This October my husband and I celebrated our 25th anniversary. The world will tell you that two kids who married at 18 and 19 years old, had 8 children, and lack financial security don’t stand a chance of making it.
I’ve got a quarter of a century investment that proves them wrong.
If I told you that we’re the world’s two most lovable people and that every day has been roses, I wouldn’t expect you to believe it. The Bible commands us to love our spouses. Would that really be necessary if it was going to always be easy?
Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” That’s a sacrificial love. One of the great blessings of my marriage is a husband who puts my needs first.
“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” ~ Proverbs 31:11-12.
Two pieces of advice: first, pray that God will guide your husband’s decisions concerning your family, and then trust his judgment. It’s okay to seek input from friends and family, just don’t value it more than his.
Second, do not badmouth your husband to friends, family, or in front of your children. My mom warned me never to air marital grievances in front of family; husbands and wives make up, but family will have trouble forgetting. God has commanded your husband to lead his family; while demeaning him in front of others doesn’t negate his God-given authority, you’ll shake his confidence and he’ll question your belief in him.
What about you? Is anyone celebrating an anniversary?
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