
I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for. Jeremiah 29:11
When we got married a few months ago, our Reverend told the congregation that I had the biggest smile on my face that he had ever seen. Days after my friends said the same. I was so happy that day…really happy.
For better, for worse
For richer, for poorer
In sickness and in health
Until death do us part
I had heard those vows a thousand times before but never really knew what they meant until now.
My husband and I experienced our “for better, for worse” before we said “I do” and our wedding day was a day of great joy and celebration because those vows really meant something to us.
This time last year we went through one of the biggest trials in our relationship and our faith was really tested.
From the end of 2008 to the first half of 2009, life was bliss. From a romantic proposal by the seaside to a memorable engagement day in May, everything was falling into place. With a September wedding to organise and relocation to a new city, the future looked bright as we prepared to make our lives together.
Then in a moment everything changed.
A routine visa renewal for my husband came back refused. Shortly after, he lost his job as a result. Too many things were happening that we had no control over and we were confused. How could our lives just change overnight!
After a long discussion both families decided it was best to postpone the wedding and my father refused to set a new wedding date with no explanation. We suddenly found our joy plunged into sadness. Outside I was crying, inside I was angry and frustrated.
It’s easy to have faith when times are good, we all know that. But what about when the road ahead looks unclear and you begin to think that God has forgotten to put you on His ‘To Do List’. How is your faith then?
Often I prayed, “Why God, I just don’t understand it all.” It was usually at those times He would lead me to a verse like…
‘I will never leave or forsake you’ {Hebrews 13:5} or
‘My yoke is easy and my burden is light’ {Matthew 11:30}
Life is a journey where we think we have the map but ultimately God is the master planner. Having to trust that His plans are great and that everything was going to be okay was hard but throughout those months we learnt to trust in His faithfulness and promises over our lives. Ultimately we learnt a very vital lesson.
When we are too weak to hold onto God, His strong hands firmly hold onto us.
He tells us in Isaiah 43:2 that:
When you cross deep rivers, I will be with you, and you won’t drown. When you walk through fire, you won’t be burned or scorched by the flames.
What a great promise!
Today everything the enemy took from us God has restored tenfold. The visa…restored. My husband’s job…restored with an even better job and June 26 – an unforgettable wedding day.

For Better for Worse…What a difference a year makes!
How has holding onto Him made a difference in your year?
By Chichi, From Now Till I Do
Hi Chichi – I’m in one of those seasons you’ve described, where I can’t see what’s next. Thanks for sharing your story, it was an encouragement to me today.
Hi Amy,
Thanks for your comment.
These seasons can be tough because you never know when they will end or how they will turn out. Our only guarantee is that by trusting God he will never let us down.
I pray that things will be revealed soon for you.
Stay blessed.
~Chichi
It has made a HUGE LIFE-CHANGING difference. We had a wall of double-standards built up in front of us. We chose to trust God and live honestly before him, and chose not live in fear of man. We stepped out on faith not knowing what God had in store for us. God has been so faithful and has blessed in amazing ways.
Thanks Chichi, this is a beautiful post. (and we share the same anniversary!) Thanks for sharing it with us.
Sharon,
Yay for shared anniversaries!
What a great testimony you have there. It can be tough to stand for what you believe in but God always honours those who honour him. It is all too easy to forget this, but you have a great example of God’s faithfulness!
Keep trusting in Him, He will never let you down!
~Chichi
Yes, what a difference a year makes! It’s so comforting to look back and be able to see God’s hand–even in the hard times. Your story is a wonderful example of His faithfulness. Thanks for sharing it with us!
Thanks Holley for the opportunity!
Joel 2:25 “The LORD says, “I will give you back what you lost to the swarming locusts, the hopping locusts, the stripping locusts, and the cutting locusts. It was I who sent this great destroying army against you.”
I am clinging to this Scripture for years lost due to divorce, years lost with my son because I have to work, etc.
Hi April,
I feel a kinship with you because you are on that long road of uncertainty with no quick or easy answers. Divorce impacts families for many years and has no finality to it…..my parents divorced when I was a baby and I am now 55 and the generational effects continue. However, the results of what happened became the grist of who I am as a person and it is okay. My mom also worked full time when I was growing up, but now I work at a school where I help fill the love tanks of those whose parents work.
Intimacy with Christ is the answer, and daily renouncing self-pity has been my biggest struggle. “Not I, but Christ!”
Chichi,
My husband & I have been where you were. Our engagement, wedding and all went off fine.
During that first year of marriage we dealt with health issues of my aging parents. Unfortunately they got worse – alzheimer’s/sundowners & hospitalizations. It drove us crazy.
Finally in 2009 God took my mother home & what a blessing! Yes I miss her, but not with the dementia & sundowners. Now my father comes with us to church each week & is learning to live alone.
Through it all we depended on prayer & God!
Sometimes things happen and we don’t know why but being able to give it God always helps. Thanks Beth for sharing.
I’m in that season right now!! Learning to depend solely on God…and i remember reaching out to Chichi back in May or so and she was soo encouraging!! I’m continuing to believe that God will work this out for my good..I already feel the victory…
Hey Sandy,
Thanks for your kinds words! All things DO work together for those who trust him.
Will keep praying for you! x
Thanks for sharing what a difference one year made in your life! God is so good to us 🙂
Thanks Allison. ‘This time next year’ is one of our favourite phrases. A lot can happen in 12 months!
Chichi,
Wow! Thanks for sharing your story. Something similar happened to us less than a week to our wedding. We had to find a new venue and much other things too.
“It’s easy to have faith when times are good, we all know that. But what about when the road ahead looks unclear” – Well said.
Thank God that He is faithful even when we are faithless. So happy for you that the will of God came to pass and not of men.
Congrats again.
http://bukville.com/2010/10/15/adey-my-crown-joy/
Thanks Buky.
I read your story and was like wow! Your testimony is so encouraging and how God is moving in your life is so evident. God is always faithful to the end!
Hmm chichi i know what you are talking about… i really understand trust me.. thank you for sharing your experience and yes the devil is a liar.