This week, I encountered several conversations about divorce. Some people who are married view divorce as ‘an easy way out’ or a ‘quick fix’ to a problem. I have to tell you as I heard and read these explanations of divorce, my heart ached.
Here’s why: you will not find a person who will cheer you on in marriage more than this single mom right here. I feel like part of my ministry is to encourage my married friends to stay married.
Divorce is the most intense pain I have ever known.
You suddenly don’t fit in anywhere.
Even the Christian community changes the way that they view you and your life…and your service.
Divorce is not a way out…it’s a way down.
It’s not an easy fix, but a hard brokenness.
I can look over the past two years of my life and provide you with journal entries that prove that divorce sent me reeling to the very bottom. You are forced to face life alone. To start all over and build a new life from the pieces that are left.
Every marriage needs a healing divorced person to encourage them to stay.
I was not prepared for the toll that divorce would take on me emotionally, mentally and physically. It was devastating. The shame that goes along with being a divorced person is enough to sideline even the strongest soul. I wish I would have had someone who had been through divorce to tell me what to expect and champion my marriage. But, for the most part, we suffered in silence, ashamed that we even found our lives at this place.
Maybe your marriage is just fine. Maybe you don’t ever think that you will find yourself uttering the word, ‘divorce.’
Neither did I.
But, if you ever find yourself entertaining the idea of divorce, I pray that God will remind you of this blog post. I pray you will add my email to your address book.
I pray that you will give me the opportunity to talk you down off the ledge of divorce back into a restored relationship. Because I couldn’t very well call myself your friend if I didn’t warn and try to protect you from the pain of divorce. Ask a person who is healing from divorce and I think they will agree…
Carol Davis is often described as “animated." The word means 'alive...full of movement and activity.' Carol's sense of humor combined with her passion to see others come to know Christ and have a dynamic relationship with Him, is a great blend of life and faith. Carol has been in radio...