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I am a girl in love with a God whose Story captivates my soul. My joy is the Sacred Mundane, because the details of life are the whispers of a Savior.

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  1. I, sometimes, want opinions on clothes, make-up, etc. But most of the time I use the saying “If you don’t like what you see, tough God made me that way”.

    • Totally, Jacky–you and I might be cut from the same cloth. But there is hope! I pray you are blessed today.

  2. I couldn’t help but think of my 13 year old daughter who modeled a “new” outfit she put together from her wardrobe. She just showed me it a couple of hours ago before school. I sincerely loved it….she loved it….yet I’m hoping she will still love it when she returns from school today. Your description of the 7th grade girls Fashion Police Brigade is spot on! Once she left our home it doesn’t matter what I thought or what she thinks…it’s all about the evaluation at school…how sad. 🙁
    Your post gave me some beautiful inspiration about the words I can use to guide her. Equally important , it gave me some much needed courage as I venture out into this blogging world. I never realized how much competition there can be if I allow myself to enter into it. Thank you for the life affirming words this morning! You have blessed me.

    • Yes, Kristi! Be brave! You can do it–you have a voice and we’d love to hear it. And I’m praying for your daughter today :), how great if she can get this down at a young age! I bet she looks beautiful.

  3. Amen and AMEN, sister! Receiving Grace to have our own opinion is so freeing! I wrote about it today, too.

  4. Such an important principle. If our expectations are laid anywhere except at His feet, we will be disappointed. We can’t expect our self worth or anything else from anyone except Him. He may use others to supply our needs, but He is always the Source. And when we recognize that, we walk in freedom.

  5. A lovely and thoughtful post. I realized some time ago that I seldom have much of an opinion about anything–instead I depend on others’ opinions to form my own. Your story gives me something to ponder a bit more. Just wanted to point out, though, that the verse you quote from Proverbs is Prov. 16:20, not 20:16. Thanks for sharing.

    • Ha! Thanks for pointing that out Kim! I find it hysterical that Proverbs 20:16 refers to “strange women” in the KJV… I guess I am one! 🙂
      Thanks for your comment–pray you have blessed day!

  6. Kari~
    Thank you (again) for your wonderful words expressed the way I can understand. This is a lesson that I needed to hear and one I pray my girls will understand in the precious years to come.

  7. This reminds me of the quote “Happy girls are the prettiest” … it doesn’t matter what shape or size you are, if you’re happy it brings out a glow that makes you far prettier then the rest.. and I don’t think true happiness can be faked.

    Be happy with what you have. Strive to be your best, sure… but enjoy the creations you’ve made.

    • Amen, Laurie! I read a marriage book recently that said the best way to be beautiful is simply to smile. I’m trying to put it into practice. Amen sister!

  8. Wow, Kari! Your words are convicting this morning. (Especially about not seeking as much affirmation from our husbands as the women in our lives!) Who calls me ‘happy’? I’m a going to have to think on this a little while!

    • Praise God. Yes, I do think some women look for affirmation from their hubbies, but it’s my experience we (gulp) look to each other far too often. I pray you are blessed today in God’s gift of happiness!

  9. What a great word! Isn’t that so true – we women often ‘do what we do’- fashion, makeup,hair,decorate our homes, etc. – for other women. Men don’t really care. They really don’t! I mean come on- do we really care if our hubby’s think we ‘look fat’ in something? No, because ultimately we know he accepts us how we are…warts, fat, no makeup, and all. We’re worried about what other girls think. But why?! It’s SOOOOO silly!!!

    • A-M-E-N KrisDot girl! Here’s what’s telling for me–I look like a slob at home but then if I “go out with the girls” I get all dolled up. What’s with that?? 🙂 Thanks for your thoughts–I pray you are blessed today!

  10. After the Oscars everyone was commenting on Helena Bonham Carter and her weird get-ups, and I thought, “She wears what she wants. I wish I was that confident.”
    Never noticed Leah’s comment in Genesis. How very, very sad.
    Thanks, wonderful post!

  11. Amen!!!! This is so well written and so absolutely “hit the nail on the head” right. I wish it had not taken me so long to “get” this. Now… if I could just teach this to my daughters.

    And when I was reading this I kept thinking of Numbers 13:33 “And there we saw the giants, the sons of Anak, which come of the giants: and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.”

    If we see ourselves as not having confidence, they will think the same.

    • Amen, Sharon. That is a great point. When people are big and God is small, right? I pray your daughters learn from your wisdom and walk in that confidence all their days–and that you all are blessed today. Thank you for your kind words.

  12. This really hit home today. It is so true that as women, we really do crave the approval of other women. My husband asked me why I have page view counter on my blog, I told him I was just curious, but if I’m being honest it is for this exact reason. Validation that if others read my blog it then maybe what I’m saying is good and interesting. Silly, I know, but hard to get past.

    Thanks again, I really enjoyed reading this.

    • Oh Lindsey, yes how I wish I couldn’t relate but I do! 🙂 I will say I do not look at any of my blog stats, ever, just because I know I will get sucked in–it’s too great of a temptation for me to find my worth in that. But we do it in other ways too! I pray we all are freed from this and we can write and blog for His glory and other’s benefit. Bless you for your honesty, girl.

  13. OH goodness…this post hit me like a brick! In a good way 🙂
    I’m a people pleaser, and often fall into this mind set. I am bookmarking this so I can read it every day as a reminder! Thank you so much~

    • Well miss Tracy people-pleaser you are in good company. 🙂 We’re all recovering affirmation addicts, right? But praise God He is growing us daily. I am praying today you are blessed and freed more and more!

  14. So, so true! I need to be reminded of this DAILY. Thank-you for blessing us by sharing.
    Twirl girl twirl!

  15. My sister told me I needed to come over here today and read this and now I know why! My eyes instantly welled with tears and pretty much stayed that way through the entire post. The truth of this hits so close to home and I felt like God was actually speaking to me through your Spirit-filled words! You captured so accurately what we as women so often feel and I am completely guilty of seeking my approval from others so many times…”why didn’t they notice the new rug in my house? Do they not like it? I have a new haircut and no one said anything?”…such a struggle! And yet the evil one wants us to sit in that dark place of self-doubt rather than turn to the Light of the One who created us and knows our innermost thoughts and yet still love us!
    We just can’t have blogging and facebook/twitter be one more medium by which we allow insecurity to creep in. Thank you so much for this today. You have immensly blessed me! 🙂

    • Vanessa YOU have blessed ME. Praise God for His amazing Spirit that breathes on our words and makes them work for His glory. Isn’t He so good to us?? Thank you for what you wrote–it is so true and I pray God blesses you for your tender heart and desire to please Him! Praying for you right now, girl. Now go twirl! 🙂

  16. Kari, what a wonderful reminder for today! Thank you! I want to be happy because HE calls me happy, no other reason. I wonder what I have in the back of my closet…hmm…

    • Caila, you want to know the truth? You do this probably more than any person I know. I have always marveled at the infectious joy and glow that you have about you…because of just being yourself in Christ. Thanks for being an example to me. And, I love you to pieces!

    • Thank you. I appreciated your post on parenting being hard. Thanks for your honesty and praying you are blessed today.

    • Praise God! Isn’t God’s Spirit amazing–He always knows just what we need at just the right moment. Thanks for your words–and bless you today Virginia!

  17. Wow! Boy, did this speak to me! So often I feel like that, wanting others’ opinions on what is right and wrong when honestly, I can figure it out for myself. Thank you for this blog.

    • You’re welcome and oh boy can I relate (obviously). I pray we learn to hear His voice louder than all others! Bless you Susanne!

  18. Wonderful post! Sometimes life feels so heavy and like it’s work and no fun…because I am not being the person God created me to be. I am not enjoying the things that I enjoy b/c the people around me don’t enjoy them. One day God is going to say to me I gave you so many gifts that you didn’t even enjoy and it’s simply b/c I am too concerned about other’s opinions! What a waste of a beautiful life! Thank you for the wake up call! I am about to set out to have some fun 🙂 Thank you for your (in)couragement…that’s exactly what it was 🙂 Blessings!