“I must be stupid.”
My husband’s words travel miles, ride cellular frequencies, slice through my heart.
He speaks these words, believes these words. All because he walked out the door and left his MapQuest driving directions lying lonely on his desk at home.
And I think, “No. No, you are not stupid. Stressed, yes. Overwhelmed, yes. Human, yes. Shouldering the weight of providing for five other people, yes.
Loved just as you are, YES!
And he’s not the only one. Over, and over, and over, from loved ones, I hear:
I’m so bad at this.
I’m a failure.
I’ll never be able to…
It’s too hard.
I’m afraid I’ll…
And those are just the ones spoken aloud.
Lies, all. How easily the enemies slinks his slimy way in and whispers fear and discouragement to us.
As my husband berates himself, believing those ugly words, I catch myself thinking, “I need to be a good wife here, but I don’t know what to say to him. I’m so much better at encouraging women.”
Enter more lies! More discouragement! The truth is: I can speak words of life to him.
I want to encourage him, and you, too: Take heart. Arm yourself with this truth:
The only thing that matters is who God says you are. He knew you before you were born, knit you together in your mother’s womb, declaring you to be fearfully, wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). He designed you on purpose, for a purpose that only you can fulfill (Jeremiah 29:11). He chose you (John 15:16). He wants you. He cares about every detail of your life. (Luke 12:7)
“In this way the love of God was revealed to us: God sent His only Son into the world so that we might have life through Him.”
–1 John 4:9
He loves you madly. In a reckless, sacrifice-His-own-Son-to-save-you sort of way.
Repeat after me, friends: I am loved. I have a purpose. God doesn’t make junk.
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What lies are bullying you today? What truths can you choose to believe instead? Not sure? I’d be happy to help you in your combat! Let’s chat in the comments below.
By Mandy Mianecki, His Song to Me.Leave a Comment