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Now graduated from her role as a homeschooling mom of 8, Dawn Camp devotes her time and love of stories to writing her first novel. She enjoys movie nights, cups of Earl Grey, and cheering on the Braves. She and her husband navigate an ever-emptying nest in the Atlanta suburbs.

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  1. My biggest parenting surprise has been the multi-tiered challenge of parenting teens while loving adult children and THEIR children. There just doesn’t seem to be enough of me to go around sometimes.
    Thank you, Dawn, for strong swimming lessons here as we paddle upstream in a culture that’s sending some very unhelpful messages to our kids.

    • Michele, I’m dealing with the same thing you are: kids in the home at the same time as adult children with children of their own. We just have to make the most of it and know that our older kids understand the demands we have at home. That day will come when the nest will be empty; I don’t want to rush it.

      • I am a 71 year-old grandmom with a 21 year-old college granddaughter. Her maternal grandmom, her mom, and I brought her up in the church. I’ve answered her questions about Christianity when she’s asked why other religions aren’t okay to follow. In January she informed us she no longer believes in God, that she “is” a spirit, that her maternal grandmom (a committed Christian) who died last year is neither in heaven nor hell, but floating around in the universe. Her mom, my son(her dad), and I have gone through the emotions of hurt, anger, and disappointment. Please share what I should do and can do.

        • Dear Maie – Pray for your granddaughter, pray, pray and pray. No arguments, just love and acceptance. Her background and the influence of family and church are still “in” her. While our daughter didn’t become involved in your granddaughter’s behavior, she was sexually involved, had a child at 20 and then continued to live with another man for several months. Only God could have orchestrated how that child was adopted; her new family is part of ours, meaning we connect occasionally and pray for each other. Our daughter returned to the Lord, did mission work in Ethiopia, is now involved with a homeless ministry in her church . God is good and He is in control; Ephesians 3:20.

  2. Dawn,

    Raising children has always been difficult. Living here in the messy middle between two Edens it is more difficult. The culture has so many deceptions that allure them away from their upbringing. God has blessed you moms with an inheritance don’t waste it. Proverbs 22:6 says: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. It is your responsibility to teach & educate your children both worldly & spiritually. This world is so skewed in its views today that young people can get confused & pulled astray from their faith. I’ve heard stories of good parents raise Godly children & when they hit the world they follow its allurements. They forget their training & don’t cling to faith. That is why prayer is so important in raising teens & young people.

    Blessings 🙂

    • Amen, sister! My youngest daughter and her friend were puzzled this week because they heard the phrase “train” a child and were surprised by it. I guess they thought it sounded like they were the family pet. 😉 I explained to them that it’s what the Bible tells us as parents to do, and that yes, they do need training. My (in) post last month was titled To Train Up a Child!

  3. Thank you for the reminder to pay just as much attention to the child who doesn’t appear to need as much.

  4. Thank you Dawn for this article. It is very difficult raising two boys ages 10 and 13 in this society. I am thankful that they are recognizing the skewed world. Just for example the kids choice awards on television had a rapper perform in front of all the kids. The rapper was apparently swearing in his song because the tv was bleeping out some of the lyrics. My boys were surprised and very disappointed how bad judgement on the producers of the show in allowing a performing to be swearing in front of the children. I continue to pray for them daily and I ask God to help me to be a better Mom. I know He is the one who loves them the most and I trust Him to protect and guide my sons. I also pray if they make bad choices that they would get caught quickly. The hormones are the toughest thing to deal with these days. I pray for God to help me love them even with the outbursts from both sides.

    • The one day a week school program we attend (my kids are in classes and I help teach them) has a yearly social event for high schoolers: cultural event, dinner at a nice restaurant, dance. This year they have assigned escorts in boy/girl pairs. They don’t have to spend the evening together, but the girls should let the boys get doors for them and their chair at dinner. I told the girls in my class not to give the boys grief, that it was important to learn to do these things and for them to be able to receive it. I think it helped. Blessings to you and your boys!

  5. I have heard several people mention Girls of Grace and the link doesn’t work and I couldn’t find anything anywhere that they are still doing this. Sounds like a great opportunity that I would love to take my daughters too. I don’t think we can immerse them enough in Christian events, surrounded especially by other women and teens modeling Christlike behavior.

    • Christy, you’re right. This is from my archives here from a few years ago. I found their Facebook page and they are referring people to Sadie Robertson’s Live Original event, which I’ve taken my kids to the last two years. They loved it. Sadie has some good things to say and kids listen to her.

  6. I am a single mother of a young daughter. It’s so important for me to know that she is loved and protected by God and me. I know that not being in a relationship with her father was the right thing because he was abusive and I don’t want that modeled for her, but I worry about how she will be affected later in life.

    • Elizabeth, it sounds like you made a wise decision to protect your daughter. Pray for other males in her life, like a grandfather or family friend, who will show her she’s valued for who she is, but never underestimate the power of your words. When she’s older she will better understand the choice you made on her behalf.

    • Praying for you Elizabeth as you raise your young daughter, grateful she will not grow up in a home with abuse, and while that means not having a Dad, praying that God will use godly men to influence her life as she grows.

  7. I am a mother to two teens, a preteen and a preschooler. And I just can’t seem to get a break, we’ve been having all the high school and jr high troubles. If it’s not one kid rebeling it’s the other. I’ve had many heart to heart conversations with my children especially my daughter but I feel that everything I say goes in through one ear and comes out the other. I feel emotionally and mentally exhausted from all this but I will continue to be their prayer warrior. I know that God is in control and He loves my children more than I do.

    • We do listen, even if we don’t pay attention until years later. Thank you for persevering, Fabi, because you really are having a HUGE impact on your kids’ lives. They archive those heart-to-hearts, and they secretly love you, even if they’ll only tell you when you give them food, or maybe not ever. You’re so right: God is in control and He loves your children more than you do, infinitely more. Sending hugs and prayers.

  8. Yep, that all sounds about right. I’m weird; I like things designed for parents, but I’m a teenager myself. We want to be listened to, and we want you to be real with us. Acknowledge your brokenness, because we know by now that our parents aren’t perfect angels who get it right every time. We want you to stand by us and talk with us about normal, geeky stuff (at least my friends and I do, maybe not other people). Don’t overlord our lives, but be there, because we really secretly do want you as a friend. Dawn, your devo was amazing, and it’s honestly good to be reminded that my parents care about me outside of telling me that they love me and taking care of me and being my friend, even though I know that (There’s nothing you’re doing wrong, Mommy). 🙂 😛 Thank you!!