of gold and ideas of silver (a very very loose paraphrase of something in Proverbs) And I loved the link – what a wow guy for any ethnic community…which includes us all. Racial reconciliation is one of his ministries. wow.
So inspite of feeling like I am only on this earth for excavation and remodeling, never, ever to arrive in this life as a useful worthy item in the Kingdom, I realize that this is the lie of the enemy. Again.
Wow. What an excellent topic to learn about and keep it for ourselves and share with those who feel the same way. 🙂
I loved this!! It’s so easy for us as women to compare our insides with everyone else’s outsides (thank you, Lysa Turkhurst!). This is a great reminder! 🙂
Oh, that’s good…compare our insides with everyone else’s outsides. Was that from one of Lysa’s books or recent posts?
I love this post today! Thank you for the encouraging words. At 55 I still fall into that trap of not enough. I needed to hear this today, God chose you and your words for me to get it! I’m going to print this one to re read on an as needed basis!
Awww, I appreciate you saying that, and I’m happy these words helped you. It’s true, you know? You are something special!
I have so “been there, done that”!
Thank you for this refreshment for the mind ~ Blessings
this is so true…..unfortunately I think the church is becoming influenced
and becoming more like the world and we are all feeling the pressures.
Thank you for the reminder from the Word of who we really are
and ‘whose’ we really are and what where about….
the cross is so different from the world isn’t it…..????
it should be…..
I’m glad to know I’m not the only one that has battles with the mind and that’s why it’s so good to refesh and feed yourself in God’s Word and find out the truth of what God says you are.
Thank you, Kacey, for the many scriptures you provided to get us started and remind us and the devil of “who I am.”
Gosh, no. You are not alone in this struggle. Circling back to the Word always gets me back on track.
Oh what a needed post this was for me today. So glad I stopped in. Thank you for the go-to scriptures to turn to when I’m feeling “less than.”
Blessings to you.
Lynne McGinnis says
thank you so much. This was sent to me through a friend( thank you Donna). I struggle daily with feelings of in adequacy. I am a single mom of three and have been for 18 years. It is hard being in the church which most of my age people are all couples, and being by my self is in itself a reason to doubt the great things about me that God has made in me. Why am I alone after all this time? I know if there is someone for me it will happen in God’s time, I just want to hurry it up! My children are grown and I stay very involved in the church through the children’s and music ministry. I know I am fearfully and wonderfully made, but in my times of weakness, the evil one chooses my self esteem or lack of and my singleness to make me doubt God’s wonderful plan for my life! Thanks for reaffirming that I am pretty amazing because God created everything about and in me. I appreciate the reminder of the fact that I am a one of a kind creation in His eyes!
I can feel your struggle. While it can seem like we’re alone in things, we never really are. Not only is God there, but we have this amazing community of incourage women, for one. 🙂 Enjoy being awesome and amazing today!
I feel like this at church too. Everyone is coupled off. I thought I was the only one.
Beth Williams says
Lynn & Ty,
You both may be single for a very good reason. God may be up to something big in your lives. He may be preparing you for a mission trip either locally or globally. Without a partner you have more free time to devote to the church & to God’s activities.
Keep on praying for a mate–never stop! God Bless! 🙂
Joanne Peterson says
Thank you, this so goes along with the other message posted today. I can sense that this large change in my life will be for the good plans he has for my family and my two little boys. I don’t have to compare, this is what I am to do, and who I am, and this is the job He has been preparing me for. But, I felt inadequate, and tired, and life was passing me by. Thank you again.
You’re right on Joanne. God has made you in a specific way, to do a specific thing for a specific purpose. You have in you everything you need to succeed…believe that!
Marinalva Sickler says
I need to copy down the selection and spread in the house. Divine!
Heidi Fuller says
This is lovely and a helpful reminder of who we truly are. Unfortunately, is so often seems too easy to assume that the kinds of cliques and “mean girls” of the world will be present whenever we are in a large body of women. Why is it that we, as unique and lovely creations feel the need to compare ourselves to others? Personally, I’m thrilled to see the beginning of a strong movement toward authenticity of relationships in our Christian community.
“We are the body of Christ, the representatives of God within tHis kingdom. The stronger we stand, courageous before each other, in love and acceptance, knowing the beauty that lies beneath and reveling together when love shines through… revealing together that “me” and “you” are “we”…. beyond artificiality… the stronger we become.”
[from “Scars Upon Thars”]
Elizabeth Anne May says
Oh, Kacey, I can feel that way too. Less than. Distracted by others’ glossy perfection. It’s definitely an enemy tool.
But your “I am” statements blast those lies right out of the water. Well played!
You raise a good question Heidi. Why do we so often feel the need to compare ourselves to others? Thinking through it, perhaps part of it is our need to be…be recognized, be known, be filled, etc. Definitely something to think through. Thanks for sharing!
Laurie Wallin (@mylivingpower) says
I hear you, girl. A bunch of women from my church — a 2 year old church plant — got together last night to discuss what women’s ministry might look like if we had some going on at our church. The biggest thing we came up with as we thought of who the women of our community are and what lies they struggle with most was just that: not enough. It’s epidemic in women everywhere. We’ve had women’s lib open doors to doing EVERYTHING, so now we never feel we’re doing enough of ANYTHING. Or doing it well enough. Or whatever. Thank you for speaking God’s truth into this broken place in us gals. Blessings, fellow GSDT-er!
I am constantly battling the “less than” thoughts. I might just bookmark this post and read your list of scripture daily. Or hourly, depending the day. 😉
Christine Wright says
I have felt this – and am loving your suggestions. I think it’s time I do some bold declaring! : ) Thank you, friend.
Amy KW says
I really appreciate this post. Your Scripture list is priceless. “A far cry from less than”…what a great way to end my day! Thanks so much Kacey!
Amen, friend! Thanks for reminding us of who we really are. Grateful for you! 🙂
Beth Williams says
Grateful for this post and the scriptures! I struggle a lot lately with the “less than” feelings of inadequacy. I hear the lies of the evil one daily telling me “stupid, dumb, not good enough, smart enough–don’t even try”! I fight it with prayers from me and hubby. Now I have a new tool–some good scriptures that I can shout at him with my diva-licious attitude!