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Sarah Mae has a past that would be her present if it weren’t for Jesus. A blogger, author, and co-author of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe, she’s currently writing The Complicated Heart, a book for broken-hearted lovers of Jesus. Learn more at @thecomplicatedheart on Instagram or...

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  1. Sarah Mae you have no idea how much I needed to hear that today! God has touched my heart through your words today in a very real and much needed way!

  2. Very beautifully written. And just what I needed to hear. I struggle with the very same thing. My hubby is the worship leader at our church and we need to be there almost 2 hours early. Some days, I go through the same struggle of “I have nothing to wear” and then we have to drive faster than, well, legal to get there on time. It puts a strain on everyone. And all for what? Because I, ME, couldn’t “find a standard to wear”.

  3. So RELEVANT, SarahMae. Really. I’m so easily swayed by that irrepressible need to “follow the rules” when Christ has called me to freedom… I long to live outside the box, and yet do everything I can to stay within the safety of its confining structure… FREEEEEEEDOOOOOOOM!!! Woohoo! Gotta go dance now. =)

  4. Yah! I just stopped by to check something and I’m all fired up now!
    I think this is going to take some time to fully sink in. I definitely need to take a step back and look at the different areas of my life.
    Looking forward to some new found freedom! Thanks, Sarah Mae and Sally!

  5. Thank you for this, Sarah Mae! This applied to me in my struggle with postpartum weight loss. I am a healthy weight for my height. But I still have 20 pounds to lose to get to the “skinny” I was at before. But does this make me unworthy before God? Or not good enough for my husband, who actually prefers me to be curvy rather than skinny? I need to stop carrying around the extra weight like it’s something to be ashamed of.

  6. That’s great. I’m just wondering what to do when your husband is the one giving you the other standards? How do I submit myself to him without taking on the yoke of slavery?

  7. Without even knowing it, I had judged myself guilty by someone else’s standard. I had condemned myself by that standard and was left feeling like a complete failure

  8. Oh, did I need to hear this today… sometimes it’s hard to find the freedom… to just be… who God called us to be.
    Thank you… God used you to heal today.
    I need to reading your words again, Sarah Mae…
    All’s grace,
    Ann

  9. Very well said! Isn’t that the truth!? I have seen so many suggestions online about what is most important to keeping the house clean etc and it drives me bonkers. Like for many it’s shining your sink. Well that doesn’t do anything for me but make me feel guilty because w/o a dishwasher, the sink is never empty and shining. It just adds stress, something I have enough of. I understand the stress of Sunday mornings. I used to only wear dresses etc or slacks but dress very nice. Now I don’t care. I go in my jeans and I go comfortable unless I feel like getting dressed up. It’s more important that I am there than what I am wearing. Gotta put things into perspective. Unless God demands it, then it’s not necessary.
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  10. I am currently living in Thailand where my three children instantly have an audience because of their blonde heads. I have struggled making them “perform” in public because so many eyes are on us (and sometimes even cameras!), but I, too, am learning that the pressure I put on them to “behave” in public because people are watching is not healthy or helpful. It adds stress and makes me a harsher mom and them more pressured kids–not at all the freedom Christ intended.
    Thanks for the reminder. . .