Last night I spent a couple hours with three ladies from my small group. We’ve known each other for several years, and recently we’ve decided that dedicating one night a month to adult conversation is a necessity. No whining or interrupting allowed – unless it’s done by someone over the age of 10!
Though we attend the same church and have the same basic values, we still have less in common than we do differences.
- Two of us love all things social media, while two of us think that Twitter is “for famous people.”
- Three of us have strict, by-the-book Type A personalities while the other is blessed with a more laidback approach to life.
- One of us is pregnant and wants several more children, two of us are finished with having kids, and one of us is scared to death of another high-risk pregnancy.
- Two of us detest cleaning, while the other two vacuum every day. (Okay, maybe they don’t. But I think they do.)
- One of us does Pilates, one of us walks and one of us (Ahem.) likes to pretend that watching So You Think You Can Dance is actual exercise.
- One of us is getting her master’s degree, one of us just started a business and one of us is quitting her job in a few weeks.
- One of us loves her dog, one of us considers her cats family members, and one of us is against pets of any kind.
- One of us homeschools her kids, two of us were sad to see their oldest children start preschool, and one of us sends her child to daycare.
- One of us blushes at dirty jokes, and one of us quotes Anchorman on a regular basis.
- One of us listens exclusively to contemporary Christian music, and one of us loves classic rock.
- Two of us grew up in small towns, one of us grew up in the city and one of us isn’t even from this state.
- Two of us started dating our husbands in high school, one of us knew her husband in high school but didn’t date him until college, and one of us met her husband (while in high school) online.
And the list could go on. But the beauty of our friendships is not how many unique characteristics, tendencies and preferences we don’t share. It’s the things that we have in common that bond us together.
- It’s our love for our husbands and children.
- It’s our love for God and our desire to serve Him and know Him.
- It’s our church membership and our dedication to finding our place in that body of believers.
- It’s our stage in life, our day-to-day frustrations with life and our dreams for our lives.
In the end, it doesn’t matter if one of us watches Big Brother or scrapbooks or has brown hair or drives a minivan. What matters is that we love each other, we accept each other and we have a whole lot of fun eating greasy appetizers and ice cream one night a month.
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