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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. I was just talking about this with my friends yesterday, how so many of us are “NCAMH” (no company at my house). We are so concerned about what others will think about our home, our food, that there is just so much to do and have go wrong, that we don’t host gatherings. We all agreed it was silly, and hopefully we will really embrace friends, in singles and multiples, expected and unexpected, at our door!

    Love the idea for your book-it sounds most encouraging for those of us with the fear of hosting!

    • Much as I love hosting parties of all shapes and sizes, I sometimes fall into that NCAMH category, too! I think the key is remembering that our friends and family want to spend time with us – and they’re not judging our homes, our food or anything that might not go according to plan. I hope you have the opportunity to invite some people into your home soon!

  2. I *love* the way you wrap your amazing sense of humor all over your inspiring *and* practical tips. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us, girl! You are amazing. xo

  3. I haven’t read your book, but it sounds great. I have 4 events planned at my house this month. I’m looking forward to them all. The first one was last weekend. It was a blast. The next one is this weekend. It should be fun, too. No my house isn’t perfectly clean, nor is the decor the most fabulous, I ask guests to help with food and we just have an atmosphere of enjoying each other and the season. Last year my house was too small, but that’s part of the charm (we’ve had as many as 18-25 people in less than 1300 sq. ft) and this year we have a new house with plenty of room an a great layout. All our events also include children.

  4. Wow – Your reasons are MINE exactly – ALL of them! I am a very good planner, presenter, and hostess for others and for my job; however, for me? Read the first sentence again :). However, I have been thoroughly convicted by the Scripture admonition (I Pet. 4:9) to use hospitality one to another, of remembering that the best times I had was when my extremely tiny place was crammed with young people sitting on top of one another and not wanting to leave because it was so comfortable and felt homey (18 teens in an 800 sf house). I know many folks who are without and lonely – and honestly, they really don’t inspect my house – they just want fun and to feel like they belong. Thanks for your wonderful reminder!