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Angie is the proud wife of Todd Smith of Selah, and the blessed mommy to Abby, Ellie, Kate, Charlotte, and Audrey Caroline, who passed away the day she was born, April 7th, 2008. Angie was inspired to write Audrey's story, and began the blog www.audreycaroline.blogspot.com in honor of her. You...

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  1. I’m not a wife. And I’m not a mom. But my career is one where I am serving and caring for people (and always on call at that). In my personal life, I find myself retreating — not wanting to get involved, dreading the phone call from a friend. Or I find myself doing as little as possible to meet the needs of the people in my own life. This post is a powerful reminder to me. Or maybe it’s more appropriate to say…a powerful conviction. Thanks, Angie.

  2. Oh my oh my! Thanks for that! Totally needed to hear that. Am currently on a ‘one better’ program (self started). So much blessing in it.’And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.’ Galatians 6:9

  3. This really touched me, infact….I needed to hear this TODAY before facing a situation in which I struggle and I was battling the need to cancel and shrink back…but those two words will get me through today, its a shift of focus! Hopefully I can keep hold of this and apply it in every scenario. Thanks so much for sharing x

  4. Thanks for this encouragement Angie! What a better place we could make our homes and our workplaces if we modeled Jesus love by doing “One Better.” That is the right kind of last word to get in. It very effectively moves the focus from ME to others. I miss you, Jess and Ann so much from the book club. Having a hard time waiting patiently for May 15th!

  5. Beautiful.

    I want to take a brief moment and thank you Angie. You and your husband Todd, by sharing your story of Audrey Caroline, have been of great comfort and resource for my best friend Kristin and her husband Pete. On April 4th, they gave birth to their son, Shai Nelson Hathaway – and for 17 beautiful minutes, loved him in this world and ushered him home to His father. I had the privilege of meeting and holding this handsome boy as well – my “nephew” in many ways. Shai had anencephaly.

    Kristin chose “I Will Carry You” as one of the songs at Shai’s funeral, and continued to find comfort in your faith and the faith of your family through your book and your music. It is no small thing, to bring comfort to other members of the Body. And usually we cannot be aware of how we contribute to the love and peace of God’s mercy. But today, I just wanted to take the time to tell you here, in case you see these comments.

    You have my enduring gratitude and understanding.

  6. Yes. I love this. We CAN do one better, which will lead to another and another… Bless you for this! God is faithful.

  7. You must have been in my house yesterday when I gave my son what for for not doing exactly what I said. I didn’t offer to help him and I’m sure he was probably a little overwhelmed. Thanks for urging me on to do one better for my family and for Him.

  8. “It’s hard to do everything, but it isn’t hard to do one better. . ”
    I love this. Moments of Him clearly noticed in a day where I sometimes can go through the motions and not really take time to see Him at all.
    I need to allow these moments. God calls us to these moments if I listen.
    I will take this with me today. . a beautiful, sunny day in Georgia.
    Thank you for ministering to me.

  9. One better….something I really do need to keep in mind and act upon as a person with little patience. It makes me realize that I need to focus and appreciate what I do have vs. what is not and show that appreciation to the man I married more often. Thanks Angie!

  10. Thank you for this today! Makes me think, I CAN DO THIS. Deciding that we don’t have to wait for the next opportunity to make things good and righteous and special….Do it right away! ~ One Better ~ love it!

  11. Love this reminder. “One better” is so absent in our world most of the time. We would get most peoples attention and have them wonder what makes us different if we practiced this. Thank you for the encouragement today as I go off to work. I will keep those words front and center and hope to make a difference in the environment that God has placed me in!

  12. Angie,
    I love this post. I am going to put a link after one of my posts. This is excellent and exactly what Christ wants us to do. I am so like you in temperament and only Christ can help me get past “I am right” and “do it my way”. I did this so much early in my marriage I would hear “yes dear” every time. For the past 10 years after committing myself to Him, there is less “yes dear”. Thank You, Lord. Blessings on your marriage,
    Jan

  13. okay. this steps on my toes. all of them. thanks for the reminder. the call – to live out life as christ intends, giving our all to those he has put in our lives.

  14. Beautiful words dear sister. Thankful for your gracious reminder and challenge to all of us. We need to move these feet of clay and find this place of freedom in Him.. Freedom to love as that example shown to us each day by Christ.

  15. Every time I get ready to leave a room I asked myself what one thing can I do to make this room look beautiful. Straighten a towel, close a toilet seat, put papers in the recycle basket, put one thing away and by the end of each day the house is looking so much better just by doing one thing. It is the same thing in a relationship…do one better. I will start today. Thank you for the wonderful reminder. susan

  16. I was reading Mark 5:21….. this morning and I hesitate to bring up the passage (I know your story Angie) because Jesus chose to raise the child from the dead—but he did it after he overheard Jarius’ friends tell him to not bother Jesus anymore (regarding healing her) because she had died. Jesus went on to Jarius’ house and did the impossible.

    I don’t no why some are lifted up to live on the earth and others are lifted to the glory of heaven. But I do know that the unbelievers were told to wait outside. Only those with faith really got in on what Jesus was doing.

    Is that not how we are? We think or say, “Why bother?” We laugh because we think we already know the outcomes for our lives and those around us. We live like we have our feet and our hearts stuck in concrete and we have no choices about living out our faith to bless others. How often do I say “Why bother and even laugh that acting on behalf of others could impact their lives in any way that matters?”

    Jesus “one bettered” that day. He set an example for me—for all of us who say we follow him.

    Your encouragement made that passage very practical for me today–to get out of myself and take the steps I must to be the hands and feet of Jesus in this world. How often because of unbelief, am I on the outside looking in? (Oh, me of little faith.)

    Bless you, Angie

    Thanks for the insight Angie.

  17. I like to begin many of my days by “pinning” a verse, saying or motto to it. One of my most used has been “Keep calm and carry on.”

    I love “One Better”! Thank you.

  18. I too needed to hear this beautifully written word of encouragement. I love how one better isn’t a competitive better but an energizing whisper from the Lord. I want that! My local homeschool email group just had a post about praying through your do-list which reminded me of the practical ways we can give our day to God and one better is another. Thank you, God is speaking!

  19. one better. i hope this phrase stays imprinted on my heart. one better. i love that thought. that notion that in every moment we can do, and be, and love…one better.

    “it’s hard to do everything but it isn’t hard to do just one better.” a great thought for a perfectionist like me who often loses sight of what’s really important because i’m focused on checking things off my to-do list.

    one better. that will be me today. and hopefully forever.

    thanks for the inspiration!!!

  20. Perfect. I would stamp “one better” to my hand if I could to help me remember, because oh how I need this. It’s in my nature to not back down when I think I’m right {or know I am}. But it hurts my husband and I to do these rounds of back and forth quarreling, and submission is my daily challenge. I love how you’ve added “one better” to everything else, too. Brilliant. Thanks, Angie!

  21. When the words are true they just slam into the heart. These are such good, true words Angie. Thank you for saying it so well, so honestly so, so encouragingly. You bless sweet girl.

  22. I loved this! Great encouragement, practical application, a phrase to tuck in my mind. Learning how to ask for a Mary heart as well and seeing am aging changes that only the Lord can bring, abundant living. Thanks for writing!

  23. I love this phrase and your examples are so applicable. I heard you today at Women of Faith in Columbus and it was definitely one better. Thank you so much.

  24. How Simple and inspiring. I thought I would just take this wonderful piece of advice and just walk away and put it to use, but I will do 1 better by taking the time to encourage you. You have been gifted by the Lord with a magnificent way of communicating to others and you are using it for the Lord’s glory. God Bless you!

  25. This hit me. It hit me hard. Where I live. It’s funny how God does that, isn’t it!? He knows just where we are and what will get through to us. Such a simple little thing, “one better” but really – so effective. Imagine if we all did just one better. Thank you. Thank you for sharing your heart, your experience, for being obedient to God. For making a difference.

  26. This post was a really great reminder that we can always do one better. It was really something that I have needed to hear. The past week I have really felt that I have just been settling with my decisions and not going one step further. Thanks Angie for a great post.

  27. *tears*
    I’m always up for a challenge- thanks for humbly weighting about how being right doesn’t equate to being happy. True buoy is one better than being right…
    Blessings!

  28. Just terrific! Already taped a post-it note on my computer and am looking forward to the”One Better” way of life!

  29. I just got home from my bridal shower. The women passed around a journal to write notes of advice and encouragement to me on love, faith, marriage, and life as a future pastor’s wife.
    I’m writing “one better” on the next page in the journal- I love it!!
    Thank you for sharing this. I know I will never regret doing “one better” in my marriage (as well as in all my relationships)!

  30. This is fantastic. Your examples are so real and each is something that I would encounter almost everyday. Thank you for this, I believe it’s going to bless my whole family!
    Sherri

  31. How did you know my day was like this? My hubby & I were just discussing showing grace to someone who has hurt us. I’ve also been intentionally avoiding someone because of the work it will take to help out. Now, I see how doing one better can be done in small ways & still make an impact. Choosing one better will make a big – no, HUGE difference. I’m going to talk to my kids about this too. I love the idea of putting up a sign – I need all the reminders/help/coaxing/conviction I can get. I’ve always liked getting the last word, I’m super competitive & I’m a bit of a show-off – now here’s a way to harness all that “weakness” and use it for good. I can one-better the situation & this time, it won’t be self-serving or out of vain conceit – it will be used to leave someone else one bit better. That’s cool. Thanks!

  32. Hi Angie! I just spent the weekend with you at Women of Faith. What a great job you did telling your story! I used many tissues Saturday. We laughed, we cried, and God showed off in you! We were right in your line of vision on “the porch”. I felt a real connection with you! I’m a mom of 5 and a grandma of 5. You felt like my own daughter!!
    Thank you for going to that bible study with your little marked bible and giving your life to the One who loves you best!!
    Blessings,
    Becki

  33. This hit home! I often am irritated with my hubby and kids because they don’t operate on “Kelly time,” which is right now, not in a few minutes. Or even better, wonder why hubby can’t read my mind and just do things with out me asking (fussing).

    Thanks Angie! I needed the wake up call to do one better. That’s not so overwheming.

    Kelly

  34. So glad for these simple words of wisdom!! Thank you so much for such a good reminder. I am just reading this for the first time today and I must say if I’d read it the day it came to my inbox, I am confident it would have helped me avoid an argument with my husband last night. The part about not “backing down” and “one witty comment away from victory” is so me and I really don’t like that part of myself. Thank you for letting me know I’m not alone in this and that it is ok to let him win or apologize even when it is not my fault. Swallowing my pride to do this is always so hard for me but it is part of the surrendering process that is a must. THANK YOU!!

  35. I really needed this today.
    ‘Cause today? I don’t wanna do one better – I don’t wanna do anything at all. Especially not for the one who hurt me. But even if he did? What if I do something better anyway?

    Gonna go put up a note for myself.
    Thanks, Angie.
    Teri

  36. Okay Angie- I can’t get this out of my head! I’m on the fence of being slightly annoyed with how it creeps into my “awesomeness” and how it completely transforms my thoughts in an instant… 😉

  37. Hi. I never comment here but just wanted to say thanks for this AWESOME post. It is so true!! It hit home with me … touched me right in my heart that this is something I could, no wait, should do. Must do. So thank you. Thank you oh so much!!

  38. Angie! This is absolutely precious and I love it so much. I’ve been married for almost 34 years (June 11) to a wonderful man, a pastor. Our marriage & ministry have been so blessed and I’m loving the season we are in…some say “empty nest.” But he will always correct them and say, “it’s not empty…my bride is still here!” We have 3 little grandblessings and I am so thankful.

    Thank you for touching my heart today in such a special way…I can’t wait to apply this to my life.

    Love, Gran Jan

  39. well… that’s certainly a choice i should make more often! thanks for the (much MUCH needed) kick in the pants 🙂

  40. That’s beautiful, Angie! You and Todd inspire me so much. Thank you for posting this!

  41. Hi Angie,,, I really enjoyed this “one better” and hope to try it out,,,I’ve been married almost 40 years, but I can always benefit from great ideas from others! I was blessed to hear you speak at cols, ohio women of faith this past week end! amazing! I knew I would cry, and I did,,,,,,,I lost my baby girl at birth,,,,she was full term,,,7lb,91/2oz,20 inches long,,,,no health problems with her or me,,,,,God just chose to take her to Heaven right away. I was saved as a result of her death,,,,so I now have the assured hope of seeing her again one day! Her name is Danielle Jenay,,,,,,,Thank you so much for sharing. Coni

  42. Hi, Angie!

    I’m actually in the midst of writing a novel – Christian Fiction genre – that looks at this very topic! Your post hit the mark:

    <<>>

    This is the way we regroup! Respond, always, with love and trust God to do the rest, and lead the way forward in ALL ways. God bless you, Angie, and great blog! My husband found it and highly recommended it. 🙂

    • The <<>>> meant to include this quote from your post:

      I did more than one better because as soon as I started going I couldn’t stop. All I desired was to feel like I had built him up and swallowed my own ugly pride.

      Sorry! 🙂

  43. Thank you for sharing this! It was lovely and just what I needed today. I will keep this one for future reference because I know I will need to read it again and again.

  44. This idea has already turned my life around this week! I have 2 yellow post-its that say “one better” around the house – one in the kitchen and one in the bathroom. It’s totally given me encouragement and helped me feel able to take care of my family and my house instead of swamped by the hugeness of it all. Thank you! 🙂

  45. yes, yes, yes! “one better”. this is amazing. why do we always take the path of least resistance? “one better”. i just love it. it could make all the difference in the world. for ourselves and for everyone around us. thanks Angie, for your candor and honesty in letting us into your world, and showing us how God is teaching you! “one better”. it might just change my life 🙂

  46. Uhm, OUCH and AMEN! Thanks for sharing this! I KNOW I can do “one better” in so many areas of my marriage and mothering. Beautifully written.

  47. I have to tell you Angie that this post has made a huge impact on my life. Not just mine, but my dearest friend. You see, she had been hurt horribly at our church last year…her husband was a deacon…people said hurtful things about them…lied about them, and unfortunately they left our church. They came back after being gone 6 months to try and reconclie…to make things right…but every step has been hard. She can’t get past the hurt…lives in that moment everyday. Those old feelings are daily surfaced…and when I read this post…I knew it was for her. I forwarded it to her(after I read it because of Todd’s tweet about it) and she called me sobbing. She said…”I don’t know who this girl is…but she wrote this for me…for me”!!!! It has changed her mindframe…her outlook. Saturday we had our mommy/daughter tea and this just happened to be when all the bashing began…because of this tea party. I could see her stress as she walked in the door…see that this was weighing heavily on her heart. She walked up to me and whispered in my ear and said “one better”…and she turned and walked over to the woman that was so hateful to her a year ago and started a conversation with her! Thank you Angie….my friend is a different person…her joy is slowly coming back and I couldn’t be happier!!!

  48. oh, this is good Angie…sooo good! I want to remember this and do it today. but more importantly I want to remember and do it tomorrow and the day after…God is calling to me “to do one better”.

  49. Angie, I am reading this for the first time today and just want to say thank you. This is what I needed to hear. Your ministry is wonderful. Thank you for sharing your heart for the LORD.