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Angela Nazworth is a shame-fighting storyteller who writes mostly about the beauty of grace, faith, friendship, vulnerability and community. She is a wife and a mother of two. Angela's also an encourager, a lover of good books, coffee, girl's night out, sunshine, and waterfalls. In the 15 years since she...

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  1. Beautiful…thank you for this. I’m not married (yet), but have been dreaming for years now. These thoughts – as well as the verses that anchor them – are such good reminders of what I want my marriage to look like – someday!

  2. Perfect….I have been married for 19 years. I too…..was silly at the beginning…. expectations out the roof wondering What the WORLD I had done???????? Then I let God not the world set my marriage steps….no we are far from perfect, but together with God as our center piece and the world on the back porch we are in love God style. This will touch many, Stay strong and grounded in God’s word….loved it!

    • How wonderful Daphne! Thank you for responding. I still make so many mistakes, but am so thankful for God’s grace and my husband’s forgiving heart.

  3. Wise words, friend. You’ve unpacked ~love~ unbeautifully, and I imagine if most young brides read this…and were open to the challenge of your message…their marriages would be abundantly blessed by your counsel and encouragement.

    Well done :).

  4. I wondered if I had made a mistake too. I think my exact thought was, “I have ruined my life!” We just had our 10 year anniversary and my husband has been the greatest gift of my life. Lovely letter.

  5. Oh those immature early days of marriage. I remember them so well.
    Thankfully, God grows each of us in maturity and wisdom. 23 years later….I’m so glad I have the husband of my youth!

    • You know, I still have my immature moments, but am so thankful to have learned a better way. Thank you so much for commenting.

  6. “Wield love not like a weapon, but like a healing agent.” Perfect summation. If only I had that mindset the first 20 years of this marriage, maybe they would have been kinder and gentler like the last few 🙂 Keep trying younger ones, it is all worth it. He is faithful to complete the good work He began in y-o-u.

    • Thank you, Sherri … some days I wish I would have really gotten my letter when I was 25 … but I wonder if I would have listened to myself? 🙂

  7. Thanks for sharing your heart, I can’t fathom God’s timing, I just wrote in my journal this morning (my birthday) I recommitted to start this ‘new’ year of my life loving my husband of 22 years with more mercy and grace. God has been writing these verses on my heart for several months. At the moment the emotions of ‘love’ seems far away. But the vow I made is just that a vow, not to be broken come rain or shine but a choice to be made daily. I have failed over and over, but for God’s grace, I still have a future with the husband God is using to teach me about real love.

  8. I cannot adequetly express how timely this post is for me. It hits close to home…a little too close. We just made it to our 13th anniversary last week. The journey has been difficult at best and I find myself wondering if I have what it takes to endure the road to Forever. Like you, I was self-centered when I got married and that part of me still creeps up from time to time. Thank you for you letter to your younger self…the letter to us all. It is exactly what I needed at exactly the right time…I am positive there is no coincidence in that.

    • I feel so honored that God used this post — which stems from my imperfections — to help speak to your heart. Happy Anniversary to you and please know that I will be lifting you and your marriage up in prayer tonight.

  9. I LOVED reading this…so beautifully written! Even more amazing? That God orchestrated this to be posted on my wedding anniversay–today my husband and I celebrate 9 years of marriage! =)

    “But if you hold onto Christ, and love as He commands, your marriage will be draped with grace and blessing” ….I’m thankful that as we’ve held onto Christ He has draped our marriage with grace and blessing and to Him be the glory!

    Thanks for sharing such a great post, pointing to God’s true agape love.

  10. Excellent that you have this insight even if it is by living it all first. So many live through the hard stuff and don’t glean the wisdom of doing it.

    My husband and I just celebrated our 20 year mark and it too was hard won one day at a time. But we are both better people because of it AND a stronger couple too. We could not have done it without God in the middle.

    Thanks for the insight… I hope all the young folks can learn from your note to the past you.

    Blessings,
    Lina

  11. Angela,

    This is so very lovely. What wise, Spirit-saturated truth resides in these words. As a single woman who is still in a season of ruthlessly trusting and confidently believing that God will provide a mate for me, these words were beautiful to store in my own spirit. Thank you.

  12. Angela,
    Thank you from my heart felt. You are so right about everything you said in the power of love. I am very touched and definitely have been through some things similar to your shoes.You have voiced out my unspoken self as well as the marriage I have.Thank you for your encouragement which has given me another insight of my life journey.

  13. Angela,

    I was much older, 39, when I got married for first time. I was “goofy in love”. My big thing was to follow him everywhere in the house and want to be around him ALL the time, eventually I got over that. My biggest thing has been praising and thanking my hubby for All he does for us! I send e-cards periodically telling him of my love for him.

    I can honestly see how our love has grown tremendously. I know we have an agape kind of love that can withstand just about anything–fights, aging parents, etc. He was “there for me” when my mother got ill and died 2 1/6 years later. He’s been there for me again when my dad got ill.

    The biggest part of our marriage is to have a devotional time each night. I read a devotion from a book. We pray together & often and support each other in many many ways.

  14. I can’t believe how in tune this is with my life right now. I have almost been married 6 months now to my one and only love (and same for him). We live in a small apartment just outside the city. Things are going very well, but I am always nervous that something big will come up and challenge our marriage. I want to be ready, I want to be able stand behind one another and fight. I have seen so many young marriages crumble around me and it’s scary. Thank you for reminding me that God’s word tells us how to live in marriage and what love is.

  15. Thanks for the post Angela. An area I have struggled with in past relationships has been growing along with the person. I think you correctly highlight that selfless action is what is required to make that happen. That we need to see ourselves as a pair first. That we haven common challenges and difficulties. That we share our wins and our losses.

    Thanks for the good reminders.

  16. Thank you for this. I’m crying as I write. Both my husband & I are in the throws of a selfish, immature love. We are 6 years and 3 kids in, and I feel stuck in my negativity and irritability towards him. I love him, but a lot of the time I don’t like him…or me….who I’ve become in marriage. Thank you for pointing me to this scripture. I am committed to memorizing it.