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Jen Babakhan is an author living in California with her husband and two young sons. She is the author of Detoured: The Messy, Grace-Filled Journey From Working Professional to Stay-at-Home Mom. Jen is also a contributor for Reader’s Digest and Guideposts, and her work has been featured in various national...

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  1. Jen, thanks for this tiny push from a place of knowing–that first step can feel like a drop off a cliff.
    So grateful for God’s safety net of grace.
    And I love this: “We are hedged in His holy protection. When the road disappears ahead of us, we see that He is the way.”

  2. Jen,

    Life changes quickly. I know. This past weekend a friend was out eating with his wife. BAM he had a massive heart attack. Drove himself to ER about 20 miles away. Long story short he had second massive heart attack & died Tuesday morning around 9 am. No other health issues & he was just 82. That road disappeared quickly. Now the wife is left with her family to grieve the loss of a long love affair. I, too, have had detours & really bumpy roads. My aging dad was on hospice when we had to put him in alzheimer’s care at assisted living. The next day he went geriatric psych. Talk about an unknown. How do you deal with that? Like you I stepped up to the plate & had him hospitalized for 1 month in a geriatric psych unit.
    Like you there were days I yelled at God why. Just take him if this is all that’s left. It was a long & arduous battle but we won & he was fine for about 1 year then it came back. This time God chose to take him. You just have to cling to God in these times. He is right there close to the broken hearted. All I know for sure is God was there gripping my trembling hand & crying eyes.

    Blessings 🙂

    • Beth, I’m so sorry to hear of your friend’s loss and your own of your father. Life is full of the unexpected indeed. May you continue to feel His presence! Blessings to you!

  3. Thank you for sharing your story my heart goes out to you to do with your Mum. I so glad you never took your eyes of Jesus through it all. I lost my Mum a years a go in January this year. I don’t know if she was saved. I did pray for salvation. But God helped me get through her being in Hospital I’ll. It was not Cancer she had. I look at things this way. If a person we love is saved and dies of an illness. That God nor God uses the Doctors to heal. We have not lost all. Yes we will miss them this side of earth. But we can still be happy in one way. As they are with Jesus. No more sickness or pain. But bran new bodies. We that are saved will go to be with Jesus will see them again. What a glorious day that will be. They will be so glad too see us. We can give them a great big hug. But I do hope that for my Mum. As you could not tell her she need to get saved. I just pray she said the prayer before she passed away. When my time up on earth I will see her in Glory one day. Sickness like Cancer or any illness when Doctors tell you that your love one not going to get better not nice. But I glad we have Jesus to help us get through it. As it says in his word He will never leave us nor for sake us. And he never does. He sicks by us closer than a Brother or a Sister. My heart goes out to you my sister. Say a pray for you Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xxxx

  4. Your article brought tears to my eyes and refreshed memories. Not only did my Mom pass from cancer, but since her passing, I have been diagnosed twice. The good news is that I learned that when I step up to the plate, God is there guiding my swing with his arms around me.
    Thank you for putting your experience on paper. I will be sharing this with a Woman’s Cancer Warrior Group that I lead.

    • Heidi, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss- but am so encouraged by your faith and strength in Christ through your own diagnosis’. May you feel His continued presence, and I’m praying this blesses your Warrior Group! Cheering you and all of the members on!

  5. This is beautifully written, Jen. As the song says, we’re all just one phone call from our knees – the script we write for our life and the life of our family and friends is so easily erased.
    I spent several years managing a large Neuro ICU in Northern California and would often bear witness to what you’re describing. Those numb and pain-riddled individuals who step to the plate and move decisions forward, even at the most vulnerable time of their lives. It has certainly put my pain and worry into perspective.
    Thank you for sharing this intimate moment and bringing me back (as we face the awful “C” diagnosis yet again) to the hope that our crumbling road has a roadmap.

  6. My heart goes out to you Jen, and your family. Thank you for sharing this beautiful testimony of awareness. An encouragement to all of us to step into moments we’d rather not face. Jesus carries us through… God bless you

  7. My life took a crazy turn , my daughters lost their faith , they said they are fine without god and me they are in their 20,s maybe there is still hope for their hearts to change Philip.3:13 says forget the past move a head. This feels like a death of two people ive loved since birth.