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Deidra is a national speaker and the author of Every Little Thing: Making a World of Difference Right Where You Are, and One: Unity in a Divided World. Follow Deidra on Instagram @deidrariggs

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  1. huh! real, true feelings expressed without shame, fear or pride. I think there’s a lot to learn from these gentlemen.

    • I used to have a very hard time saying “I love you” to people. It didn’t matter who it was – the words seemed to get stuck in my throat. The online community has helped me with that, though. Isn’t that weird? It took people I’ve never met in real life to teach me how to open up in real life.

  2. Love this. I’m also learning from my husbands friends… The secret of just being together and having fun! No expectations, no need for deep conversation all the time… Just sharing life, sacrificing for each other, loving each other. 🙂

    • Oh, what a great point, Amanda! There is value in just being together, isn’t there? Spending time with no expectations. Yes. Thanks!

  3. i’ve been blessed to be part of such a group of men since 1975..my husband’s college friends. we were the first married, so our farm was a haven for the city boys. i’m amazed at the sense of brotherhood they share. and the stories…..!!

  4. Such a great post! I love deep friendships and what they mean to EVERY PERSON in a family! Men & women need genuine loving relationships outside of home. Dr. Dobson says– it fills a spot that spouses and children cannot fill. It emboldens us to be better people!
    For women–we are emotional. Husbands aren’t equipped to meet emotional needs. We often just need someone to listen to us (not FIX the problem). That’s what other women can do for one another. Freeing husbands up for the role they are best at, leading & loving!

    Just thinking outloud here…. 😉

    • “It emboldens us to be better people.” That right there? So true! That’s what I’ve found in the online community, and it has transferred over to my friendships and relationships in real life. I love reading your thinking. 🙂

  5. What a great-looking bunch of friends. I can tell just by those smiles how much fun they have together. I’m wondering about that cord of three strands…I’m thinking how it sure is strong. A beautiful telling, Deidra.

    • It really is simple loving, isn’t it? I guess those guys could just assume they all love each other, but there is so much value in actually hearing those three words. And what an example they set for those of us who watch…

  6. How incredibly special! The joy just radiates out of them all. And THIS is what makes life so special, isn’t it……..

  7. What a gift to have friends like that!! And I bet that weekend was great fun for all of you.

    As always…beautifully written Deidra!

    Mary

  8. Wow! This is really beautiful. I wish I had made friends like that. I don’t even have 1 friend that I can share my heart to. I was always too busy taking care of my dad who was ill (he has gone home to the Lord) I was always busy with work and with ministry that I never had time for friends. These men are trully blessed to have this friendship.

  9. I wish my husband & I could have true blue friends like that. Oh we have some friends from church that we would do anything with & for. Not the kind of friendship that drives hundreds of miles to talk, laugh & share a good/sad moment in life.

    Blessings to the men for teaching us women what true friendship is@!

  10. I hear so many men, and many of them from within the church, say that guys don’t need friends–as though there’s some kind of merit in being independent and strong. I’m so thankful when I read stories like this and see examples of men demonstrating this kind of love and care for one another. Men need other men to have their backs.

    My father-in-law continues a friendship with a guy he’s known since grade school–a relationship that has endured for over sixty years. These two have walked through much joy and loss together. During my recent hiking trip, I watched my husband and his friend of over thirty years walk, talk, and laugh together. The sight of the two of them together added a layer of beauty beyond everything else that was on display.

  11. This reminds me of my brother and his friends! My brother was married this past weekend outside in 111 degree heat! His 3 best friends and their wives made the trek to see him – the last of the “quad” tie the know. All weekend they kept talking about how their “love square” was finally complete!

  12. wow. it is SO encouraging to see men bonding this way. to see men of integrity bonding in this way. i always wished my dad had more friends. it does a person such good… and what smiles on those faces! incredible. truly.