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Bonnie Gray is the author of Sweet Like Jasmine, Whispers of Rest, wife, and mom to two boys. An inspirational speaker featured by Relevant Magazine and Christianity Today, she’s guided thousands to detox stress and experience God’s love through soul care, encouragement, and prayer. She loves refreshing your soul at...

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  1. Wow…I needed to read this. I have struggled with not having the “fireworks exploding” in my relationship with God. I have felt like maybe my faith isn’t as strong as I think it is because of it. But, my relationship with God is a lot like what you described. I start a conversation with him in the early morning hours while in the shower or while making coffee. I have bits and pieces of time throughout the day where we reconnect. And I talk to him again a night before drifting off to sleep.
    Thank you for reminding me that having a relationship with God isn’t about fireworks and miracles every day. But about cultivating and growing a friendship with the One who knows me intimately and loves me infinitely.

  2. “God could work a miracle every day in my life, I guess. But, then I’d be looking for signs, instead of a friend.”
    That statement hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m not even sure how to respond. Beautiful thoughts.
    He’s my best friend!

  3. Thanks for keeping me company here on Valentine’s Day weekend! It’s nice to warm up here with your thoughts of real life & love. Appreciate you taking time to share.
    @Jami: Sounds like you have a beautiful real, relationship with the “One who knows you intimately and love you indefinitely”! Those bits and piece you described are delectably the mark of a daily walk with an eternal love. Thnx for sharing a peek into that friendship!
    @Claire: Thank you, Claire!
    @Jennifer: Hit me the same way, too. 🙂 Hugs.

  4. God has impressed upon my heart to read Psalm 139 this year-to keep it ever close.One part whispers to my Soul over & over– “When I awake, I am still with You. ” It quiets the thoughts that won’t seem to stop in the night and I know that it’s ok–just rest…He has it all in control. And I am not alone.

  5. @HopeRenewed: Keeping His words close, next to your daily thoughts is beautiful. I like how you took a phrase that spoke to you and made it a love note your read over and again.
    @Kelly: *Stealing* those moments… it is an apt word choice, ‘cuz there are a lot of other time thieves… esp. for us mommies with babies. Hugs.
    @Sarah(GenMom): Thanks, Sarah! Thanks for keeping me company here. Happy love Vday! 🙂

  6. Bonnie,
    This is excellent work. My husband and I, above all else, are best friends. How beautifully you have described this important element of our relationship. Thank you.
    Christen

  7. This is beautiful! What a great reminder of what the foundation of a good marriage is. I loved your comment that “God builds friendship in the lackluster days.”
    After 9 years of marriage and 3.5 kids (#4 due in June) it has become difficult for my husband and I to create moments of romance. For him, it’s when I stop what I’m doing to greet him when he gets home from work and to update him by text message during the day on what’s going on. The little gestures are the ones that mean the most now because we have learned better how to show each other love. It makes me excited for all that we’ll know about each other in another 9 years!

  8. @Christen: Thank you, Christen! Blessings to you & best friend honey. Enjoy your Vday!
    @Melissa: Congratulations to #4 this June! I LOVE how you describe the little moments you’re stealing with your Hubby. It’s the reality of a secret love life, underneath the stress and chaos of little children. 9 years – yeah!
    @Casey: John Gottman’s book has been a great go-to for bringing our marriage back to basics time and again.

  9. Wonderful and thoughtful post. It reminded me of how hubby and I try to touch base throught the little things like notes left in my lunch or a quick call to see how his day is. I so appreciated how you related friendship with God..that just touched my heart.

  10. Bonnie,
    I LOVED these sweet and sacred words. I feel like you’ve helped set my heart in just the right place for tomorrow, Celebrate Love Day! My favorite: Sometimes it’s hard to remember that friendship isn’t just a human affection. It’s a sacred devotion.
    Awesomeness.

  11. @Kristen: Aw, how sweet of you to share Valentine’s Day weekend here together ;). Yeah!
    @Suzann: Thanks for popping in, Suzann – it’s nice to have comp’ny! I hope your VDay is the best and the blessed!

  12. Interesting. I guess this post totally resonates in one way (the human relationship aspect) but in another way really doesn’t, because I don’t see the Creator/creature relationship as being the same paradigm.
    I see the relationship within the Trinity as our example and basis for meaningful friendship- divine example of the type of knowing, fellowship, and love that makes a strong friendship.

  13. I married my best friend. We were friends for a while before we became more than that. We’ve been married for years now, raised our children, and begun to turn gray. Still, it is our friendship that charges our marriage. We simply love spending time together.

  14. For me, it has always been about seeking His presence, to feel His comfort and peace cloaking me for a period of time each day. If my day is such that I don’t have time to spend alone in His presence, I’m bummed out. I may even be a little grumpy.
    Oh yes! There’s grace to cover these times, but I am a selfish child of a King who loves me and is my best friend.

  15. What a lovely article to share with friends – especially those single girls I know who struggle over relationships. Great images.