My 3 year old would survive on nothing but crackers if I let her. To say she is a picky eater is an understatement at the very least. She would be the happiest little girl in the world, if only I’d stop pushing disgusting vegetables (oh, the horror!) and chewy meat (oh, urp!) at her, at every dinner. And, well, to be honest, I’d probably be happier too, because then we could forgo the tears, and forced gaging that ensues when we encourage her to eat 3 bites of any meal.
But the reality is, that while her mood would undoubtedly be better, her body would indeed suffer in the long run.
As her mamma, I am more concerned with her health, than her mood,
It occurred to me the other day how this is not dissimilar to how our heavenly Father cares for us. We want “crackers” all day long. But perhaps he says “no”. Maybe he nudges the plate of “vegetables” a little closer, while the “crackers” are getting harder and harder to reach.
How many times have I sought something in prayer, without really knowing, or considering the long-term effects of my request?
How many times have I pushed him for my will be done, not his?
The startling truth is, that I am not so different from my three year old. Sometimes, I am after that which is not ultimately what is best for me. And sometimes, God says “No”.
He loves me by offering up something better, his best, for my best.
When I stop sulking and get down to it, I recognize that his “no’s” are a blessing, a gift, because it means he is sparing me from something outside of his will. No matter what it is I think I want, I want more to be in his will. The awesome thing about God’s “no”, I have discovered, is that really, it is a “yes” to something else, something better. So I give thanks for the “no’s”, reminding myself that Abba knows best and he will provide everything I need to navigate this life.
Learning to accept his “no’s” is not easy. And sometimes, like my three-year old I cry big crocodile tears, and maybe even stomp my pretentious foot at him.
I have to constantly remind myself that while I cannot see the future, He can. And he KNOWS what I need.
And let me just say, It’s not usually “crackers” all day long. I need the fiber and vitamins of the “greens”. I need the “water” that refreshes and nourishes, unlike the milkshake or Soda that provides instant flavor but ultimate weakness to the body. His “no” reminds me that indeed He has a better plan for me. I like to look at his “no’s” as more of a “yes”. It’s a “yes” to something else. And I’m all for that, considering he made the universe, I pretty much trust him to lead the way.
Thank God for the times he says “no”. Give thanks for his ultimate provisions, disguised as withholdings.
And my God shall supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 (ESV)
Where is God saying “yes” to you today?
Do you have the discipline to thank him for it, even if it feels more like a “no”?
By: Kris Camealy, Always Alleluia
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Shannon Wheeler says
Absolutely right-on! It’s such a process to let go of the desire to control or influence where we’re going and to jump with abandon into the perfect unknown of God’s will! He certainly does know what we need and is faithful to use all things for our good as He refines us and burns away the stuff that isn’t Jesus. Praise God for giving us vegetables, right!? I love seeing the parallels between our relationship with our Father and the relationships we have with our kids. The Lord reveals so much of His heart through this!
Traci says
Beautifully written Kris! I loved this: “How many times have I sought something in prayer, without really knowing, or considering the long-term effects of my request?” I so often find I think I’m praying with an open heart when in reality I’m pushing that my own will be done. Praise God for all his refusals. They lead us to his “yes” opportunities. Thanks for sharing your heart. God bless!
Beth Williams says
I, too have had to learn that no means yes to something bigger and better. We, especially women, must learn to let go & let God take over – put Him in control & it shall run smoothly!
I have started asking for certain things even for others & then saying “Your Will be Done”! I’ve finally learned that He does truly know what is best for me in the here and now!
Cara @ WhimsySmitten says
Thank you for this reminder. “No” can be so hard to swallow, and yet, when we can trust in His best, we can be grateful in His wisdom.
Amy says
mmmm….how our Father only wants His best for us!
He’s brought me to a place recently where I am *seeing* His goodness…and thanking Him for *ALL*, even when…
Holley Gerth says
I love that even what looks like a “no” can be a “yes” to our best when it comes from the heart of the One Who Loves Us. In seven years of infertility, that’s something God has reminded me over and over again. Such an encouragement. Thanks!
Krissie says
Oh bless your heart, Holley. What a journey you have been (are) on. Praying God comforts you and gives you his assurances as you continue to seek and walk with him! You are in inspiration!
Krissie says
It is SO hard sometimes isn’t it?! We want what we want, when we want it, I am so thankful that I have a Father who is watching out for my best interrest, and saving me constantly from myself! God is good all the time!! Blessings to you, ladies!
Teri @ StumblingAroundInTheLight says
Oh, the ‘Nos’ are so hard!!
And yet, looking back…
thank you, Lord!
Beautiful words of truth, spoken with grace.
Thanks for that –
Teri
Mandy says
I’m in the middle of waiting for decisions from the grad schools I’ve applied to for the fall. So far, I’ve gotten “nos” from all but two schools. I’m learning to be thankful that He has shown me that those places are not where He means for my family to end up, and I’m anxiously awaiting the Yes!
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