Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence:
and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:
and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time,
that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again,
that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
Sex within marriage can be a touchy subject (no pun intended). There’s no denying that men and women are wired differently; your wants and needs probably aren’t the same as his. Understanding and appreciating these differences is crucial to making your marriage work in this area and honoring your Biblical commitment to your spouse.
For most wives, our #1 passion killer is probably exhaustion. Husbands, on the other hand, seem to have a special reserve store of energy.
For them, it’s important to know that sometimes we’re so mentally and physically drained that we can’t imagine mustering the energy for anything beyond rolling over. For us, we need to realize that sometimes allowing him the chance to prove us wrong can be a very good thing.
Sex in marriage is a powerful form of communication. What do my attitudes and actions communicate? “I don’t have time for you” or “You’re at the bottom of my list” are not messages I hope to send.
Women want to feel emotionally connected first. Men feel more emotionally connected afterward. Understanding that is huge.
Pride and Insecurity
Sometimes what we think are insecurities really mask a form of pride. Am I too proud to initiate, communicate, praise, or bless in this area of my marriage? To be vulnerable?
Being vulnerable in a safe place should be a form of liberation, not shame or embarrassment.
Claim the Blessings
As wives, we have a powerful influence over our husbands physically. To paraphrase, “He wants you to want him.” Revel in it. Flirt shamelessly. If you’re a grown, married woman it’s okay. Really.
Don’t be daunted if you’re always tired and he’s always ready; you may not be operating at the same speed. Although you didn’t realize it, the smile you flashed him from across the room earlier was foreplay from his point of view. He’s just a step ahead of you. Enjoy catching up. Don’t concentrate on how you feel now, focus on where you’re going.
Remember, the man you’re married to is the man you married. He’s still the same guy who swept you off your feet way back when. I encourage you to capture the romance, honor your Biblical commitment, and claim the fullest joy and blessings possible in your marriage.
How do you keep romance alive in the midst of everyday chaos and exhaustion?
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